Worrying about being a little as I get older?

[Guest ElleWolffiee]

Sorry if I'm being ignorant in anyway!! I'm really new to all this little stuff! 

I've really just recently realised that I'm a little and have read a lot on this forum as I was figuring it out, and just digging through the posts and information as one does! I'm a girl who's really anxious and always fretting over something, especially things that have to do with my life as I get older and I know it's a bit stupid, but I'm always worried about how things are goinf to fit and factor into my life as I get older! People always tell me that I'm young and that I shouldn't worry, but as someone with anxiety, I find that really hard to do!! I'm always worried that I'll just be really weird when I get old and that there won't be a place for me, and now that I've discovered this little side of me, those feelings have come back, so I figured I would joing this forum! I was wondering if anyone could answer me about how they view being little when one gets older physically! Are you worried how others will view you? Do you also worry about feeling out of place? Are you ever 'too old' to be little??

Sorry if my wording is really rambly and all over the place! 

 

(I'm also sorry if this is in the wrong place or incorrect in anyway!! I'm really new to this site- like joined 10 minutes ago- and have never posted in a forum before!!)

[Mewow]

Nope, Never too old to be little, it's a part of you, your personality, your life.

There are no real rules to it, it's a wide area that covers lots of things, just like you don't HAVE to be small, or young or into ageplay to be a "little or middle" hope this helps

[Guest ElleWolffiee]

It does, actually! The reassurance is really really nice to have ;w; I've actually been digging around for threads that more experianced and older littles have made and snooped through some profiles and I'm starting to think maybe the older littles outnumber us younger ones :3c It makes me feel a bit secure, really, if that makes any sense!! I just worry a lot about how my future will go, I guess uvu;

[Mewow]

Yushii, as cheesy as it sounds just be you that's what it's all about

[CraftyFaeriePrincess]

Growing old it mandatory, growing up is optional!

I'll be little as long as I like, and you should too

[Ami29]

Age is just a number, but your soul would never grow old. I just turned 30 and I feel insecure in so many ways that I should have left in my teen days..even though I grow older ,I still am the same me and I believe being a little is the same,just cause the number is changing doesn't mean your heart is..just be you and enjoy being true to yourself don't let anyone mandate what a little should be like or how old they should be.hugs

[~Lost_Little_Searching~]

Thank you for posting this!  I've often struggled with this same question, and as someone who has felt out of place, I didn't want to know the answer.  But I agree with everyone else, your age doesn't have to define you or how you feel.  There will always be a group of people out there who are like you and will accept every inch of who you are.  

Welcome to the forum and safe travels!

[cuppycakes]

There's a lot of littles on here that are older! Many times I can't even tell someone's age unless they mention it or I look at their profile. I know of a few littles on this forum that are in their 50s, too! They're not any less of a little, either. We just are who we are!

 

I feel like worrying about the future is kind of useless. We evolve as people throughout our lives, and as long as we are happy with who we are/what we do now then we shouldn't worry about what'll happen in 10 or 20 years. I know fully well that I may "grow out of" being little, but it's also possible that I may continue to be one throughout my whole life. I don't worry about what will happen, because I'll know what I want to do when I get there.

[Guest Princessaj]

OMG!

You wrote this for me!!!

Thanks for the invitation to share being a very old middle.

 

I am 52 years old and am the 2nd to the oldest middle on the forum. I found out that there was a name for what I was, a middle, last August. BTW-I have never been married, no kids....

 

I have been a middle since I was 13 years old...meaning I skipped the whole of my teen age years having to be really really "Adult" and take care of everything, everything full on from 13 years old on. Work full time, go to school full time, pay all my bills including medical expenses. By the time I was 25 years old I was making $60,000 a year and working on Rodeo Drive for Chanel in Beverly Hills. Sounds amazing, but so not, because I was doing it for attention and to please others.

 

All the while I was scared out of my wits that I would be "found out." That I had never matured over age 13 even if I did very Adult things. My world around me kept spinning higher and higher into what was expected of me, because I kept raising the bar. All I really wanted to do was play Barbies.

 

The best part of my life right now is having a Daddy, my very first. I hoped, prayed and dreamed I would find one and researched, planned, studied...Yes, was I so ready to have a Daddy, he found me....well, now that I have one, I find myself with the perfect opportunity to not only be a middle for me, but also for Daddy. Really makes me be a full on middle because I get to teach everything I like about DDlg to him.

