Relationship homework help

[Lokilove]

Not sure if this is right place to post this, but this is where I got the idea for it so figured maybe it was.

 

Me and my SO have been together for 17yrs and are needing to work on our relationship, and reading a lot of the posts here that express the need for total openness and honesty gave me the idea of doing homework worksheets that we can think about and fill out over a few days and then go over them together. I got the idea for something to help an older couple reconnect and reconcile, but I think newer couples doing the same thing earlier in their relationship could make it the strong kind that will last longer because of it. Not to mention being a healthier happier one as well.

 

The only thing is I can come up with a few ideas for some of the worksheets and some general ground rules for doing them, but I was hoping the Daddies and Littles here with more experience in this type critical thinking about thier relationships could help me find more. So any and all suggestions are welcome, just please make them helpful or constructive.

 

Ground rules for all sheets

1. All answers must be 100% honest even to yourself (no sugarcoating or shying away)

2. Take the time needed to make sure the answer says what you mean it to

3. You may feel anyway you do about the answers, but you're not allowed to attack or rebuke the other because of it. These are designed to find the truth and raise discussion.

 

Different worksheet ideas

1. What attracted you to/ do you like about your partner. What don't you like about your partner

2. Relationship parameters (needs, wants, expectations, limits hard and soft)

3. Things you want to do/activities you want to try, both long term(Disneyland) and short-term(date night at cool place)

 

Thats just a basic overview of what I have so far so input would be really appreciated.

[tayiie]

This sounds like a really good idea

[LittlePupRune]

I really like this idea. I've done a little bit of something similar in my relationship but it wasn't as thorough as this is.

 

Maybe add in what are some things your partner could improve upon. That could probably be put in the first worksheet.

Trust exercises can also help, so maybe one worksheet could be trust exercises, some activities to do together (eye contact for an extended period of time, like three minutes) others are written (like sharing a secret you've never told).

[Lokilove]

Those are some good ideas, tyvm. I think the trust excersizes will have to be further down the road. Trying to find things to work on in between what I have and those. 17 years and 2 kids have built quite a gulf of BS to wade through before we can work on trust.

[*Firefly*]

actually thats really smart wow