Was Called a Freak and Yelled at by Mom for LittleSpace

[LittleRae]

So my mom and I got into a big fight today...mostly because of money. She made Daddy and I pay 65% of the rent, but we both work minimum wage jobs, and she makes over a thousand a month in SSI. We're short, just a bit, but she freaked out at me. She called me a freak for being a Little, And then yelled at me for sometimes buying my Little stuff.

 

She made me feel guilty that I do what I do...and now i feel so low. I'm so depressed and feel so guilty for enjoying this. Help me?

[DaddyRaven]

I'm very sorry you had to experience that; unfortunately financial situations can bring a lot of things to the surface that the person may not really mean but says in the heat of anger.  Once everyone has cooled off, talk with her about it and explain to her how what she said made u feel; let her know you're glad to pay your share of things but that your dd/lg dynamic needn't be mentioned during arguments.  

[MonteCristo]

I'm very sorry you had to experience that; unfortunately financial situations can bring a lot of things to the surface that the person may not really mean but says in the heat of anger.  Once everyone has cooled off, talk with her about it and explain to her how what she said made u feel; let her know you're glad to pay your share of things but that your dd/lg dynamic needn't be mentioned during arguments.  

I wouldn't exactly say she didn't mean that; passionate arguments come from passionate feelings. Rather, financial situations bring out feelings that lay dormant.

You have to understand that some people may never understand the lifestyle and therefore may never accept it. If she's completely unfamiliar with ddlg it's also no surprise that she might see it in a negative light, given her own experiences in life and how it contradicts with her preset notion of what may be normal or acceptable. And I'm going to assume that it may not be what she's used to seeing, especially from her daughter.

Sometimes parental relationships are a bit more difficult to solve with just a simple sit down, as well.

 

That being said, you shouldn't feel guilty for what makes you happy. Life is about finding your own happiness and living to it. However, if you live with your mother, it might just be best to keep it behind closed doors until you have your own private place where you and your Daddy can take solace. 

[Kara]

I'm so sorry that you are going through that but please don't change or feel bad about who you are... it was not fair of her to treat you that way.  I know it's harder to do than to say but don't let it bring you down.  It will pass.

[Guest Sinderella]

I couldn't imagine . You should never feel bad for who you are. People will always judge things that they do not understand. You deserve the right to be yourself and be happy. I know it hurts but stay true to yourself, love! No one ever made a difference by blending in and going against the current of their beliefs.

[jjkandy]

My mom doesn't like it me being a little too. She said never to call myself that but I do it anyway! You should be proud of who you are. You can't let people change what makes you happy! Be yourself! Don't let anyone change that!