Questioning the lifestyle

[Imgeekyandcool]

Has any other daddy been through a period of loneliness and just general depression questioned if they should continue with the lifestyle, and if so, any advice?

[Guest DeciDaddy]

You should take some time for yourself, and really ask yourself what it is that's making you feel lonely and depressed.

If the lifestyle itself is causing it, or the lack of a little, then it'd be a little odd to quit the lifestyle. When you say you wanna climb a mountain, you can't give up before you reach the top.

However if it's other things that are depressing you, you might wanna look at those things first, and work on those. If you can't indulge in the lifestyle, AND work on your own demons, then you'll have to make a choice whether you'll work on the lifestyle or on yourself.

 

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Try to work on being strong and secure in yourself and in your life in general, not in DDLG, and you will keep the things that are truly important to you, and leave behind the things that aren't. If DDLG is one of them, great. It's up to you to decide if it's a path you want to keep going down. Work on making yourself happy and fulfilled and and good people will gravitate to you no matter which lifestyle you choose to live.

[TheDaddyest]

Being a Daddy is, to me, fulfilling and gives me a lot of meaning in my life. Being single or (in my case) having a very scarce little can be very depressing and isolating. I felt the same way you did for a month and a half. I pushed everyone away and hid in my room waiting around for my little to wake up or get out of class or finish doing all the things she does (which is a lot.)  In the end you have to deal with these feelings of intense loneliness and unfulfillment by taking a step back, a deep breath and connecting with your friends/ if you have a group of guy friends even better. There is a whole masculine fulfillment too to DDing. That's what I did. And my loneliness is slowly going away. Don't obsess over finding a little for hours upon hours. I know it's addicting but with each little not right for you it will push you down a bit more. Just take a breath and a little break. the right little is out there for every daddy as long as they are passionate and kind imo. I don't know you but you seem very genuine and I'm sure she will come to you eventually. hope this helped. I know our situation isn't the same but I thought it might be close enough to give you a different perspective. 

[Frog]

I do, and quite often. DDlg makes sense to me like very little else has. But when I know I'll remain single, I do question my place, if any, in it. I think it's normal to question things, especially during bouts of loneliness or depression. It's hard to find your spot when you're not 100% sure what you need to do.

[Guest BeMyBaby]

For me it has been something that was not always on the table -- the right person at the right time always seems to find me and I am grateful for that. The first person that kindled the spark inside of me is long gone, but when I wasn't even looking, there she was.

 

I had no agenda and was in the middle of a lot of upheaval and chaos. I was bouncing back and better than ever and pow-- Daddy'ed again. I want to echo the advice to work on yourself. I wouldn't want to find the person that will change my life unless I was ready and able to rise to the challenge it will no doubt make!