A question to littles...

[PartyAnimal]

As a Daddy I know that I serve in the role of the caregiver.  As such it is my opinion that my role includes providing the following: 1) Love and Support. I know suggest the term "Unconditional love" and I know what they mean by that, but I know on no human who has ever provided unconditional love.  As one who believes in his babygirl even more than she does, there are times when I need to address negative things in her life.  This is actually loving her, but it doesn't always feel like it to her at the time.  2) Primary Protector.  I strive to be a safe harbor for her in times of stress and worry.  When there are dangers in her life, I try to point them out to her and offer her advice on how she can steer clear of the possible hurt.  3) Confidant/Emotional Sactuary.  She is, bar none my very best friend on the planet.  We each know so much about each other that no one else knows.  I live for when she confides in me.  4) Mentor and Teacher. It is my responsibility to lead her by example as well as through instruction.  She is an extremely capable lady in her own right, but there are places in her life where she holds herself back from being the even more amazing lady I know she really is.  It is my role to help her heal in these areas so that she can grow into her full and beautiful potential. 5) Discipline. This is not my favorite area, but there are still times when babygirl is inconsistent in her actions, acts out of fear, allows herself to be manipulated, or simply behave is ways that are not in her best interest.  In such times in which encouragement is not enough to bring about healthy decisions, discipline is necessary for the growth of the relationship. 6) Dependability.  A little needs to know that you are always going to be around for them.  I take this seriously, even to the point of being ridiculed for being so at times.  7) Physical Attention.  This is different in every relationship, but in any relationship where this is a part, it is the Daddy's responsibility.

 

 I clearly recognize that the Daddy has the lion's share of the responsibility for the relationship.  What I want to ask is, "What, in your experiences, are the roles/responsibilities of the Babygirl?  What does she she bring to the relationship?"  Please hear me correctly.  I know I Daddy's receive benefits.  I am simply seeking the perspectives of others who are littles.

 

Thanks for your feed back in advance. 

[Daddy's Meg]

Everything you mentioned above except disiciplarian and teacher. It's a littles responsibility to do be that soft place for a Daddy to fall.

 

You get what you give, little or not.

[PrincessClara]

I love this post! here is what I feel a baby girl should provide to her Daddy 

 

1) Love and Support: Echoing what you said about your role as a Daddy it is equally important for a Baby Girl to provide love and support to her Daddy. As strong as he is, he is still a fragile human and sometimes the world can be too much. It is my job as his Baby Girl to make sure that he feels the love I have for him. It is my job to make sure when the world becomes too much that I offer plenty of support; be that with extra snuggles, words or whatever he needs to feel better. 

 

2) Confidant/Emotional Sanctuary.  He is, bar none my very best friend on the planet.  We each know so much about each other that no one else knows.  I live for when he confides in me. It is my job to make sure that he knows he can lean on me even though I'm the sub/little...I am still a grown up and can still be a rock for him sometimes too. 

 

3) Behavior: It is important that I am on my best behavior as much as I can be. I know that it's part of his role to correct me when I stray, and it is mine to be his good girl so I make him proud. I should not act out to get attention, but rather should voice my needs to him so he can provide for me. Daddy likes having a well behaved girl that he can show off to the world. 

 

4) Dependability: Again this echos what you said in your OP. It is my job to make sure that my Daddy knows I'm here for him. Daddy needs to know I'm always here for him no matter what. That means following through on my promises, not being a flake and answering calls/texts etc as soon as possible. If i'm busy, I should let daddy know so that he does not worry. It only takes about 5 seconds to send a text letting him know what's going on.

 

5) Physical Attention:  I feel this is both the Daddy and the Baby Girls job. Yes Daddy needs to take care of me, but he should not be the only one to initiate. This will leave him feeling undesirable or unwanted. I have to make sure to pay attention to him too, this kind of goes hand it hand with items #1 and #3. 

