New Daddy needs tips?

[DamonJAO]

Ok so.. For about two years the whole idea of a Dd/Lg relationship has intrigued me. Due to a semi-recent break up I've decided to aim for this type of relationship. Now obviously I've read a lot about the subject, but I was wondering if there are any Care givers or even littles that have some tips. Thanks

[LittlePupRune]

I would give some but I'm not sure what you already know, so it's gonna be pretty vague.

First off, communication, communication, communication. Can't say that enough. My little and I make sure we have deep discussions often in order to keep us solid. Its something you need to take seriously and keep consistent. CG/l isn't some magic where a relationship is going to be easier because you both like cgl, its going to take a shit ton of work since it opens you up completely to another person in ways you aren't used to. 

 

Don't be afraid to suggest new things or try new things. At first I wasn't sure how I felt about sippy cups, but now I like them since they emphasize some aspects of our dynamic. 

 

It is ok to not fit the typical "caregiver" image or not want to do it just in the bedroom or 24/7. You know your preferences and so work within those. I'm a daddy to my little but I'm not one of those "domly doms" that are often the common idea of what a daddy is. I'm quieter in public, don't like to be the center or the driving force, I will step in and lead if I see a need, but I don't have a desire to be the group leader all the time. So don't feel a need to change yourself to fit an ideal.

 

I highly suggest trust exercises, either written or active. It just helps cement the trust in the relationship.

[DamonJAO]

Thank you.. Thats really helpful

[Guest Kitkat47756]

Little's Perspective: being a Daddy is reeeaaallllyyyy hard. There are days when your little will be extra bratty, whiny, or frustrating for seemingly no reason. On those days, it's important you show us lotsa love. Yes, we still need you to discipline us. Yes, we need you to follow through on punishments. But we also need to know that you still love us. Remember that you're our Daddy, and its your responsibility to guide us. We need you. 

[Guest Mr.Stuffykins]

So, my main advice to you would be to get into a similar mindset as if you were taking care of a baby. In both cases you need to be gentle, affectionate, caring, guiding, stern at times, supportive, and most importantly patient. You need to take your time with things and never NEVER rush or pressure her into something sexual - especially when she is in little space. In most cases little space is a sort of safe haven. When you forcefully try to sexualize this aspect of the relationship you're basically saying that you dont respect her boundaries. Unless she states otherwise and tells you shes completely okay with it then please dont even try. Most littles are looking for someone that will take care of them and will give them tons and tons of love. Focus on the loving part of it first and talk to her about how comfortable she is doing the things you want. If you going into this type of relationship, or any relationship really, with an emphasis on the control and demanding characteristic of it then you will alienate yourself from most littles. I have been in this community for about four years and I can tell you that the surefire way to scare off a little is by treating her like a sex toy. I'm making generalizations here and am speaking for what I think most littles want. Of course there will always be exceptions and some littles might enjoy a higher level of eroticism than others, but its your job to get to the point that she is comfortable doing those things with you. Be patient, be loving, be exactly what comes to mind when you hear the word "daddy". Spoil her, baby her, care for her, she is your little baby princess and demands a higher level of affection/attention than your traditional relationship. 

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I wish you much luck and wish you all the best

cheers 

Edited June 7, 2017 by Stuffykins

[DamonJAO]

Thanks everyone..