DDlg Isn't Taken Seriously

[DeathMetalPrincess]

I have a strong feeling that ddlg isn't taken seriously, especially by most people. Most people may view as as too strange for comfort, or even "pedophilic". This isn't true, though, and we all know this. But I have a certain dislike for people like Melanie Martinez (I sincerely apologize if you do enjoy her music but hear me out) for bringing the lifestyle to a wide audience. People like her seem to capitalize, commodify, and even downplay the importance of what it really is. It feels like Martinez just uses the lifestyle or aspects of it and perhaps ageplay and abdl as a gimmick to make money. Now I am all for others doing what they live, and even being able to profit off of it, but what she does doesn't seem right to me by any means. I am a proud little, but I am afraid to mention it to most people. I feel like I will get very negative reactions if I do. I don't know exactly how to explain what it is or just how it feels to be a part of the dynamic. I suppose what I'm trying to say (and I know I'm not doing a very good job of it) is that as the lifestyle is more and more known by the masses, the more it loses its value to those of us who cherish it. Think of it. People joke about calling someone "daddy" a lot it seems (not to mention the amount of "fake daddies" or "caregivers" there are out there). When they do this, however, they are taking away a crucial aspect of what ddlg is. I see it all the time, especially online. People just say the word, but they don't understand what it really means. A daddy is a caregiver, someone who can give their little a greater amount of love and intimacy than is likely to be found in most regular dynamics (I don't mean to say this is exclusive or anything, but in my experience caregivers really do tend to be more intimate and closer with their partners). Maybe I'm just blowing things out of proportion, though. I don't know. I'm just trying to organize my thoughts and express the bits of distress that I have. I love this lifestyle, but it feels like it isn't taken seriously or respected most of the time. Moreover, I don't know what I can do to help change how people view it.

[AsynchronousToddler]

Yeah, it's unfortunately not really taken seriously. And seen as wrong, creepy and perverted.

 

I'm personally still struggling to let go of the societal views and just be "Little Me"

[TheDaddyest]

I think the value littles and caregivers get from the relationship totally undermines the fact it's taken less seriously than pure bdsm. Plus the mutual benefits caregivers and littles get is the most important part of the lifestyle. And that's what matters most.   

[DeathMetalPrincess]

I wish it wasn't so misunderstood. I just don't know how to make people understand.

[AsynchronousToddler]

I wish it wasn't so misunderstood. I just don't know how to make people understand.

Yeah, it really sucks to that it's so misunderstood. But not everyone wants to/can understand :/

 

And I've got neither the time, nor the crayons to explain it to them XD

[TheDaddyest]

Yeah, it really sucks to that it's so misunderstood. But not everyone wants to/can understand :/

 

And I've got neither the time, nor the crayons to explain it to them XD

That's my take on it too. Minus the crayons part lol. But I find 2 things to add. One is DDlg couples who don't  mind being public about things seem pretty happy imo and don't let it bother them as much. And most people I have met have one kink or another and there's an unwritten code or politeness to it, I respect your kink you respect mine. That might be because I associate with weird people though and probably a larger percentage of girls would be more critical than guys I'm guessing. My reasoning is the whole daddy daughter thing can be off putting for someone who is actually a daughter. Like how I was put off by MDlb for a long time until I did some experimentation in it. 

[Guest blumonkey]

I got into building electronic circuits when I was a kid. The fact that people use electronic devices all day without having a clue about doping semiconductor materials in order to build said electronics.

 

While I know about this, I could care less trying to explain it to the masses.

[TheDaddyest]

Deathmetal I'm bored. Can I pm you?

[Princess-P]

The CG/l dynamic doesn't need to he taken seriously. To each individual it means something different.

 

I think many other aspects of BDSM are comical, or only worth indulging in for role play purposes... That doesnt mean they are taken any more or less serious buy someone who views CG/l in the same way.

 

The reality of it is that you can't change how someone views the dynamic. You shouldn't even try. Because the way you view it isn't the right way, its just right for you. To each their own.