**TRIGGER WARNING** Hurting.....

[Lost_Wittle_Kitten]

I left my daddy... but I realized he was the only reason I was alive... and I wanted him back.... but he lost feelings for me after 2 days of us breaking up.... and a week later.... h-he.... he moved on to a new girl.... and it just.... hurts so much.... and I went back to self-harming after being clean for like a year.... And I can't.... Idk.... Idk how to be okay again.....

[Guest Fros†beard]

You need to realize that, to this point, it hasn't been anyone else keeping you alive.
Maybe you think so because you've externalized your own strength; your belief into someone else made you wade through it all.
It is, however, you and you alone that made this possible.

I know you must be hurting beyond words, but please remember that your value is not determined by the person you're with.

I wish you nothing but the best.

[NewDaddy94]

I'm so very sorry to hear that.. Breaking up is never easy, and obviously it must hurt a lot to see him move on so quickly. While I know it's not much of a consolation right now, I'm sure that you will be okay eventually.

 

I've just gotten out of a relationship myself, somewhat recently, and I know how bad it feels, and how hopeless everything can seem.. But there is light at the end of the tunnel, and sometimes we just have to accept that things don't always work out the way we wanted them to. 

 

Needless to say, self-harming is never a good idea, and I really hope you find the strength to break that habit again very soon. You were able to stop before, perhaps you can use some of the experiences from then, to stop again this time..?

 

There's not a whole lot I can do to help you, but if you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to message me.. I think it's good that you reached out to the forum and told your story, so you don't have to feel all alone in this..

 

Take care, and best of luck..

[Lost_Wittle_Kitten]

You need to realize that, to this point, it hasn't been anyone else keeping you alive.

Maybe you think so because you've externalized your own strength; your belief into someone else made you wade through it all.

It is, however, you and you alone that made this possible.

 

I know you must be hurting beyond words, but please remember that your value is not determined by the person you're with.

 

I wish you nothing but the best.

Thank you I really need to hear this... I am hurting immensely... I think I need to just realize that I have other people who are here for me and care about my well-being.... its tough though

[Lost_Wittle_Kitten]

I'm so very sorry to hear that.. Breaking up is never easy, and obviously it must hurt a lot to see him move on so quickly. While I know it's not much of a consolation right now, I'm sure that you will be okay eventually.

 

I've just gotten out of a relationship myself, somewhat recently, and I know how bad it feels, and how hopeless everything can seem.. But there is light at the end of the tunnel, and sometimes we just have to accept that things don't always work out the way we wanted them to. 

 

Needless to say, self-harming is never a good idea, and I really hope you find the strength to break that habit again very soon. You were able to stop before, perhaps you can use some of the experiences from then, to stop again this time..?

 

There's not a whole lot I can do to help you, but if you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to message me.. I think it's good that you reached out to the forum and told your story, so you don't have to feel all alone in this..

 

Take care, and best of luck..

Thank you so much. It is especially tough for me because he was there through one of the toughest times in my life.... I relied on him and trusted him with everything in my being.... and I let him pressure me into doing things I knew I shouldn't do because I knew I would get too attached if I did them... I just wanted him to stay.... I know that must sound like I'm such a poor sad weakling... Honestly I kind of am haha.... But it was so nice that I had finally found someone who cared about me, accepted me, and let me let go of my pain and become the child inside of me...

[NewDaddy94]

Thank you so much. It is especially tough for me because he was there through one of the toughest times in my life.... I relied on him and trusted him with everything in my being.... and I let him pressure me into doing things I knew I shouldn't do because I knew I would get too attached if I did them... I just wanted him to stay.... I know that must sound like I'm such a poor sad weakling... Honestly I kind of am haha.... But it was so nice that I had finally found someone who cared about me, accepted me, and let me let go of my pain and become the child inside of me...

 

 

You're most certainly welcome, my friend.. And I don't think you sound like a weakling at all; you're just going through some very tough times, and it's only natural to react to that.. Most break-ups suck, but I think that in this relationship dynamic they might suck even more, because of the deep and very special bond that is formed between people.

 

I'm sure that someday you can find someone else to give you all of those things; to make you happy But until then, somewhat like what Frostbeard said, remember that only you have the power to create your own happiness; that can only come from inside of you, not from anybody or anything else..

[LoonyLoveMay]

You are strong! And you are beautiful! I know it hurts now but you can make it. Because it wasn't him that give you strength, it was you all along!

And living is though but life has beauty in it. You are not alone! You just have to learn to love yourself more! Because you can't love someone truly if you don't learn to love you first... I know it sounds cliche but its true all along with being there, done that and own the t-shirt

 

I'm sure you have friends out there and here that love you and care for you. Even if you feel lost and alone... you are not. You will find love again and when you do remember the past you and smile because you did it and realice how strong you are. Instead of harming yourself do yoga! It helps a lot! Or meditation! or knitting!!!! (in the end you will have something cute for yourself)

 

I'm not good with words but If you need someone to talk... I'm here for you... just a message away