What is it about being a daddy..

[HannaLee]

..that you enjoy?

Hi everyone. First of all, a little background about myself. I am a 23 yr old Little (Age between 6-8) who's currently looking for my first real DDLG or D/s relationship. My last relationship is when I started realizing my little tendencies but also that I have some caregiver tendencies as well. They kinda come naturally to me, but I do not see myself maintaining a CG role 24/7 in a relationship. It just isn't me.

 

That being said, the point of this post is: are there daddies (or mommies) who can explain what about the lifestyle actually appeals to them? I mean, for a Little, we enjoy having rules, and the power exchange that comes with being dominated. But when you flip that around, the assumption would be that doms enjoy controlling their partners and having all the power, which just sounds abusive. I know that's not the case (at least I hope it isnt!!!) So please, enlighten me, why do daddies enjoy taking on the responsibilities that come with the role, and putting up with bratty Littles like myself? XD

[blegoo]

I always keep wondering what about it I like the most but I have to say I just like having someone to take care of, because the affection and love I get in return is just that much better and well-deserved. Although a DDLG relationship isn't necessary for me, I am perfectly fine with a vanilla or other dynamic. As long as there is a lot of love to give and to get I'm happy

Edited May 26, 2017 by blegoo

[tayiie]

Wait. I feel like you're generalizing. "Enjoy having rules"? Nonononono, no. I dont " enjoy" it, i need(!) it in order to function properly, for various reasons. Not all littles are bratty. And far from all daddies enjoy having a bratty misbehaving little. Some find it charming others doesnt. Some are only in it for sexy time. Some have a ddlg relationship without any sexy times at all.

 

When I asked one of my exes why he became a daddy dom he said to me

Because all the love I give my little I get back in return. Because I love to guide and help people becoming a better person. Because being a daddy dom is the best.

[Guest Kali]

A little secret... there is no real dom and sub. Both are co dependant on the other. Daddy's want first and foremost to make their little feel safe, secure, and if appropriate, to have super nice sexy times. The only reason we like to control and discipline you is because it's something we know you enjoy and that makes you feel secure and happy. BDSM dynamics are multilayered and can look abusive, but it's important to remember that when all is said and done, it about meeting each other's needs. The need to be the little or CG is usually an intrinsic part of who we are. The need to love and be loved in return is common throughout.

 

So by being a little, you aren't just being whiney and needy; you're actually helping CGs to deliver what they love delivering; TLC

 

Likewise being a Daddy is just another side to the same coin. We're nothing without a little to look after.

[HannaLee]

Wait. I feel like you're generalizing. "Enjoy having rules"? Nonononono, no. I dont " enjoy" it, i need(!) it in order to function properly, for various reasons. Not all littles are bratty. And far from all daddies enjoy having a bratty misbehaving little. Some find it charming others doesnt. Some are only in it for sexy time. Some have a ddlg relationship without any sexy times at all.

I was sorta generalizing more for the sake of humor, I definitely understand not every little is bratty and I was hesitant to include that in my post but the fact is some doms do enjoy bratty partners and I'm curious why XD I apologize for coming off that way and thank you for the input in your post as well

[Hallowtine]

Hmmm well I just asked my Daddy and he said the thing he loves most about being a daddy is "feeling needed"

 

He likes having someone there who can pull him into an innocent pure space away from the stress of life and stuff. He likes caring for me and feeling important and having someone rely on him. I think I get it but I'm not a daddy so I don't ;3;

[HannaLee]

Hmmm well I just asked my Daddy and he said the thing he loves most about being a daddy is "feeling needed"

He likes having someone there who can pull him into an innocent pure space away from the stress of life and stuff. He likes caring for me and feeling important and having someone rely on him. I think I get it but I'm not a daddy so I don't ;3;

That's such a cute description! I really like that!

[DDstorm]

Hallowtine, your daddy really managed to put it well!

[Hallowtine]

I'm glad ^*^ hope it helped explain though!

[Guest blumonkey]

 

I'm a fixer. Many littles need that. I like building up a structure for guiding a little to be a better person. I have wisdom, experience, and knowledge, and never had kids of my own to pass that on to. 

 

The past few years of DDlg have been rewarding. 

 

The past few months without a little, not very rewarding. My only responsibilities now are my career, taking care of the house, and making sure my epileptic kitty gets her meds on time.

[Needy4neediness]

Hmmm well I just asked my Daddy and he said the thing he loves most about being a daddy is "feeling needed"

 

He likes having someone there who can pull him into an innocent pure space away from the stress of life and stuff. He likes caring for me and feeling important and having someone rely on him. I think I get it but I'm not a daddy so I don't ;3;

Best way to explain it

[Bunniegural]

When you are someone's little, you are telling them you need them, you trust them, that they are important, and for me, that you care about them being happy too. For the right kind of person, that's enormously rewarding.

[*Firefly*]

i like it because i can protect my little and show them that, no matter what, they are not alone. i actually really hate the discipline part because i dont like making my little upset or hurting them. being a mommy, to me, is about needing my little just as much as she needs me