Little needing advice: nice daddy's only

[Fluttershypaci]

[Mewow]

I'm still new to it too but have always had little characteristics. But I do know it is what you make of it, relationship wise, you don't need paci's or diapers to be little but that's up to the individual. I'd say make use of compromise, it's always nice on both parts to recognise efforts and such.
As for actual ways to integrate it, you could give each other nicknames that aren't just Daddy or baby girl, (there's a thread on what people call their Littles/Daddies which may help) in that sense your getting the effect without overwhelming him?

Edited June 1, 2017 by Mewow

[Fluttershypaci]

[Fluttershypaci]

it went ok Edited June 1, 2017 by Fluttershypaci

[jaredstone363]

I would say to try and take it slow. Introduce him slowly to different aspects of you and ddlg. He might feel overwhelmed if you show him everything at once. So slowly ease him into it, maybe only use a paci for short periods of time in front of him and over the course of a couple weeks, use it more and more in front of him. Just take your time

[Fluttershypaci]

So this weekend I tried to take it slow. I just coloured a bit and I even watched some kid shows, but it's mostly just me doing it and him just working on his homework and stuff. He just wants to stay out of it. he's so sweet, but it just makes me sad that he doesn't want to be involved with this. Do you have any ideas on how I could get him involved?

[jaredstone363]

Don't give up and keep trying. I would try to get him involved by making a game out of something and trying to get him to play. For example, while you are coloring, ask him what color you should use for a section or ask him to color right inside the lines for you because it's hard for you. Little things like that might help him get more involved. 

[professor daddy]

What aspects of you being little does he find uncomfortable?

 

It sounds (honestly) very uncomfortable for you to try to be little to him when he isn't accepting and affirming of you. I imagine it can feel really lonely.

 

Have you thought about understanding his needs, too, and seeing if you have something interesting in common that you can build from? That way you're both sharing a vulnerable space with each other.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Frankly... if he isn't into it, he just isn't. I don't think it's right to push it on him when he's told you he doesn't want any part of it. If he's okay with you doing it on your own, then continue that way if you want to remain in a relationship with him. Otherwise... perhaps moving on would be best.

 

This lifestyle isn't for everyone, and like all lifestyles it shouldn't be forced.

[PartyAnimal]

I was in the same position as your boyfriend not all that long ago.  What helped me most was time, opportunities to grow in my understanding of the life style without feeling pressured into it, and one amazing lady that consistently pointed out and appreciated the Daddy qualities that were already (albeit unrealized) a part of my life.

[Fluttershypaci]

So I wil have a talk with him next weekend about the situation and I want to be able to explain it to him in a way that doesn't really overwhelm him or scare him off. Do you have any suggestions about things I need to tell him or things I need to think about so I can tell him exactly what I want?

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Well... what do you want? I think only you can answer that question.

 

Are you looking for a 24/7 dynamic? Only during set times? Only in the bedroom? Do you want to involve age play and regression? If so, what age range do you want to play/regress to? How much control are you wanting to give him? Do you want rules? Punishments? DDlg is sooo very broad.... it's so hard to give advice on what to talk to someone about because each dynamic is different.

[*Firefly*]

if you wanna do something sweet for him to try to involve him without pushing him into it, you could color him something and give it to him. i dunno but that's what  would do