First Time

[princessaesthetic]

Neither me nor my Daddy have done anything quite like this before, and we are just starting out! Would you all mind telling me how your first DDLG relationship went and give some tips/ideas for newbies??    

[Princess-P]

My only advice is to discuss what you both want. If this is a once in a while indulgence, a 24/7 lifestyle, or roleplay (sexual or non sexual).

 

Once you have that figured out just keep an open mind and try to find what works best for you. Do not get Vought up in trying to do things "right" because there is no right way to do it.

 

Explore your littleness. Some littles have a designated little space, some do not. Some are also interested in ABDL, some are not. Some like child age appropriate items, some do not. And some use rules/punishmemts/power exchanges and some do not.

 

Really the way you choose to be in the dynamic is only up to you. So try a little bit if everything, find what you like and ditch what you dont, and remember to keep an open and honest line of communication going at all times so your on the same page.

 

And while this should be a no brainer... I've seen far too many littles who are afraid of being "bad littles" for not want in gn the same thing as their caregiver and afraid to say no or to tell them how they really feel. Remember that littles are adults and have voices. Use yours.

[cuppycakes]

I agree with @Princess-P! There's so many different ways of being in this relationship, you kind of have to figure it out on your own. Some people (like myself) were already living the lifestyle before they even found out there was a label for it, some people found the label and wanted it, some people want it in their sex life but not in their personal life, some people like the idea of a power exchange but want something more gentle, etc.

 

I think once you find out what ddlg/cgl means to you, then you can be happy and realize where you belong. If you're interested in some forum topics, I can provide some, but also I encourage you to use the search bar on the home page! Here's some cute topics that I enjoy.

 

Rules:

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/2210-what-are-your-rules/page-1

Things that make you feel little:

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/4338-things-that-make-you-feel-little

BDSM test: (for fun)

https://www.ddlgforum.com/topic/15388-bdsm-test-your-daddylittle-aspects-and-some-others/

 

Take a look around! See what you like, see what you don't, and maybe even steal some people's good ideas o((*^▽^*))o