 

How to get a Daddy? Really know what makes you a little/middle/Princess/Prince/Pet. Know what you LOVE about DDlg. Don't just know it, live it. Don't wait until you have a Daddy. The more you engage with your little/middle/Princess/Prince/Pet it will become a beacon, a homing device, a magnet ....You will attract a Daddy by totally being in your mind and body being, loving yourself in DDlg.

 

"Secret," I didn't want to come right out and say I was into DDlg in my personal ad on a vanilla dating site, but I cleverly and intentionally included things that are all about me being a middle. For example, in the "What do you like to do" section..alongside going to museums, reading, movies, attending concerts, shopping, traveling...I wrote, Playing with Barbies, blowing bubbles, twirling, having my hair brushed, my stuffies, throwing glitter and more...all the things that I LOVE as a middle. The rest of my personal was a spirited blend of IRL in real life facts, my dreams, desires for my whole life. Some guys totally skipped over the DDlg mentions and never asked...what? why? Then, poof, there was Daddy. There was a wonderful vanilla man that I could be my total middle with. He is dominant from his soul, not because he does something that is BDSM. He is a caregiver, nurturer and has always been one. Completely, naturally being himself. 

 

Get ready to live the rest of your DDlg life...because when you find one or they find you, its ON!

 

I have lived many lifetimes over and above the one that I was given. I have lived the way others wanted me to be for their benefit. I only wanted to please them, to be loved. I never loved myself. I had no time to as I was so busy being out of my body and mind entertaining everyone else with my life. 

 

 

What you have to do is use your imagination. Imagination never ages, never gets old. The best way for me to manage my anxiety is to be creative. Creativity is so very personal. You don't have to ask permission, its free, ever available and requires nothing but your mind and emotions.

 

God blessed me with the beauty of looking sometimes 20-30 years younger than I am. I certainly don't act my age, whatever that means. My goodness sakes. Have fun. Have a blast. There will always be some or another responsibility that we have to be Adult about, but I keep them to a low minimum.

 

You don't have to be, do....anything for anyone else's expectations but your own. Have outrageous ideas of what you want your life to be and do something about it for yourself.

 

I wish you and everyone the very best of your DDlg adventure. Hugs

[Aisling]

Thank you so much for sharing your heart Princessaj. It really spoke to me. I turn 38 this year and feel like I have so much catching up to do. I only just discovered the world of being a little last year and have so much to learn and figure out. I think I'm four or five when I am little, but I'm not really sure. I've had to adult so much lately that there hasn't been much room to play with my little to discover more about her. I feel like I have permission to adult less and little more now! Thank you for giving things a little bit of perspective from someone who has been there and done that. I am happy that you have a Daddy now and can finally fulfill everything you always dreamed about. I know it will happen for me someday too.

 

To those of you worrying about what it will be like to be little when your chronological age is older, just remember, age is a number and you are only as old as your mind thinks you are.

[DollDirector]

You are 19 and maybe anyone over 30 is old.

When you will be 30, "getting older" will mean approaching retirement if such a thing still exists,and will seem to you as distant as another planet. 

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

Im 32 years old and I couldn't care less about what people think. I am what I am - I am a successful, Well Adjusted, educated adult when I need to be. I just didnt let the grinding stone of life strip away my edges - I feel bad for the ones who lose their whimsy I will be easily in my 50's and still be a little. 

[DollDirector]

it's one of these rare occasions where I click like a comment and it is not enough: I have to say Princessaj gave us much more than an answer to the OP. This is inspiration to all those who have more than their share asked themselves "is there a place for me ?" 

[Guest Centree]

A big part of being a healthy and productive little was growing up first. There are many edges to the dynamic that take a mature mind that only comes with age and experience. Edited June 3, 2017 by Centree

[LilPetPet]

I worry about the same thing as HennaRosa. I am almost 32 but inside I am no more than 12 lol. Of course, there is a grown up side of me but basically I am a loving trusting big kid. But I really worry too much about being accepted by others, especially since some people I thought were friends treatedm me and Daddy really unkindly when they found out I like to pretend I am a fox girl. But anyway...

I get these lonely feelings because I don't have friends just like me. But then I think about it, and I have friends who love me for me, even though they know I am my Husband's slave and though they don't know about ddlg, they know that I love MLP and wear pigtails and little girl clothes.

What I am trying to say is that friends are all different from one another, but that adds something special. And even though it's nice when someone "gets you", there won't be anybody who completely gets you on everything because no two people are alike. The closest I come to this is Daddy. But we are very opposite in some ways, too.

So interact with other like-minded people shen you can, but remember that it's okay to be unique and stand out. Just be the best you and love others. The true friends will love you back!

[chubbylilwolfcub]