 

 

I feel like I'm leaving things off, but this is a good baseline for what you are asking for 

[PartyAnimal]

HisPrincessBrattyFace,

 

I have reached my limit for "likes" today (although I didn't know there was a daily limit), but if I hadn't I would have liked your post with great enthusiasm.  Instead I'll just like it tomorrow!  I have great appreciation for the though and thoroughness in your response.  This is exactly (in my humble opinion) the type of interchange that I feel helps all of us in the community.  A thousand thank you's.  Daddy's Meg, I also appreciate you taking the time to comment and for getting the responses started.  Please everyone, keep the responses coming.  I really do value your input. 

[Guest MCLOveDOlly]

I do feel however, there are two sides in every situation.

Edited June 13, 2017 by MCLOveDOlly

[Princess-P]

To be perfectly honest my Daddy and I are equals. There's no discipline in our relationship because I'm grown and have no mental disorders so I know how to make rational and logical decisions and how to behave appropriately.

 

However most of what you spoke of as a Daddy's role is also a role for the little. We encourage each other, protect each other, stand up for each other, and care for each other physically and mentally.

 

I feel like the responsibility for each partner is the same. The weight does not and should not always fall on the caregiver.

[*Firefly*]

littles should offer pretty mch everything the daddy offers, although it is often given differently. for example, where a daddy protects a little from her fears by cuddling/soothing/etc, a little protects their daddy by giving them a light at the end of the tunnel, if you will. they show the goodness in the world and the purity. if a daddy has a stressful day, they can come home (or however they see their little) and be paraded with love and respect that they may not feel in the outside world

 

i dunno if this helps but yeah 

[Guest BabyG]

I love this post! here is what I feel a baby girl should provide to her Daddy 

 

1) Love and Support: Echoing what you said about your role as a Daddy it is equally important for a Baby Girl to provide love and support to her Daddy. As strong as he is, he is still a fragile human and sometimes the world can be too much. It is my job as his Baby Girl to make sure that he feels the love I have for him. It is my job to make sure when the world becomes too much that I offer plenty of support; be that with extra snuggles, words or whatever he needs to feel better. 

 

2) Confidant/Emotional Sanctuary.  He is, bar none my very best friend on the planet.  We each know so much about each other that no one else knows.  I live for when he confides in me. It is my job to make sure that he knows he can lean on me even though I'm the sub/little...I am still a grown up and can still be a rock for him sometimes too. 

 

3) Behavior: It is important that I am on my best behavior as much as I can be. I know that it's part of his role to correct me when I stray, and it is mine to be his good girl so I make him proud. I should not act out to get attention, but rather should voice my needs to him so he can provide for me. Daddy likes having a well behaved girl that he can show off to the world. 

 

4) Dependability: Again this echos what you said in your OP. It is my job to make sure that my Daddy knows I'm here for him. Daddy needs to know I'm always here for him no matter what. That means following through on my promises, not being a flake and answering calls/texts etc as soon as possible. If i'm busy, I should let daddy know so that he does not worry. It only takes about 5 seconds to send a text letting him know what's going on.

 

5) Physical Attention:  I feel this is both the Daddy and the Baby Girls job. Yes Daddy needs to take care of me, but he should not be the only one to initiate. This will leave him feeling undesirable or unwanted. I have to make sure to pay attention to him too, this kind of goes hand it hand with items #1 and #3. 

 

 

I feel like I'm leaving things off, but this is a good baseline for what you are asking for 

 

 

This is so cute and I cant agree with this more! 

 

I don't like to speak too much for my daddy; we're in a non monogamous LDR,  and he often says that when I'm around he's far less stressed, more content and that being a caregiver giving me a routine in turn gives him a better routine to also take better care of himself which is nice. I like to think that I'm there for him when he needs and confides in me a lot and never forget that Daddies need all the cuddles too   Physically, I please him as much as possible when we're together and I know that he wants to do the same for me, so that side always goes really well.