Learning about littles

[Confused Mom]

Are Littles born as a little or do you become a Little through doing life?

[DeathMetalPrincess]

In my opinion, it's really something we become. I was introduced to DDlg from an ex of mine, and I found it was a perfect lifestyle for me to be a part of. No one is born into it, per se, but I do think some can get into it easier than others. Being a little means you are perhaps needy or dependent on your partner, but usually this is only in little space. DDlg is a subset of BDSM, however. It's not something people can just get into, nor is it something for everyone. I find being a little much more appropriate for me than being part of a "normal dynamic", because it feels a lot more intimate. I can be myself, whether I am in little space or not, and know that I am loved and accepted by my caregiver. I think anyone could be a little if they had the mind to.

[TheDaddyest]

Confused Mom I sent you a friend request. On tthis forum the only way to be private messaged is if two people are on each-others friends list. I would like to talk to you one on one if that's ok with you, If not that's ok too. hope all turns out well. 

[cuppycakes]

Hello again, Confused Mom! ~ヾ(＾∇＾) I can only speak from personal experience, but I don't think there was ever a moment where I "became" a little.

 

I'm not sure how to answer your question, but I can tell you a little bit of what being a little means to me and how I discovered DDLG in the first place if that'll help!

 

I've always been quite childish (I used a baby bottle until I was around 7, I never got rid of my stuffed animals, I've always been a little bit of a crybaby, etc.). On my 10th birthday I sat in my closet and cried because I didn't want to grow up. I've slept with a stuffed animal for as long as I can remember, and I never outgrew cartoons (I just learned to appreciate a good one when I got a little older).

 

My daddy and I met in highschool, and about 2 years into our relationship we discovered DDLG. We just kind of said "Oh wow that's exactly what we do! There's a name for this!". We didn't go out of our way to become something different, we just found out that something we naturally did had a community and label. Being a little isn't about having a littlespace or a daddy, it's about being myself and doing the things that I love and enjoy. As well as finding other people who love and enjoy the same things as I do!

 

I "became" a little because it's who I am. I can't say if I was born this way or if it was because of how I was brought up, it's just who I am (*＾w＾*)

[BabyKittenPaws]

I think it is something that is developed because I went through a stage of life where all I Wanted to do was be an adult and then eventually I was like lol fuck it and then regressed in age, especially because of my bpd

[Kara]

Honestly, what I feel and what I have seen I think it depends on the little.  There are littles that it is so what they are and has been they don't even realize they are sometimes, and there are littles that wish to be little and work hard at being little.  We littles are all different and we all have different needs and different desires.  As for me there has always been a part of me that was little/middle, I just never understood why I was so different until I was introduced to dd/lg.  Although that being said I am still learning more about me everyday.

Edited May 21, 2017 by Kara

[Harley_Quinn]

I don't think there was a moment I became little. I mean there was a moment of oh that's how I feel and i was able to have a name for it lol I just always thought I was childish. Or as my old psychiatrist called it "mentally trapped in a younger age, due to childhood abuse" blah blah blah (my new one said that's not true so lol) so basically I've always been little but I dunno about being born little. I was 14 when I was told I was trapped as a younger age I'm 20 now and my parents still say that

[LittlePupRune]

In my opinion from what I've noticed is that people are born with a predisposition to something (i.e. being a little, caregiver, etc) and things in life can reinforce that so some realize it and embrace it and others may not realize it since its not that strong for them, or they only dabble in it occasionally. There is no "one thing" that causes someone to be a little, its an accumulation of personality and experiences.

[SkunkPrincess]

Well, I've always felt like a little girl. But I did not know what DDLG was 2 years ago.

[Antoinette]

It varies from person to person. In some cases being 'little' is quite literally a part of someone's personality - it can't be changed, in other cases it is more of a role-play type thing or it could even be caused by their upbringing (good or bad reasons, don't worry).

 

It differs from person to person but on the whole I'd say it's almost like being gay. You can't help what you're into and you (mostly) can't help how you act. Ask any number of littles when they first started acting 'little' and I'd imagine most of them will say something along the lines of 'I've always acted like this I just didn't know there was a name for it'

[Guest Loki]

For me it's I never grew passed the "teenage" stage. I've matured, certainly, but I have never been nor do I know what it feels like to be an adult. But then I wonder if adults are even an actual thing and everyone is just pretending. :/

[princess gremlin]

For me, I think that I'm a little because as I've gotten older (I'm about to turn 20), I had a lot of anxiety about leaving my childhood behind. I started getting nervous when I turned 10, then got pretty emotional about turning 13, and then had full-blown panic attacks on and around my 16th birthday. I loved my childhood a lot, and found that a lot of childish things still felt very natural/fun to me (like how I'm a very needy/dependent person, and in high school I spent many late nights with friends in Toys R Us), but I didn't exactly understand why I felt that way, and I had never considered that I could continue to do/feel those types of things no matter how old I was. I thought there was a single model for how to get older or be a teen/adult, and I think even though I couldn't understand or articulate what I was going through a few years ago, my fear came from my subconsciously knowing there was a huge part of me that would resonate with childhood forever - and I thought that meant there was going to be something wrong with me as an adult. Also, in being a little, I've thought a lot about this and I realized part of it is that some of my favorite things from childhood are still just as 'mentally stimulating' for me now as they were when I was a kid (for example - the feeling of excitement when I think about playing on a playground is relatively the same as when I was a kid - it never stopped seeming "fun" to me as it may have for others).

 

I've also always loved working with kids, and it came so naturally to me that I just thought it was just about being a stereotypical woman or something??? But since I found out about being a little, I've realized it's actually just that I'll always appreciate childhood and relate to children. And even when I was a kid myself, I knew that I wanted to be a preschool/elementary school teacher, so maybe being little has actually been lifelong for me so far!

[Hisprincesss]

I was a grown up for a long timrvthem found my little side who is an age where I felt innocent

[Hallowtine]

I personally believe it can go both ways. Some people are just naturally child like and are sttracted to regressing simply because it's well them and on the other hand other little S can discover it and mesh into the life of ddlg.

 

I myself have developed as a little. I was forced into a life of being an adult at a very-very young age so as I got older I would regress in private and I'm still unsure completely as to why.

 

It just depends on the person honestly.