Depressed baby.

[KiggysDaddy]

Okay. So. My baby girl and I have been dating for seven months, I've been into ddlg and dom/sub stuff for about two years, she's been into it for about ten months I think. We've run into a situation where she's depressed and oh so stressed. Lately she's been feeling less little and feeling like she does everything for me, and I give much less than her. Obviously this is bad on my part and I need to do something. But she doesn't know what she wants or needs, and so I decided to come on here for advice. What could I do for my sub? She has rules, I give as much attention as I can, I try to be sweet and dominant when she needs. But she needs something along the lines of giving her something big. Something that I guess could be hers. Like how she follows my rules and does what Daddy wants. I want to help my little girl very badly, any advice about stress or depression or being a dom, would help a lot. It also might help to mention our rules and terms have changed a lot since we first met, since we're both changing a lot as people and have had varying amounts of stress.

[Guest gdreh]

[CraftyFaeriePrincess]

I got very depressed and stressed around the time I met Daddy. And he didn't know he was daddy yet.

I was in the middle of a major move and down to the wire, I was finally getting over a long term relationship, searching for a new job, rehabbing a rescue terrier, and trying to promote my business that I felt I was failing in. I got a brick wall, I was depressed, if I wasn't spending time with him I was stressed and crying. I had so much to do and couldn't figure out how to take care of it all, I felt the need to sacrifice the things I loved and my own health to be successful... I was in a bad place.

Then daddy came to my rescue and I didn't even ask.

He figured out what my stresses were just through a few dinner dates and talking throughout the day. I came home from work one day and daddy was at my apartment unexpectedly. He has packed up half of my craft room for me, a task that was at the top of my stress list.

Earlier this year I felt like a failure to my #1 doggie. We compete and we train very hard... we weren't getting any ribbons, our bond felt like it was broken and I spent all my time angry and upset that I couldn't figure out how to get him to do what he had done before. I wanted to quit and give up.

Daddy didn't let me. He took me to private lessons to work on my handling and communication technique with my little woofer. Now we're the best in the state for our sport and breed.

 

Daddy just knows what I need. He takes the time to step back and look at what's making me panic and then he figures out a way to fix it and just does it. I'm an independent little, I hate asking for help... but I always appreciate it. Daddy helps me when I can no longer help myself. It makes me upset when he does super big things (one time one of my craft machines broke... I was crying because I had orders to fill for my friends and had to pick between telling them I couldn't or not going to lessons with my doggies for a month to replace it... daddy sent me the tracking number for a new one... I didn't want him to buy it, I was really upset but really happy and relieved too... it eased my stress significantly)

 

Maybe your little needs a hobby she can have that's hers. She needs some kind of involvement that allows her to make her own accomplishments that she works for and can be proud of on her own, but that daddy is there to support and encourage her.

 

Daddy and I have been together since September so similar amount of time.

I hope maybe this helps? I've dealt with depression, beat it, and now I just have anxiety and panic attacks when I'm under really high stress (that I put on myself!) having attainable goals, a couple hobbies, and silent support made me better and stronger. I hope your little feels better and I hope you do too. You're a good caregiver to be worried about her and willing to help.