A little confused about where I fit in

[Guest skynymph]

Hello! I've just recently started learning and researching about BDSM and the DD/lg dynamic and, well, lets just say I cant tell exactly where I fit in.. 

I've always known I was a sorta submissive person, it was something I had to fight and learn how to shut down so I wouldnt be taken advantage of.. So I had to learn how to take care of myself and hold myself up and thats what I've done ever since. This made me a very independent and strong person even though Im still young. 

So sexually I am certain I enjoy the sub/dom play. I am in fact a very sexual person despite my lack of experience on the matter. My problem lies on being able to tell if I am a little or not..

Despite my outer slightly tough persona Im actually a very sensitive girl, even though I dont like admitting that. For that eason Ive always secretly craved companionship from someone who would take care of me, take that responsability from me a little, and maybe boss me around a bit (hehe somehow I really enjoy when people I trust do that XD )... 

So I guess what Im trying to figure out and, well, asking you guys, is if I would fit in a dd/lg relationship, since I dont even think I have the whole "little space" thing (I'm shy and I guess I act cutesy around people I trust but its just my personality - no age play, or really typically childish activities or behaviour), nor would I like to be completly told what to do when it came to my normal life (I call the shots on what I wear, how I act.. no changing that for no one) .. 

 

Um I really am a little confused and I wish you could help me. So sorry for how long the post turned out but hey thanks for read it all

[Raphael]

hmm maybe you're a non-regressive Little? There's no fast rule that says you "have to" feel a certain age to be a Little. Just be your lovable self

[Guest MeneerM]

Ageplay isn't always needed for DD/lg. Just be yourself and let your Daddy take care of you and you will see if the dynamic fits you. Not the other way around. You don't have to fit in a category, you need to do what your heart desires and what feels good to you!

[Princess-P]

Being little doesn't mean someone else takes charge. Littles have their own style and no littles are the same. Really its just on how you feel. And a cg/l dynamic doesn't have to be 24/7.

 

Also not liking childish activities doesn't really mean anything because thats just some of the superficial stuff. Many people use them as stress relievers. Some dont partake in those activities at all.

 

Some people in the dynamic participate in a power exchange. Many are equals with their partner. A lot of littles are tough and independent. Actually thats a wonderful quality. I think many caregivers prefer knowing their little can take care of themselves completely on their own but trust them enough to take over some aspects or to allow them to care for them even though they don't NEED it. It makes them feel special.

 

So if this dynamic is something your interested in then hang out on the forum. Do things your way. Dont worry about fitting in or trying to be like others or that your not measuring up to someone else. Explore a little, make friends and enjoy yourself. Its a pretty great and accepting community.

[Hot loving dom]

Hey. Over the last 15 years or so, I've heard this a lot. What I would say is "wait, experiment and see what fits". Also do not be quick to fit into a category. Someo of the cutest subs and littles haven't fit. The position you fit can also change. So I guess I am saying -- don't worry.

 

This is something I've helped many people with over the years so hope it helps you. Drop me a message if you want to discuss further.

[Guest ☽ ᴍᴏɴᴏᴄᴇʀᴏs ☾]

Maybe you are more middle than little. You can be little/middle as you feel comfortable, there are no steps to follow, it's just your safe space. I do not have regressions of age, it is simply when I enter little space is where I allow myself to be and be vulnerable. For example I do not like pacifiers, or diapers, I like to collect ugly stuffies, but I do not play with them, I like playing with my cat more.

We all have different things that we like and make us feel safe.

[Ami29]

Something I learnt on this forum, no little is like the other.there is no saying of how a little should be or that all littles have to regress or do age play..it depends on you being yourself.no one should tell you you're wrong or you should be this way..just act the way you feel fit your personality. Not all littles are into pacifiers that does not make them less than others. Just do what you feel like you identify yourself with ,be you and have fun doing it. I learnt that from a very nice daddy dom, and other littles from here.

[Guest skynymph]

Woah! I'm surprised you all answeared so quickly and attentive. I guess you are right and I should just not worry too much about what Im supposed to be like and just be myself, take things slow and see where it leads .

Thank you very much, people here are so nice