Opinions on Fetlife?

[Guest pumpkinpatchPrincess]

I don't know if this violates the rules so, if it does, please tell me and I'll take it down.

 

I wanted to know everyone's opinions on Fetlife. 

 

I got it practically the moment I turned 18, and posted a few pictures, but it never hooked me. I often feel that my boundaries are disrespected, even though the BDSM community lives by "safe, sane and consensual". I understand that it is the internet, and people are free to do what they want, but people will down right degrade me on my Daddy's Fetlife page (I'm lucky I'm not popular, or else it'd be worse). 

 

Not to mention, I never felt a sense of community on Fetlife, though it's easier to talk with littles and ABDLs. I sense a large divide, and I'm not sure what feeds it or where it comes from. I also sense a feeling of competition amongst people, the same way Facebook puts young teenagers against each other, flashing body parts for more likes. I am in no way upset at people posting their nudes, as I've done the same, but it feels like a forced popularity contest. I don't feel it's a place to celebrate our likeliness, but instead, challenge our differences.

 

What are your thoughts? How do you feel when you visit Fetlife?

[Foxcatcher]

I've had some very good relationships via fetlife. I love how open it is, unlike this site. There are way more options available. You can check on your specific locale for those with similar interests. Things can heat up very quickly. Communities for your kink are myriad.

 

But if you're uncomfortable with fetlife's lack of soft fuzzy cuteness and it's upfront attitude, then it's probably not for you.

[Guest pumpkinpatchPrincess]

I've had some very good relationships via fetlife. I love how open it is, unlike this site. There are way more options available. You can check on your specific locale for those with similar interests. Things can heat up very quickly. Communities for your kink are myriad.

 

But if you're uncomfortable with fetlife's lack of soft fuzzy cuteness and it's upfront attitude, then it's probably not for you.

 

That is true. It is more open as to what content we can discuss, as I often feel shy or uncomfortable discussing diapers here. 

[Guest mlkykit]

I've had some very good relationships via fetlife. I love how open it is, unlike this site. There are way more options available. You can check on your specific locale for those with similar interests. Things can heat up very quickly. Communities for your kink are myriad.

 

But if you're uncomfortable with fetlife's lack of soft fuzzy cuteness and it's upfront attitude, then it's probably not for you.

 

Everything about this, yes.

 

To me, Fetlife is a lot more gritty, a lot more adult and a lot more open. It's definitely not for everyone, especially if you can't handle the very upfront and oftentimes, brutally honest attitudes of majority of the community. I adore the fact that there are groups for your specific kinks and interests where you can share ideas and provoke discussions.

 

With every social media site there will be times when you feel a sort of divide among members, but - at least from what I've observed - on Fetlife, that divide usually stems from difference of opinions and interests, and not so much "ugh, I hate that bitch".

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

Everything about this, yes.

 

To me, Fetlife is a lot more gritty, a lot more adult and a lot more open. It's definitely not for everyone, especially if you can't handle the very upfront and oftentimes, brutally honest attitudes of majority of the community. I adore the fact that there are groups for your specific kinks and interests where you can share ideas and provoke discussions.

 

With every social media site there will be times when you feel a sort of divide among members, but - at least from what I've observed - on Fetlife, that divide usually stems from difference of opinions and interests, and not so much "ugh, I hate that bitch".

Samesamesame. I enjoy going there for more adult to adult interactions and conversations as that is something lacking here and have found myself doing it more often. I adore to piece how things are moderated in the handful of groups I'm in. Everyone is usually really respectful, they just don't coat their words with candy before giving them to another user and i wish that was something seen more here. I feel less bad mentally and emotionally hanging out there. They also have a much larger kink thing going on cause to each their own! I've seen so many people here cringe at the thought of pee and they generally make it hard to talk kink without judging. We're more open to kink shaming here, I've seen it more than I'd like. Despite someone being able to join at the age of 18, I mostly see much older people there and it can turn into a lovely learning experience for someone like me, there's not so much of that here. People tell it like it is there, from my POV, it's just adults interacting as such. Fetlife feels safer imo.

 

A lot more open and welcoming with just about everything.

[Frog]

I have an account there, but I never liked it. All I ever got were requests for threesomes and cuckolding sort of things. Maybe I'm in the minority regarding FetLife, but I'm just not a fan.

[Guest LordEmtheDinosaur!]

It's useful for finding people/groups/munches/clubs/parties/dungeons in your area. My advice is just to ignore the stupid people who send you dick pics  and all that stuff and seek out the good people.

