New daddy needs some advice...

[DarksideArchangel]

I just accepted the fact that I'm into this kind of thing, and am getting into the scene (if that's the right word) now...the only problem is that when I look in the personals section, I see all these other daddys in there and I honestly feel like I can never measure up. Why would a sweet, wonderful little pick me over all the other more experienced (and probably way better looking) daddys? I need some help and advice...after all, who would know better what a little wants then other littles?

[tayiie]

There are many unexperienced daddies on this site as well. So dont feel like you are the only one. Before even starting to look for a little I would suggest that you read some of the topics here on the forum as I see many threads about this subject, someone whos new and doesnt quite know what to do with all this. Then you should look at yourself, ask yourself what kind of daddy you are, because theres so many different kinds of daddies, some are non sexual, others are very sexual. Some loves brats, others dont. Would also suggest you to look on similar sites such as fetlife and daily diapers to find more information. I mean, before I came to this place, I was on domestic discipline for a long time thinking that was what I was a part of. Then I went to daily diapers and felt more at home. Then I went here and on darkside (a page for scandinavians). It took me about 9-8 years to find who I was and knew exactly what I wanted. And I dont have much experience really. Ive had some daddies after those exoeriences I understood more who I was and what I really wanted in my relationship. But before getting into a relationship I did tons of research, talked with other people and such.

[Firekitten04]

It's all about what you and your partner want little like everything else all come in different shapes and sizes as do daddy's be open and communicate

[Princess-P]

Your never going to know everything anyway so there's no point in trying to measure up to anyone else here. Have some confidence in yourself and your ability to learn.

 

Learn about yourself not about what others know/do. Your not like them and not all littles are the same so they don't like the same thing. Confidence counts for a lot when seeking a partner.

 

Don't even worry about looking for a little right now. You wouldn't look for a regular vanilla girlfriend to just fall in your lap. All things take time. You shouldn't look for a little until you know what you even have to offer someone or what you would expect from a partner yourself.

Edited May 26, 2017 by Princess-P

[Guest Loki]

Just look at it like the rest of life: you aren't measuring up against anyone for the same reason no one can measure up to you! Everyone is unique and comparing yourself to others only creates sadness. We have different things. You wouldn't try to measure a tiger against an elephant, right? Edited May 26, 2017 by Pinkyellowblue

[Guest MeneerM]

Daddy's don't have to measure up. Every Daddy has its strong points and weak points. Learn yours by talking to others and to learn what you need in a little to be the best Daddy you can be.

Matches are made when the shoe fits. It takes a big shoe store with lots of different shoes to accommodate for every customer. So be glad you are not like me and you are a different Daddy than I am, because there are littles who prefer your style over mine and that is how it supposed to be.

[Little_bratty_kitten]

All littles like different things from a Daddy. There isn't a mold to follow. Research and find what type of Daddy you are before you look for a little.

[Guest pumpkinpatchPrincess]

A Daddy doesn't have to be experienced to be a good Daddy. Experience helps, for sure, but it's not everything. Some littles truly value showing you the lifestyle, and sharing the discovery alongside you; they may even argue it makes the bond that much stronger. Also, littles are not inherently superficial. Sure, some of us have our physical preferences, but Daddy's of all shapes and sizes are accepted. 

 

And if you give up your hunt, you're taking yourself away from a little that may really need you and love you unconditionally, which would be a shame. 

 

You will find a little, and you will be a great Daddy. 

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

I'd work on your confidence first and foremost. 

 

Inexperience isn't always a bad thing. It's just as intimidating for a new Little - No one wants to disappoint their Daddy because they may be more experienced. Find someone and learn together! This is all about growth! 

 

Don't compare yourself to other CGs - We are all like snowflakes! Every Little/Middle/Puppy/Kitten etc are all different - We all like different things and are attracted to different things. 

 

Find what makes you... You! Embrace it! Highlight what makes you different... not what you think makes you like other Daddies.