Boyfriend Doesn't Approve of DD/lg

[kileykat2]

I am somewhat new to DD/lg, but I have found myself to really enjoy it. Little space is where I feel the happiest I have been in a long time. So last night, I told my boyfriend that I have been hiding something from him, (it kind of slipped out), so I admitted that I am a little. We have been dating for a month, and I have known that I am a little for quite some time now. He thinks that "it is not healthy" and that this is super weird. (He used other words but I will not repeat those). He also said that he feels as if he can tell me anything now, because nothing tops how weird my interests are. I was very offended, but I did not say anything I am not sure what to do anymore. He said that he could not put himself into daddy space. However, I am a little that needs a daddy. I am not sure what to do, because I am afraid of not being able to find a daddy. Any advice? I would love to get him into daddy space, and see if he would enjoy it in the least, but I am not sure if he will trust me enough. 

Edited May 21, 2017 by kileykat2

[Mikaitaku]

you have a few choices, dump the boyfriend and find one who is supportive of you being a little. stay in the relationship and be belittled for being little. or stay and find a platonic daddy. 

[Guest mlkykit]

Yeah, you have a few choices to make. However, firstly, please remember that you can't make anyone like or approve of anything, nor can you make him go into 'Daddy Space'. If DD/LG isn't his cup of tea, then it's just not his cup of tea and you'll have to accept that.

 

With that said, you can either:

 

- compromise, stay and give up DD/LG, or you can stay and discuss with him if he'd be okay with you having a second partner who would step into the role of being your Daddy.

 

- leave and find someone more compatible.

 

- try to educate him about DD/LG and find a compromise. Keep in mind that DD/LG does have a bad reputation in wider society and perceived as weird because it involves grown adults behaving like children. So, to the outsider who knows little to nothing about the actual dynamic, it's a taboo kink and something they would never get involved with. Perhaps if he knew a little more, then he'd be more receptive. Also, if you decide on this option, please keep away from the cesspool that is Tumblr.

 

Ultimately though, the choice is yours; You'll have to be an adult and decide what's right for you. 

[cuppycakes]

@mlkykit yes yes 1000 times yes thank you for that beautiful response.

 

I wanted to add that age regression is actually recommended by many therapists, as a coping mechanism, as a stress release, as a form of self-care, etc.

 

If he's not open to at least talking about this, then you might not want to stay with him for a different reason. Talking to each other and being open minded is a great trait to have, ddlg or not. If he doesn't have that with this, there could be a bunch of other things that he's not open minded about, either. Really know how important of a trait that is for him to have.

[Hot loving dom]

It's wonderful that you have support here. May I add another alternative.

 

 

 

If you have communicated it with you bf of course, you could keep him and also have a daddy/Dom. In essence completing both sides of your needs

[Guest blumonkey]

One's nature brings one's self to become a dom. You don't try it out like playing Monopoly for the first time. He's already shown he is not DD material because he's degrading you. If he is already cozy enough humiliating you after being your bf you for a mere month, what do you expect after 6 months of what he'll be capable of?

You said you need a daddy. Do you need a bf who is not a daddy?

[SkunkPrincess]

You cannot force him to be your dom and like ddlg. Even tough, what he said to you was very close minded and not really friendly

 

You could stay with him and give up DDLG

or

You could dump him and try to find a Daddy.

[PrincessSacrifice]

I had something like that although I never actually mentioned it to my boyfriend but I was kind of quietly acting up (it wasn't even anything, just me sat there swinging my legs because my feet didn't touch the floor and I was feeling particularly more little than usual because I wasnt feeling well) on a date and he playfully told me off after I said I was 'childish' and just carried on with the date after I said I'd be good (aka my way of hinting about it in a way that he wouldn't get freaked out in public if he was going to be weirded out etc), so I thought he might make a good daddy but then on our next date he was weird with me and after that told me via message that "he couldn't give me the time I need" and we split up.

I don't know whether he kind of figured it out and didn't like it or what but I've realised I don't need him (especially if he finishes things via message) and I'm sure I'll find someone and the same will go for you! We had been dating for around the same time as you too

[Hallowtine]

Hey there- in my honest opinion if you need a daddy you need a daddy that should not somthing you can avoid.

 

Not only that but a significant other is supposed to support you and comfort you not to make you feel icky and weird... once upon a time I dated someone like that and later found out it cycled into abuse.

 

If your significant didn't like it he could have said somthing like "I can't do that, I'm not into that kinda stuff but if it's somthing you need you can have a platonic caregiver."

 

It's all up to what you want to do

Honestly because of his insults I would leave IMMIDIATLY

Making you feel gross or weird is emotional abuse and just means you two are most likely not going to work out.

 

Good luck!

[Nel-Chan]

Its like on one hand, its easy to see that dis isnt a lifestyle for everyone and that it does require a certain type,of person forbit.

 

On the otherhand,people are so,cruel about being,opposed to something...

 

Im,in,a weird...and quite,frankly I,find,more,difficult position where my BF and GF accept SOME aspects of my being a little, but seem to eschew others

[Guest Kali]

My only advice as someone almost 50 and in a vanilla marriage is this - don't compromise on such an essential part of your sexuality. Be grateful you found yourself now and not later. Tough decisions ahead for sure, but make the right ones now and avoid a world of pain later. Edited May 27, 2017 by Kali