[Nibba]

I never liked it because I could never find anyone close to my age who also lived near me. I also feel like the male to female ratio is ridiculous so that was a turn off.

[tayiie]

I never liked it because most of the members have no respect. No shame what so ever. Sure there are many disrespectful people here on the forum too. But here I can make sure they cant send me gross or offensive messages. Which feels safe to me. I never accepts a friend request that doesnt respect my wishes, have at least a well written profile or have more than one post made.

 

Also, there are not one person in my age and in my area. And no one in that place seems to be open for a LDR therefor I can't find anything, no one to talk with, no activities or anything.

 

But sure, fetlife in "the bigger countries" might be great and useful when it comes to gatherings and parties and such in their area. Maybe other things are nice there too. But to me, I'll just keep myself away from it.

[Guest blumonkey]

It's useful for finding people/groups/munches/clubs/parties/dungeons in your area. My advice is just to ignore the stupid people who send you dick pics  and all that stuff and seek out the good people.

 

I think the best part of fet is being able to find 'in public' munches.

Edited May 25, 2017 by blumonkey

[Guest pumpkinpatchPrincess]

I never liked it because most of the members have no respect. No shame what so ever. Sure there are many disrespectful people here on the forum too. But here I can make sure they cant send me gross or offensive messages. Which feels safe to me. I never accepts a friend request that doesnt respect my wishes, have at least a well written profile or have more than one post made.

 

Also, there are not one person in my age and in my area. And no one in that place seems to be open for a LDR therefor I can't find anything, no one to talk with, no activities or anything.

 

But sure, fetlife in "the bigger countries" might be great and useful when it comes to gatherings and parties and such in their area. Maybe other things are nice there too. But to me, I'll just keep myself away from it.

 

I completely agree. It was the disrespect that really got to me. I stated on my profile I had a Daddy and then men were commenting on my pictures and sending me messages as if they were my daddy. What REALLY pushed my buttons were the comments on the pictures on my Daddy's profile. On mine, I got comments like "gorgeous" or whatever, but the same picture on my Daddy's profile would get "on her knees. right where she belongs.", "Wat she was made for! A piss, cum and spit dump!". Like what the hell? I mean, I understand the content of the picture but ARE YOU SERIOUS?

[Guest mlkykit]

I completely agree. It was the disrespect that really got to me. I stated on my profile I had a Daddy and then men were commenting on my pictures and sending me messages as if they were my daddy. What REALLY pushed my buttons were the comments on the pictures on my Daddy's profile. On mine, I got comments like "gorgeous" or whatever, but the same picture on my Daddy's profile would get "on her knees. right where she belongs.", "Wat she was made for! A piss, cum and spit dump!". Like what the hell? I mean, I understand the content of the picture but ARE YOU SERIOUS?

 

What I do is make all of my photos private so that I can control who gets to see and leave comments beneath them. Also, I use that "Block" button like a mfer.

 

Sometimes, no matter how many warnings, disclaimers and rules for engagement you put in your "About Me" section, there will always be a set of people who either can't read, don't care enough to read or just don't care overall. I kinda get a kick out of responding to the disrespectful messages just to see how stupid the person really is. Needless to say, they're often very dumb.

[Nel-Chan]

I've tried it a couole of times, dun like it despite really trying. A LOT of creepers on there and dealt with too many angry people or,ones who have a LOT of issues at home that don't admit to,it or be honest about it.

 

Not to mention for someone like me, had way too many older,older guys wanting to sleep with me.

 

I also had a lot ov people who'd just stop talking to me, even tho things were going well or wanted to meet up...no thanks

[LilPetPet]

Though I appreciate what I have learned from fetlife (like different fetishes, etc) and how I can find friends in my area through it, as a Christian there is a lot there that is off limits for me. To me, naked pics are yucky unless they are VEERRRYYY artistically done. It makes me sad that it seems most people (at least in my area) are there just to hook up. I am kinda people-shy and I don't know if I coudl find many people there who genuinely want to find friends WITHOUT "benefits".

But it is a nice place for me to be able to write my thoughts about what I have learned about God through my Master/slave marriage. I can't be completely open about that anywhere else.

[Ami29]

I couldn't handle that site for more than 3 days..and I ran away right after the second pic sent to me....i think it was too much for me.

[xMoonBeam]

OH NO A FOXCATCHER

 

I've had some very good relationships via fetlife. I love how open it is, unlike this site. There are way more options available. You can check on your specific locale for those with similar interests. Things can heat up very quickly. Communities for your kink are myriad.

But if you're uncomfortable with fetlife's lack of soft fuzzy cuteness and it's upfront attitude, then it's probably not for you.