Desperate Little In Need .... cont.

[Guest PrincessK<3]

I guess things between Daddy and I have gotten a little better. He apologized the very next day (after I begged him to) but it was the sweetest apology ever. It's just that now, we still argue more than ever. I don't get it. Things used to be great with us. We've just hit a really, really rough patch. What can I do to make up for it? Or what can I do for daddy to ease things between us a little bit?

[Guest gentille_dove]

he apologized sweetly and then things got worse. oh doll you’re in a bad spot, this is how abuse works. they’ll apologize and then things go right back to how they were, bad if not worse. things might have been great at one time but they don’t always stay that way. i wouldn’t call this a rough patch, i’d call this a bad situation which can leave you seriously hurt. one thing to keep in mind, it is not your fault. there’s nothing you need to do for him because you don’t owe him anything. i’d confide in someone close to you in your life about what’s going on and see where to go from there. 

best of luck to you. 

[LilPetPet]

Hi!

I'm new so i don't know you or the backstory to this post. Maybe Gentille_Dove knows your situation, but from just this post i could not cry "abuse!".

If you need someone to talk the whole thing over with and to offer objective advice, i am happy to help.

Praying it all works out!

❤pet

[Himedere-Chan]

Since me and probably the other people who've commented don't know or fully understand the whole story I will not say it is abuse, innocent until proven guilty.
I would like a link to a previous post of this problem or a full story of the situation.

[Guest PrincessK<3]

Previous Post:

 

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/21276-desperate-little-in-need/?do=findComment&comment=110898

[LilPetPet]

Thanks for the link, hun!

Honestly, it worries me that he treatens to leave you. That is not at all healthy in a relationship. God designed our relationships to be secure marriages with faithful commitment so that we could feel safe in our love.

Also if he is using that "I'm leaving you" to manipulate you...not good. It goes beyond childish behavior from him and is emotional abuse.

Maybe you guys need some time separated from each other. I would definitely encourage you to find another place to live if you can until he is willing to truly commit to you in marriage, but only AFTER you are sure he has changed from this unloving behavior. Prayers!

I'm always here if someone needs to pm.

Edited June 7, 2017 by LilPetPet

[Guest PrincessK<3]

Hi I think I didn't really explain it to well. He isn't really threatening to leave. I mean, he has ended it before but we made up. We just moved in together. At the end of pur lease, he's moving to California and that'll be when we're over. I just thought he would take me with him. I'm not sure if it makes a difference or not.

[Guest PrincessK<3]

And I actually left for a week, but we still talked almost every day and that's how most of our arguments occurred. He's a really good man. Sometimes, things just are bad for no reason. I don't know why or what's going on. And we're not in a relationship. Well, he is my daddy but he's not my boyfriend. And I know marriage is out of the question. He said he doesn't see anything serious with me as far as a real relationship and doesn't see a future with me. That's kinda how this all got started.

 

But thank you guys so much for the advice! I could still use a friend or someone to talk to.

Edited June 7, 2017 by PrincessK<3

[LilPetPet]

Well, PrincessK I love making friends! I'll send u a request if I didn't already ❤

[TeddyBearDaddy21]

Hey there princessK. I'm sorry to hear about your situation and I think you should take what dove said into consideration. I've seen it before and it's not a life worth living when all you do is make yourself miserable for a slimmer of hope that things could be like it was in the beginning. You'll end up over stressing yourself or getting badly hurt. In this situation I'll recommend that you take a good look at your current situation and think about what's best for you. If you want some advice about moving forward then I'll say that you should take those pleasant experiences and the knowledge you gained from them to find what you want in life. Hopes you two can talk things over calmly. Arguing over the matter will only make things worse. Edited June 8, 2017 by TeddyBearDaddy21