A petition to all those who partake in DDlg

[WickedJax]

So before I start I'd to make this clear: If you do not agree with my conclusions then that's totally okay. We're all here because we love the life style, we don't need agree on every thing as long as we respect one another. 

 

I think that we, as a community, should move away from the mainstream. In the last year our lifestyle became something of a meme, and I noticed a huge uptick (This is admittedly anecdotal, but I can really only ever speak for my own experience) in 1. Under aged people expressing interest and 2. People speaking out against the lifestyle. 

 

More specifically, I think we should limit our community interactions and expression when referring directly to DDlg to DDlg and kink sites. (Ex: This forum, and FetLife.) Before you immediately click away, please allow me to make my case for this shift. 

 

Under aged peoples who express interest in DDlg, even though DDlg is not always explicitly sexual, will inevitably uncover the sexual aspects of the lifestyle, and I believe that the fears of the anti-ddlg propagators are well justified. The "Daddy Kink" has become first a joke, but also an unfortunate cause of straining parental-child relationships (I have unfortunately heard too many stories of daughters becoming more distant from their fathers because of this, and that is absolutely horrendous.) and the potential cause of the warping of younger individuals sexual identity. You and I are adults. Our brain chemistry has reached a point at which it is unlikely to change, but this recent entering of the mainstream has exposed our community to thousands, hundreds of thousands. Children are doubtlessly counted among that number, and the children, those teenagers, do not, in my opinion, yet have the right state of mind, both emotionally and physically (In reference to brain chemistry) to aptly cope and understand what they are being exposed to. 

 

To be clear, I am not arguing against the proper sexual education of younger peoples, rather, I am arguing that we as a community should make back to less known space where under aged individuals, and individuals who do not understand out lifestyle are less likely to discover us. Now, the question is this: How do we do that? Well, here's what I propose:

 

If you currently run a DDlg focused page on any social networking site, whether it be Facebook, Instagram, or Tumblr (This is the big one) I believe you should transition that page from a DDlg focus to a general BDSM focus, OR you should delete that page all together and start fresh. Example: Say you're a little and your Tumblr is mostly just cute stuff, that's fine! But I think you should remove any direct connections to DDlg from your page, including captions and references to DDlg terminology, which could be anything that might cause someone to discover the lifestyle. Words and phrases like Stuffies, DDs, LGs, etc. Even the vague ones. 

 

I think doing this will allow us to move again to major obscurity, which would ultimately be better for both us as a community and the people who either shouldn't or don't want to know about DDlg.

 

Thank you for taking the time to read through this, and I'd like to end this petition with the same sentiment that I opened it with: We do not need to agree, we need only respect one another, and should you decide that this conclusion does not align itself with your own perception, and that you will not follow through with my suggestions, I respect that, and I respect you. 

[Antoinette]

I don't think this would work. DD/lg has already been exposed to social media, to the public so on and so forth and to erase that is damn near impossible - it's the internet. I also think it's slightly unfair to suggest people should get rid of or change the focus of their entire blogs etc. just so underage littles steer clear; while I agree underage littles are a problem in our community, I also realise that it's practically impossible to reel in a teenager and make them behave when they believe they've 'figured themselves out' or are 'expressing themselves' I am not saying this means we do nothing about them, no. If there are ways to contact their parents - do so, authorities like the police even if it has to go that far but really there's not much we can do but deny them real access to our community.

Another thing, many people wouldn't even know they were littles or daddies if they hadn't stumbled upon a 'DD/lg' Tumblr blog/Twitter account/Instagram etc... So erasing it is like erasing confused people's chances of finding other people who are like them. I don't think that's entirely fair.

While this post is (of course) written with good intent and written respectfully I do believe the actual things that you want to implement just aren't realistically going to happen. Kinda sucks I guess, but hey ho. 

[NewDaddy94]

I agree with most of what xAntoinette said - especially the part about "erasing" certain people's chance of finding out about this lifestyle in order to find likeminded people or perhaps even "find themselves" (something I didn't even consider when reading the original post). 

 

Obviously I can only speak for myself, but the way I learned that I was a Daddy (and have shown those character traits in pretty much all of my relationships) was directly through online resources, such as DD/lg blogs, Tumblr and this very forum. If these resources had not been available, who's to say if I would've ever found out about this amazing relationship dynamic that feels so right for me?

 

The internet is a big, nasty, scary mess sometimes and surely, that will result in some unwanted things (underage people getting exposed to inappropriate material, just to name one), and while to some extent I get the point of what you are suggesting, WickedJax, I just don't believe censorship is the way to go. 

 

But a big thumbs up for the respectful tone of your post I think that's very important, especially since our community is often subject to a lot of disrespect - we certainly don't need to create any more of that amongst ourselves, if it can be helped.

 

Positive vibes from me!

Edited May 10, 2017 by NewDaddy94

[TheDaddyest]

We aren't allowed to talk about this. . I tried opening up the same discussion and almost got banned.  I'd just stay away from that concern on this website. I share your worries about it though. And I don't think moving away from the mainstream is a good option even if it could be done. Other than saying that I'm gonna keep quiet.