Belittling?

[glgkittykat99]

Okies so I'm just curious....

My daddy(s)-[counting ex daddys] tend to have rules like "no belittling yourself or no talking bad abt yourself" but this rule for me is awful

I know it's supposed to help but instead it makes everything worse because then I can't tell my daddy wen I have bad thoughts or I'll feel I'm breaking a rule or being annoying....

Anyone else like this?

[Daddybloo]

For me this rule is there for when some littles say there ugly or fat and that just simply isn't true ...to me that sort of thing is belittling yourself!!

Telling your daddy that you had a bad thought or a bad feeling isn't belittling yourself so tell you daddy about them is more so they can help you cheer up and put your mind to rest/remove the bad thought and put a good one there

[Bunniegural]

i understand what you are saying here. One thing i like about being in little space is it helps me to be more honest about the thoughts and feelings i silence when i'm in adult mode, sometimes i will say "i know this isn't rational, but i'm thinking x..." or i'll come to Uram (my daddy) and say "Uram, part of me is saying x, but I know y." And He'll give me reassurance and snuggles.

[JodieDelight]

If I'm a naughty boy/girl - Then I'd like to have a Mummy or Daddy to belittle me - Not like in appearance, weight or sex gender. 

 

Belittling and verbal humiliation as a overgrown baby. 

 

Even if they told me out of the blue how much of a baby I am - out of spite or just as a reminder - that makes me whimper and turns me on so much

 

It makes me want to cuddle them, need them for look after me and protect me.

 

But it also reminds me that Mummy or Daddy have the control and power over me. 

[TeddyBearDaddy21]

It's never good to talk about yourself in that way. If daddy has the rule that you shouldn't talk about yourself like that, just means he that he doesn't see those things on you. He looks at you and probably thinks he's the luckiest daddy in the world for having such a good girl. Hopefully this helped in some way. Stay strong little one, you are beautiful no matter what.

[*Firefly*]

maybe when you have the thoughts, you could discuss them with your daddy so he can help you get through it. rules are made to help, not harm. ask him to discuss your feelings the next time you are feeling negative towards yourself

[chubbylilwolfcub]

Daddy's number one rule is that I show myself the same love and respect I show him. Sometimes I have nrgative thoughts about myself (just as he has negative thoughts about himself) but we talk to and lean on each other. Knowing Daddy expects me to love and respect myself doesn't make the negative thoughts go away. It opens up a line of trust and keeps me from stewing on the negative thoughts abd potentially leading to self hard. So when I am feeling particularly down about myself I go talk to Daddy. I tell him how I'm feeling and why I feel that way. He is there for me, reminds me that he loves me, and gives me a bunch of reasons to think I'm wonderful. I can't speak for your current or past Daddys, but perhaps they are aiming for the same goal? Talk to your CG and consider changing the wording of the rule. "Show yourself love and respect" is a little less daunting than "don't belittle yourself.