Mathilda-Chan Posted May 26, 2017 Report Posted May 26, 2017 Hi everyone ! I've been with my Senpai for one year now, and it was a kind of dd/lg relationship. But the fact is, I know that I don't love him anymore since a couple of month ... He is a really great guy, and he makes a lots of efforts to make me feel good in our relationship. Sometimes he's annoying me, but it make me so sad to note that I'm not able to give him the love he deserve. I'm not in love with another guy or something, but I want this relationship to end and it gets me kind of depressed ... What should I do ? Leave him ? But what should I tell him ? He's so depressed, I really don't wanna hurt him. Please, I need advices !
MadeOfClay Posted May 26, 2017 Report Posted May 26, 2017 Just try to end it as soon as possible. It wont make him feel better if he notices you act different towards him and doesnt know what's wrong! If you've been with him for so long, he deserves that you dont stretch it out anymore.
Mathilda-Chan Posted May 26, 2017 Author Report Posted May 26, 2017 Thanks for your answer ... It's gonna be so hard
Nel-Chan Posted May 26, 2017 Report Posted May 26, 2017 Yeh, def dun wait any longer than you feel you can be. I speak from one who was hurt very badly emotionally when my Boyfriend broke up/dumped me and then broke my heart saying that for months he's not really loved/cared and either was wishing he'd not,feel that way or something....so for months he'd tell me he loved me. So to know that all the times i was putting my heart and soul into our daily life together...he lied to me. So, it's one thing to have to end a relationship, is another thing to prolong breaking up when the longer you wait the more painful it'll be for both people.
Guest Sinderella Posted May 26, 2017 Report Posted May 26, 2017 Grr I know exactly how you feel. I have a vanilla boyfriend who makes me terribly unhappy. Sometimes depressed even. He's a nice guy and he does caring things for me and I feel so guilty. It's hard hurting a good persons feelings I definitely think the best thing to do is to end it sooner rather than later. This will create the best outcome for both parties but I do understand your frustration. Good luck!
Guest Kali Posted May 26, 2017 Report Posted May 26, 2017 Be honest and tell him. As a dumpee I can tell you it's dasier to know sooner.
Guest Loki Posted May 26, 2017 Report Posted May 26, 2017 Be honest, be as respectful as you can, and don't ghost. I've been on both sides of the coin, and when the sizzle is gone I do it as calmy and quickly as possible. Don't drag it out! I hate it when people dance around it and play mind games. Don't do the "we can still be friends thing". It sounds hollow and cruel.
Guest blumonkey Posted May 26, 2017 Report Posted May 26, 2017 (edited) If he is clinically depressed then it's the depression that has changed everything from how things used to be 'Go to a psychiatrist because I want the old you. If you neglect this then I have no choice than leave you" Meds can take up to 6 weeks to bring his old self back Did you like his old self? If the situation were reversed, a daddy upset because his little is depressed... he would get reamed here for leaving his depressed little Edited May 26, 2017 by blumonkey
Guest mlkykit Posted May 26, 2017 Report Posted May 26, 2017 If he is clinically depressed then it's the depression that has changed everything from how things used to be 'Go to a psychiatrist because I want the old you. If you neglect this then I have no choice than leave you" Meds can take up to 6 weeks to bring his old self back Did you like his old self? If the situation were reversed, a daddy upset because his little is depressed... he would get reamed here for leaving his depressed little I don't see where the OP said or implied they were leaving their partner because he's depressed nor do they say they're unhappy because their partner is depressed. They say they're leaving because they don't love them as they used to. The OP may have just said he's depressed to imply that they don't want to make it any worse by leaving him. OP, take it from someone who was in this very situation a year ago, it's better to end it sooner rather than later. Sit him down and respectfully explain why you think the relationship isn't working and let him know you're unhappy. Makes no sense you stay in a relationship that does nothing for you anymore. Both parties need to be happy with the relationship to make it work. Best of luck. 1
Mathilda-Chan Posted May 26, 2017 Author Report Posted May 26, 2017 If he is clinically depressed then it's the depression that has changed everything from how things used to be 'Go to a psychiatrist because I want the old you. If you neglect this then I have no choice than leave you" Meds can take up to 6 weeks to bring his old self back Did you like his old self? If the situation were reversed, a daddy upset because his little is depressed... he would get reamed here for leaving his depressed little It's not depression, I'm not looking for his "old self". But thanks for your answer anyway
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