Incorporating more everyday ddlg into our relationship

[Babygirllovesbats]

Hi everyone! *waves*

I'm super new and it's my first time ever posting here. Sorry if this is the wrong section or there's already a post on this. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and we share an interest in ddlg, we originally had a conversation about this several months ago and decided it was something we were both interested in exploring sexually. He said he didn't want to be called daddy in non sexual situations or to have rules that affected any other aspects of my life. Since then I've researched a lot and I've decided I'm a little and that although I don't want our dynamic to be 24/7 I would like for it to be a bigger part of our relationship. It has extended outside of the bedroom slightly but I was wondering if anyone had ideas of how I could enforce the dynamic and incorporate more ddlg into the relationship subtly before I discuss it with him, I think if we include it more first asking him about it will be a lot less stressful and I can gauge his reaction.

 

Tldr; boyfriend and I both into ddlg sexually, I want to incorporate it more without scaring him off, any ideas for how to do so?

[Guest Daddy'sShyKitten]

You can't really do it in a subtle way. You have to be open and honest with him. 

[Princess-P]

If you feel you identify as a little in more than just bedroom roleplay then just embrace your little side. If he wants to get involved he will. If not then he won't.

 

An even better approach would to be flat out tell him what you want. If he's not in to it then fine. Accept it as his choice and be little on your own. Just make sure you respect his boundaries. And when you do tell him what you want to be clear that you aren't pressuring him into it.

[kittybaby]

Pet names, clothing, rules like how you should do certain things like him choosing where or what to eat and when or bedtime or what you wear. Hiding things in his uniform or suit case or wallet. Get a remote control vibe to give him sexual control all day at first then maybe a chastity belt that he has to unlock so you can even pee. Those things will help him get used to having control all day.

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

Pet names, clothing, rules like how you should do certain things like him choosing where or what to eat and when or bedtime or what you wear. Hiding things in his uniform or suit case or wallet. Get a remote control vibe to give him sexual control all day at first then maybe a chastity belt that he has to unlock so you can even pee. Those things will help him get used to having control all day.

OP already said that their boyfriend did not want rules.

 

Imho. Don't do it subtly. In my head that equates to just hoping he'll notice that you want something - that he'll read your mind or something. Just talk to him one on one as an adult and respect his boundaries if he doesn't want it outside of the bedroom, tell him how you feel, tell him what you want but know what you want before talking to him.

 

If he super digs the sexual side of it i would suggest trying the things that make you during sex. Ie. I love butt plugs, they can be really cute/adorable and they come with tails. I'd wear my tail outside of the times having sex, let him see it. I suppose that is to some extent subtly showing? Guess there's nothing wrong with directly addressing and doing subtle things

 

Frindly reminder that you can be little all on your own, too.

[Babygirllovesbats]

Thank so much everyone, we had a conversation about it and he's happy to use titles more and we expanded our rules slightly, he clarified that he doesn't dislike it in an non sexual way, he's happy to do it it just doesn't do a lot for him. This is why I'm glad we spoke about it. he's willing to try it which I appreciate and I stressed I didn't want him to do anything he's not comfortable with. Thanks for all your replies, I may still use some of those ideas anyway