A game to help you find out what you need in a daddy

[professor daddy]

OR to help you understand what you look for in a little.

 

Here's how: perspective taking.

 

If you're a little, try talking to another little friend like you'd want your daddy to talk to you (for fun).

 

If you're a daddy, try feeling little.

 

I think this is one of the best ways to understand your needs and what the language and person you need might sound like or treat you, and also how to get that from them if they don't know you need it. It's hard to understand that without being in a position where you can create that perfect caregiver for yourself in a role play.

 

What do you think? I know lots of people are doing this already with fanfictions, which is super cool.

Edited June 4, 2017 by phddaddy

[tayiie]

It CAN be a good idea. Or for me it can be a very bad idea. I know exactly what I want in a daddy. And there will probably be no guy that can fit into that. Which is just bad, sure it might be good to know what you want but at the same time when youve been into this without a real daddy, it gets very hard to find that one guy who will match what I have in mind. And it actually only hurts me.

[professor daddy]

I know exactly what I want in a daddy. And there will probably be no guy that can fit into that.

It can feel that way since there just aren't that many daddies in the world compared to vanilla persons, but maybe this exercise could help you broaden your idea of who might be right for you.

 

Every relationship is about giving and asking and learning. The person who isn't your ideal daddy when you meet could learn to give you what you need I bet in time. It's both your jobs to find out how.

[PartyAnimal]

"Every relationship is about giving and asking and learning. The person who isn't your ideal daddy when you meet could learn to give you what you need I bet in time. It's both your jobs to find out how. " ~phddaddy

 

Agreed.  This is not a bad idea generally speaking.  But i believe tayiie also has a very valid point.  In a world with far too many poser Daddies, is it wise for her to openly model in an open forum what she is looking for in a Daddy?  With 189 posts to her credit already she appears to be quite active here.  In all her posts that I have read she has never failed to express herself clearly.  I don't feel expression of wants is an issue with her.  It's simply that  she isn't finding what she is looking for yet.  I think your idea is a good one, but in cases like tayiie's, I think it would be wiser for her to do this exercise in a "little's only" environment to help protect her from any trolling "wanna be" daddies who might try to use her own posts to try to manipulate her.