RL Little friends.

[ChibiPuppy]

Sometimes I feel kind of down. It's nothing serious, but the fact that living where I live, in Sweden, means that I'll likely not have a proper friendship with another Little outside the internet. To me that would be the most amazing thing, to get to be myself around someone who is the same. We could have fun, watch cartoons, eat ourselves full on candy and play with our stuffies. Sadly though, it seems that's a hollow dream. The few people I've gotten in contact with that are relatively close to me either aren't responding when spoken to, or they just straight up disappear.

It would just be fun to have a ''Best Little Friend''. Someone to be Little with and do that stuff together with.

Does anyone else feel sad about this sometimes? Other Littles living in areas where there seem to be fewer of us?

[Guest Princessaj]

The answer is Skype and FaceTime.

 

You can connect with anyone, anywhere, any time and you can take each other with you on your mobile phones.

 

I have a friend in Taipei Taiwan and he takes me with him when he goes to lunch. He sits the phone up on the table and I have a snack and we are "there."

 

I take my vanilla bestie with me when I go shopping. I show her things, she shows me things and we have a great time. Even in the dressing room so she can see how things fit. She lives in San Francisco and I live in Los Angeles. 

 

Please don't waste the opportunity to find friends everywhere. Its hard enough to get along and keep friendships going no matter where one is. Play and have a good time when you can. Hugs.

[Guest PrincessLilith]

Yes and now google has replaced hangouts with Duo! which is facetime for android! but...... one problem.... what if daddy has ipone abd you have a s8... (galaxy)

[ChibiPuppy]

Facetime and video calls re not a solution. That has been basically my only contact with friends for years. I need an actually physical friendship. I like hugging and cuddling my friends, not just make faces all the time over camera. Not to mention my phone can't really handle having the camera on like that; battery would instantly die. Having a friendship IRL is really important, especially one where both understand each other and get along. I can't really do friendships with vanilla people anymore. Being Little and trans just doesn't work sith "vanilla" people. I have to spend half the time hiding who I am or get judged and the other half explaining transrelated stuff... again.

 

A RL littlefrind would in big parts solve this. I could be myself, they could be themselves and we could just let go and relax around each other. That's what I want. A real bestie for the first time in my life.

[ChibiPuppy]

Also, I am not wasting an opportunity to get friends online. Even online it's hard getting those kinds of friends. I've met a few littles that I've added to places such as skype, but they all end up saying it was fun video chatting, then they never respond or get back to me again. I don't even know what I do wrong.

[cuppycakes]

I know it's not the same, but find people IRL who love you and accept you. They don't have to be little. I saw on your profile that you like My Little Pony and coloring, but there's a huge community for that already! You're bound to find people who love those things.

 

LGBT+ or Allies are generally more open minded and accepting people because they accept you for who you are. If you find people who already accept you for being trans, you could also find out which of those people have the same interests as you. You guys could do little things together without even needing to explain what it is. After you trust them, and know they aren't the type to judge (maybe by testing the waters a bit) you could tell them. I've heard a lot of success stories about people "coming out of the toy box" and their friends are accepting and they can even go into littlespace with them around.

 

I know it's not the same, but it would help. Also, just keep looking. Don't give up. You can find little friends on accident, too. My best friend is probably a little (even though I'm 99.99% sure she has no idea what it is), and I found her by chance. Her bed is full of stuffies, she loves cartoons, and she has a lot of that child-like wonder about different things. If you find like-minded people and befriend them, you might find out you have more in common than you think.

[ChibiPuppy]

I know it's not the same, but find people IRL who love you and accept you. They don't have to be little. I saw on your profile that you like My Little Pony and coloring, but there's a huge community for that already! You're bound to find people who love those things.

 

LGBT+ or Allies are generally more open minded and accepting people because they accept you for who you are. If you find people who already accept you for being trans, you could also find out which of those people have the same interests as you. You guys could do little things together without even needing to explain what it is. After you trust them, and know they aren't the type to judge (maybe by testing the waters a bit) you could tell them. I've heard a lot of success stories about people "coming out of the toy box" and their friends are accepting and they can even go into littlespace with them around.

 

I know it's not the same, but it would help. Also, just keep looking. Don't give up. You can find little friends on accident, too. My best friend is probably a little (even though I'm 99.99% sure she has no idea what it is), and I found her by chance. Her bed is full of stuffies, she loves cartoons, and she has a lot of that child-like wonder about different things. If you find like-minded people and befriend them, you might find out you have more in common than you think.

Thank you. That is wonderful advice. When I think about it I have online friends that are LGBT+/allies that have all accepted me for who I am, little and trans all at once. I should just do that with RL friends too, although that feels so much scarier.

 

Thank you so much ♥

[Eternaa]

I totally understand how you feel. I live in Singapore and no one that I know is a little. I only have 1/2 little friends and they are online. I want someone to actually be able to Skype with me despite the timezone difference but it's actually asking a lot from the other party. I can't even be little at home.