Feelings of isolation....

[Guest Baddaddy]

Hello, I just wanted to see if anyone else finds being a daddy without a little very solitary like me? I've had one relationship with a little and one with a middle, but both of those were when I lived back in the UK and it was easier for me to find people who thought the same way as me. Now I'm living in Australia and I'm finding it hard to make any new friends, let alone people who are into the ddlg scene. It's so very frustrating and I feel very isolated. Just wanted to know - are there other people in similar situations, and if so, how do you cope/make new contacts? Thanks everyone! Edited June 7, 2017 by Baddaddy

[submissiveboyjimmy]

I'm not a daddy but I feel isolated often, I think mine is more self imposed though because of certain mental health issues.  I think it can be hard to connect with people for a number of reasons, if you're shy, if you're introverted, if you have social anxiety, the number one best way is to get out there and talk to people even if it's only to say hi and smile at someone.  Set goals, try to talk to 2 new people a day, ask questions, be genuinely interested in them!  Obviously I don't take my own advice lol but I put a lot of work in when i was younger.  I did this years ago to over come my social anxiety, I'd dare myself to start convos with people, I start out simple, I'd go out a few times a week and ask people the time, I'd walk up to someone, smile, and say "how are you doing, do you know what the time is?"  I progressed from there, asking people questions in stores, the key is to observe and then ask questions, try to get them to talk as much as possible without annoying them, also joking is huge, try to get them to smile or laugh, I'd shy away from things like religion or politics, two big things are learning to smile and getting people to laugh.  Try to get out of your head if you're introverted and pay attention to body language!  I use to tell myself things before walking into a store to buy food, "I'm going to make someone laugh", then kind of forget about it but keep a certain type of pressure on myself.  Another big thing is don't get discouraged!  You can bomb out but it doesn't matter, tomorrow is a new day and you can always try again, the biggest thing is to keep practicing!!  Push yourself to improve but at the same time be yourself!  Join clubs of anything you're interested in.  Try to push yourself outside your comfort zone, if something bothers you, do it, that's how we grow, and it will make your feel great about yourself once you start making small landmarks.  I did this for a while and honestly it takes a lot of energy but it's yours if you want it.  Feel free to message me if you have any questions.

[Guest blumonkey]

there have been some posts from melbourne (I notice, because I lived in a Melbourne in the US) and others in AUS. 

 

been a few months since I had a little under my wing. at first I avoided places we had been, until I started vanilla dating and went there on purpose to replace the memories.

 

solitary? do that thing called... life. you will find friends when you go out and do things you like doing.