Too Bratty?

[Guest littlelife]

So forgive me if there is already a topic on this. But I needed some advice. My boyfriend (I'll explain why he isn't Daddy in a sec) and I decided a couple of weeks ago or earlier to finally bring our relationship to DDlg and I was absolutely ecstatic over it. I begged for my rules and promised to be the best little I could possibly be to him. But after less than a week of him not really give rules just chores to do around the house (I did them and took them seriously), I asked him for more rules that more or less extended to our relationship that wasn't chores. And he told me I am too 'bratty' and I'll never be able to be a little.

 

I've been feeling fairly discouraged and since have refused to refer to him or even call him Daddy. He keeps telling me that if I were less of a brat that he would take this more seriously but I've told him that there are other bratty littles out there and their daddies seem to handle them just fine. I am not quite sure what to do considering this is what I've been asking for from him for a while now. I need some advice, mostly for him on how to handle a 'bratty little' and not be a meany. And for myself, because I am feeling abandoned and still fairly discouraged about being little. I haven't even had little time since said talk......

Edited June 5, 2017 by littlelife

[Nel-Chan]

I don't believe in such a thing as too Bratty.  What a good Dom/Daddy would do is know when their Little/Sub is testing how far they can go with being a brat, disobedient and such things and utilize proper punishment to "correct" us into being good for a  good while.  It just seems like your Boyfriend has little interest to take you seriously and to work with you on enforcing some rules you both could agree upon.  Maybe he's too stressed or tired to have the energy to do this sort of thing, but he's only said that you're too much for him to handle (essentially).  So, I dunno, if he isn't willing to work out some kind of half-way point to make this work for you, then I dunno what to tel lyou

[Princess-P]

Being a brat has little reflect on weather or not your a good little. However some people can not handle that type of behavior.

 

There is also such a thing as wrong time wrong place for bratty behavior. For example if your boyfriend is super tired from working all day or maybe having a lot of stress related mentally exhausting days then you need to ease up on the bratty behavior.

 

However, that being said, this situation sounds like he's either not Daddy material, has no real interest in CG/l, or you have not sat down and openly and honestly explained what you want from him, not as a little, but as 2 adults in an equal partnership.

 

Whatever the case may be, you dont change who you are for anyone but you can't make people accept you either. If he's not interested in a bratty little then there's no advice anyone can give on how he can handle you. Being your partner he should know what works vest and beyond that you yourself know what works vest for you. Tell him. If there's no change accept this dynamic isn't for him.

[Daddy's Meg]

I suggest having a real sit down with yourself. Is he right? Would you follow rules, or do you want them just to test them? Always check in on yourself. Once you've done that, you should have another conversation with him. If he doesn't want a brat, that's his right. You two have to negotiate something that will work for you both. I'm not sure not calling him Daddy is really a fair thing, because being a Daddy doesn't have anything to do with making rules and it may just hurt things more than than help. I can only speak for my experience, if I stop calling Daddy by his title he just gets insulted, hurt and angry. It kind of backs up the "brat" title more than helps your cause.

 

I hope you try to compromise through it.

[Guest Kitkat47756]

You do need to negotiate with him on what you guys want but I'm a lil bratty and Daddy finds it cute/endearing. He knows to praise me when I'm being good and discipline me when I'm not. Some of us just need a little more structure and rules than others. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm still a little, even if I don't always follow the rules perfectly. 

[Guest DaddyDean]

As a Daddy, the above advice you are getting is right on.  No little is always going to be good, and no little is going to be too bratty.  The key (for me) is to find a happy medium that allows for all facets of the littles personality to shine.  Always being good is well not all it's cracked up to be and a little who is always "bratty" generally need to have their attention focused on other things or they want something such as more structure, a punishment, play time etc..  The truth of the matter, is he needs to do some self discovery and see if he is strong enough to be a Daddy.  It is NOT an easy endeavor and one that should not be taken lightly.  Good luck and keep asking questions.

[PartyAnimal]

Simply another voice echoing what you have been getting in response to your question.  Communication is key, but don't try to make your boyfriend into something that he isn't.  Here is an idea that worked with me when my little realized I was Daddy material long before I did: Over time she consistently pointed out and praised naturally occurring attributes in me that were attributes of a good Daddy.  She didn't specifically say, "...and this is an attribute that would make you a good Daddy."  She just subtly but consistently  reinforced what was already me.  Over time, and with additional learning I grew past my misinformation of the lifestyle and was willing and able to embrace my true self.  

 

She adds, "There is much to be learned and understood by both people in the relationship before a mature decision to go forward in a DD/lg relationship.  Slowly feeding him information on the lifestyle, while expressing that this is a genuine want and need in your life, rather than a passing fad is important.  It definitely does take time and effort.  It is not merely a matter of brattiness and rules.  Ones' heart, mind, and soul needs to be in it and open to it."

 

Since she has helped me discover that I was a Daddy all along, there is an energy and excitement in me to discover how to be the best Daddy to her that I can be.  I am far from perfect, but I am constantly learning and growing and looking forward to each new day with my babygirl!

[chubbylilwolfcub]

There is no such thing as being too Bratty. Some Daddys and Doms prefer perfectly submissive littles who do exactly as they are told without trouble. There is nothing wrong with that preference. However, to say if you weren't so Bratty he would take it more seriously is down right rude. It's not okay to try to change or mold people into what you prefer. Don't let him try to change you in anyway. Bratty littles are wonderful.

[Guest littleloveslars]

Im going to play devils advocate here and say that there is in fact such a thing as too bratty. But there are different kinds of brattiness. Being playful and mischevious can be viewed as bratty. Being snotty and disrespectful can also be viewed as bratty. In a DDlg dynamic a strong part of a Daddy persona revolves around feeling respected. Are you helping your Daddy feel respected? Or is he using the name calling "brat" as a means to escape a lifestyle he really isnt comfortable in? While you might need structure and rules, he also has needs. I suggest you both discussing and writing out those needs and finding ways to satisfy them. I would encourage you to watch your words and actions, and to catch yourself if your playfulness becomes disrespectful. Good luck!

[Daddy_Shaw]

In my book, being a brat is expected. It's a cry either for attention or just because they need to vent feelings they've built-up over the hours they've been adults, dealing with adult stuff. 

 

A daddy should take his little for what they are and deal with them appropriately. If they just need to release energy, then take them for a walk or wrestle on the floor with them .Pin them down and tickle them till they pee their diaper. Something! If they're purposely being bratty then they probably just want your attention. Or they're craving your 'authority'. Yes, sometime littles like to have authority imposed on them by someone they trust. The point is, put them in time out, spank their cute little butt, do SOMETHING to give them the attention they're clearly craving from you. 

 

Just like having a real child, regardless of your little's behavior, you can't just sit back and let them go, you have to be INVOLVED.

[DaddysBeta]

If he tries to suppress that side of you or cannot accept that as part of you being a little then this whole relationship would not be satisfying for the both of you anyways. I can be bratty of demanding and my daddy knows how to put me in check or identify the underlying reason for it. There is no easy way out by just forbidding that behavior

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

As a lot of the others have said.. Some CGs are into the bratty behavior - As the sub of a Dom who is absolutely NOT into the bratty stuff I can say they do exist! As others have said, Maybe he isn't into the CG thing, Maybe your expectations and his arent the same. This is why negotiation is so crucial. Sit down and talk and hopefully you guys can work this all out