A Little's Bill of Rights

[Zenmackie]

In its original version this was written as a general guide for submissives.  But I believe that it’s especially relevant for Littles (and Daddies) to be aware of.  So for the most part all I did was go through the document and change the word ‘submissive’ to ‘Little’ and ‘D/s’ to ‘DD/lg’.   

 

I hope the community will find this useful.

 

 

A LITTLE'S BILL OF RIGHTS

 

1.You have the right to be treated with respect. Not only do you have this right, you have the right to demand it. Being Little does not make you a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word "Little" describes your nature and in no way diminishes you as a human being. You have the right to respect yourself as well.

 

2.You have the right to be proud of what you are. Being a Little is nothing that should ever bring you shame or feelings of reproach. Your Little nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride and happiness.

 

3.You have the right to feel safe. Being a Little should not make you feel afraid, insecure or threatened.  In any situation you should feel safe or there can never be a true DD/lg relationship.

 

4.You have the right to your emotions and feelings. Your emotions and feelings come from you and they are just as valid as anyone else's. You have a right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or negative, make you who you are and suppressing them will only bring unhappiness later.

 

5.You have the right to express your negative feelings. Being Little does not make you an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns. Your concerns are real and you have every right to express them. If something doesn't feel right, bothers you, makes you feel bad or you just plain don't like something, say so. Failing to express your negative feelings could give the mistaken impression that you are pleased or satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or agreeable.

 

6.You have the right to say NO. Being Little does not take away your right to have dislikes or negative feelings about things. If something is happening or about to happen that you feel strongly opposed to, it's your duty to speak up. Remember, failing to communicate the word NO is the same as saying YES.

 

7.You have the right to expect happiness in life. Being Little should bring you joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn't, then something is wrong.

 

8.You have the right to have input in a relationship. You are an active partner in any relationship you enter and have every right to contribute to it. You are Little, not passive. A relationship that doesn't include your needs, thoughts, hopes and desires is not one you should be in to begin with.

 

9.You have the right to belong. Being Little greatly involves the feeling of belonging. Many Littles have expressed that it was in discovering their Little nature that they felt as though they "belonged" for the first time in their lives. It's in that relationship you should find the final fulfillment of "belonging" at last.

 

10.You have the right to be loved and to love. Anyone who tells you that love doesn't fit into a DD/lg relationship has never experienced the fulfillment of all it truly can be. Littles are by nature loving and needing of love and have every right to expect this to be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring your Little nature into full bloom, so don't settle for less.

 

11.You have the right to be healthy. Health involves your physical, mental and emotional well-being. Any relationship, Dd/lg or otherwise, that causes you to suffer physically, mentally or emotionally, beyond your limits, is abuse. There is no place for abusive behavior in a DD/lg relationship and it's up to you to make sure those lines are not crossed. Being a Little does not give anyone the right to harm or injure you in any way.

 

12.You have the right to practice safe sex. Not only is this a right, it's a duty to yourself and others you may come into contact with at a later date. Sexually transmitted diseases have reached epidemic proportions and must be a concern to any sexually active person. Safe Sex is something you have the right to insist upon and protecting yourself should never be discouraged by anyone who really has your best interests at heart.

 

[Kara]

Thank you for sharing it is very good.

[Guest Princessaj]

Wonderful!!! Thank you so much.

 

Cried a bit - tears of joy, thinking of all the people that are trying to answer the question of if they are a little/middle/Princess/Prince/Pet. It will be wind beneath their wings. 

 

I almost want to say..."Step away from the sippy cups, pacies, stuffies...the stuff of DDlg and embrace the choices you have IRL in real life and the DDlg Lifestyle.

 

I think that this should be required reading when joining the forum. giggle....Hugs

[Zenmackie]

Wonderful!!! Thank you so much.

 

Cried a bit - tears of joy, thinking of all the people that are trying to answer the question of if they are a little/middle/Princess/Prince/Pet. It will be wind beneath their wings. 

 

I almost want to say..."Step away from the sippy cups, pacies, stuffies...the stuff of DDlg and embrace the choices you have IRL in real life and the DDlg Lifestyle.

 

I think that this should be required reading when joining the forum. giggle....Hugs

Thanks, Princessaj.  I'm glad it meant so much to you.

[Guest Sweetkittenbj]

This would have been so helpful a couple of relationships ago! I'd send it to one of them, but I'd be breaking two of Daddy's rules & id be in trouble.

[Zenmackie]

This would have been so helpful a couple of relationships ago! I'd send it to one of them, but I'd be breaking two of Daddy's rules & id be in trouble.

There are, sadly, a large number of self-centered jerks passing themselves off as Daddies or Doms, and they have no understanding of, or interest in, their responsibility for the happiness and well-being of their Little or sub.  I've heard so many horror stories from beginning subs and Littles who were taken advantage of because they thought they had to do everything they were told to do, regardless of their preferences or even safety.  It's one of the reasons I wanted to post this.  But it sounds as though you, at least, have found a proper Daddy at last.  Congratulations.

[cupquake]

a must-read

 

╰(*´︶`*)╯♡ sending luv for this lovely post ~

[Zenmackie]

a must-read

 

╰(*´︶`*)╯♡ sending luv for this lovely post ~

You're very welcome, cupquake.  Yes, I think it's very important.

[chubbylilwolfcub]

I feel like this post needs to be thumb tacked so new littles and subs can find this easily and read it again and again and again

[Zenmackie]

I feel like this post needs to be thumb tacked so new littles and subs can find this easily and read it again and again and again

I agree.  Maybe someone could recommend it to the Moderators?