Sad Little Needs Help

[Grayboy103]

I'm nervous being here 

 

I'm a switch but I really value my little space because it makes me feel safe. But my girlfriend recently came out and told me she can't be big for me anymore, so she's a full time little now and I can't be little with her. I'm polyamorous so I've also been dating this boy who is also a switch and he helps me with my little space, but I recently had a mental breakdown and my girlfriend doesn't like when I break down because I get really little really fast.

 

I need to know how to avoid my little space, otherwise she's gonna leave me. So can anybody help me not be a switch anymore? I don't know where else to go, I'm sorry if I'm bothering anybody 

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

Hi there!

 

First of all, little space is part of who you are... it can't be avoided, or at least isn't advised. Why does your girlfriend have to be big just because you're little? Lots of littles are littles with other littles as their partner! Asking you to suppress a part of you isn't fair, and as cruel as it sounds, if she can't support you then maybe it's for the better.

 

Second... I worry if your little space is the only way you have to cope with mental breakdowns. Please try to find an alternative method if you do not have one. Being little is a-ok and dealing with breakdowns as a little is just ducky too... just make sure when you're big you can still handle your problems.

 

And I'm going to end with going back to your girlfriend. Would you ever ask her to get rid of a valuable part of her personality solely for your sake? Do you feel that would be fair of you? If it isn't fair for you to ask of her.... then it isn't fair for her to ask of you.

 

~"Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"~ Dr. Suess

[Guest Maru]

Hi. I'm sorry if I'm of no help. I just wanted to say, you should really talk to her about it. Little space is part of who you are, as "Daddy's_Babygirl" stated. I think that your girlfriend needs to adjust and let you be little too. Honestly, if you can accept her being only little suddenly after being big before, why shouldn't she accept you for who you are? If I was in your situation I'd talk to her about it to make her accept it, or move on with someone else. Sorry to say that. You can't just avoid something that's a part of you, and you won't be happy in your life if you're gonna avoid your little space because someone else doesn't like it.

[firefaerie]

If you're in a relationship where someone doesn't accept you as you are....it's not good. You have to be able to be you. 

[SugarpopPrincess]

I agree with the posts above. Being a little is an important part of who you are---it's not fair or healthy for you to have to hide or change that for someone else. 

 

You should have a serious talk with your girlfriend about this. If she cannot accept you being a little anymore then perhaps she shouldn't have such a big role in your life, because that's not fair to anyone, especially you! You deserve to have your needs met in any relationship