What do you do when/if someone say that you have 'Daddy Issues'?

[Winter's Child]

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Edited January 22, 2018 by Winter's Child

[alotalittle]

Honestly, the best thing to do is ignore it/delete their response/block them. Responding to them will never work because they just want to antagonize you. 

[Guest]

I know a lot of people in ddlg have super healthy bonds with their parents. I can't speak for everyone in ddlg obviously but my dad is my hero and I look up to him but I definitely don't have daddy issue.

 

They probably just don't understand the relationship dynamic and assume it's daddy issues before even knowing what's up.

 

As said above just ignore them. Not worth your time and energy to deal with ignorant people

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

Ignore it. There's nothing to say other than "I don't".

Beyond that you won't have much luck with people like that.

[BabySwe]

I don't really get offended by it. I mean, I do have daddy issues, nothing wrong with that. That's why ddlg makes me feel safe, precious and special Since I missed that as a child, I love receiving it now But each to their own, just because I have it doesn't mean everyone has it. But it doesn't mean they mean something offensive either by asking. Everyone has their struggles in life, and having daddy issues doesn't make someone worse than someone who doesn't

[Guest Georgia-Daddy2]

One of my past littles was told the same thing and I told her she should reply with "The only issue I have with daddy is when I need attention and he's busy" the look on the persons face was priceless

[Antoinette]

I'd be like cool and you have attitude issues b y e 

[Harley_Quinn]

I always say yeah daddy issues when he doesn't make me Mac and cheese right lol something along the line of when daddy makes me angry xD

[Guest Sinderella]

I would probably laugh at them lol Then go about my day like they hadn't said it. Tell them they have judgement issues lol.

[LilPetPet]

I agree with LittleZen.

And I also have daddy issues lol! So firstly, I say look inside to see if you really do have daddy issues. (I know you said you didn't, but in general). I have baggage from my childhood that makes me need extra loving care and lots of reassurance. I have a childlike personality anyway, but I know being little is a coping mechanism for me as well as being fun and being me. It can be helpful for us to know the reasons why we do what we do.

 

Whether or not you do, there isn't a need tp be rude to whomever asks you this. You can just explain the truth to their ignorance. Maybe being little is a stress relief for you. Maybe you don't have a "re ason". You can just try to help them see someone else's point of view. They may or may not be able to receive it. But you can be kind and spread a little light in the world.

[Chicki]

It's such a common question, at this point it's extremely stale. 

 

I usually just say no, or "could you be any more predictable?"

People really think that's what it comes down to... but that's clearly not the case lol.

[kissingkitten]

I like @Georgia-Daddy2 answer:

 

One of my past littles was told the same thing and I told her she should reply with "The only issue I have with daddy is when I need attention and he's busy" the look on the persons face was priceless

[Guest Bosscake]

Depending on who I talk to, a close friend would already know I don't have a great relationship with my dad so thats not really that far off to be honest haha. Otherwise I'd probably say:" let's stop blaming young girls for their sexuality and if we want to pathologize anyone it might be the old men only dating people half their age. That doesn't have to be wrong of course, unless the girls are underage. but if we should have a word for the girls we might talk about daughter issues as well, anyone up to that? no?" That usually makes people uncomfortable and makes them stop  

[Guest PrincessLilith]

Well like previous little's/middle's have said  ( i diddnt read all )  im okay with it. i know i have daddy issues. and honestly deep down i just wanna be loved the way i think i deserved to be. i didnt receive that as a child. my parents were never around, my mother wanted nothing to do with me untill i was a teenager. ( which she just wanted it easy ) and i was pretty much alone my whole life. aside from my sister i felt she was my only friend. im not gonna get too detailed as i dont feel its everyones business. im a private person and im very carefull who i share my life with. i have learned to do that over the years atleast. adandonment has atleast tought me that much.

[littlesuzy]

I don't really get offended by it. I mean, I do have daddy issues, nothing wrong with that. That's why ddlg makes me feel safe, precious and special Since I missed that as a child, I love receiving it now But each to their own, just because I have it doesn't mean everyone has it. But it doesn't mean they mean something offensive either by asking. Everyone has their struggles in life, and having daddy issues doesn't make someone worse than someone who doesn't

i also have daddy issue but being in ddlg makes me feel that im ok 

[SkunkPrincess]

Just ignore it. If you'll respond they will only be worse. Its not THEIR life, its yours.

[Frog]

People all want to explain things, especially when it's something they don't understand or like. People also jump to conclusions.

 

These two converge into explanations without asking or attempting to understand. If you say, "I don't, and here's why..." it will probably fall on deaf ears. They'll accuse you of hiding or lying to yourself.

 

I run into this regarding another aspect of my life (non-DDlg). All you can really say is something like, "No, I don't. You don't understand." Then carry on.

[LittleRae]

Hit them in their stupid ignorant face. Their opinion doesn't matter.

[Hallowtine]

Personally my responce is "I do, your point is?" LOL

It's just a stereotype that when females talk about sex in a non-vanilla way they are deemed to have "daddy issues" but it's slowly changing. Try your best to ignore it hon!

[HisuianLilligant]

No ones ever said that but I'm pretty close with my father-he raised me and my sister as a single parent. Doesn't affect my ddlb relationship or the way I view my daddy at all

[AllsonClover]

When someone tells me I have Daddy Issues I say "Damn right I do." Because I 100% do. But it is stupid to think that all littles do. That is like people who say all pit-bulls are bad. It just makes me mad  >.<

[Guest CaptainAmerica97]

I can understand that.

[his-sweetheart]

I do have "daddy issues" and I know this is an uncommon opinion but I can have a good laugh about how I ended up being a little instead of coping with it like other people   Going into little space and being cared for by my daddy is really my #1 coping mechanism for dealing with my distant father. Of course, my ddlg interests aren't solely based on that, but it's a big part of it. It's a pretty serious topic, but I'm thankfully not a very serious person, so if someone were to ask me if I have daddy issues, I'd probably just say "Yeah, isn't that somethin?" and laugh it off, because frankly it is a little bit funny lol!

Of course it goes without saying that there are plenty of littles with great parent/child relationships, but just not for me!

Edited January 23, 2018 by his-sweetheart

[PrettyLittleGirlyGirl]

There are worse ways to deal with daddy issues. In my opinion our inner child is our inner self, none of us should have lost the fun and play and expressions of our youth but we usually do in this world.