What to do when he doesn't want you to be little?

[LittleBambina]

He told me multiple times and again today that he does not want me to be little all the time, im a hurtful way. But the time I have with him is the only time out of the day that I actually get to be little. What do I do?

[Coy-Beauty]

Hello friend!

 

I think the easiest and simplest way to start is to express to him exactly how you're feeling. Tell him how important little space is to you (You might want to take some time to really think about what it does for you, how it helps you, etc.). Communication is key, with any sort of relationship dynamic- CGL is no different.

 

You might also want to consider his limits. Maybe discuss those in detail with him. Discuss what he is feeling and what his limits are. 

 

Have a solid dialogue to clarify your needs and his.

 

And of course, as a disclaimer, if he is in anyway making you feel that you should be ashamed or putting you down in any manner about your littlespace needs, then he is not someone to be with. CGL requires patience, trust, (a bit of pixie dust), and a dedication to one-another that is unlike any other dynamic. Your partner needs to be supportive and willing to work with you, if he is not that it is important to re-evaluate.

 

The best way to get through any rough patch, especially things like this, is to completely flesh out what you both are looking for. What are your requirements? What do you need from him? How do you think he can meet those requirements? How do you feel when he says things like this? 

Take into account his feelings; what is he looking for? what are his needs and requirements? How can you meet them and come to a consensus?

 

 

I hope this helped! Best of luck to you!! ~

[Coy-Beauty]

[i'm not really sure why it posted twice. I'm sorry]

Edited May 10, 2017 by Guest

[ChibiPuppy]

Hello friend!

 

I think the easiest and simplest way to start is to express to him exactly how you're feeling. Tell him how important little space is to you (You might want to take some time to really think about what it does for you, how it helps you, etc.). Communication is key, with any sort of relationship dynamic- CGL is no different.

 

You might also want to consider his limits. Maybe discuss those in detail with him. Discuss what he is feeling and what his limits are. 

 

Have a solid dialogue to clarify your needs and his.

 

And of course, as a disclaimer, if he is in anyway making you feel that you should be ashamed or putting you down in any manner about your littlespace needs, then he is not someone to be with. CGL requires patience, trust, (a bit of pixie dust), and a dedication to one-another that is unlike any other dynamic. Your partner needs to be supportive and willing to work with you, if he is not that it is important to re-evaluate.

 

The best way to get through any rough patch, especially things like this, is to completely flesh out what you both are looking for. What are your requirements? What do you need from him? How do you think he can meet those requirements? How do you feel when he says things like this? 

Take into account his feelings; what is he looking for? what are his needs and requirements? How can you meet them and come to a consensus?

 

 

I hope this helped! Best of luck to you!! ~

This is so true and important. My first CGL relationship was with a guy who was willing to be a Daddy for me, but he kept asking me to call him by his name every now and then and not to be little all the time. It hurt me, since I was still discovering the dynamic, Eventually we talked it through and it made me realize I had to end things with him and move on. He wouldn't be what I needed and I couldn't be what he wanted me to be, so it was a simple matter of just ending things. I now have the most wonderful mommy. Good things come along as long as you're patient and make well-reasoned decisions.

 

Good luck! ♥

[HisuianLilligant]

I'm a 24/7 little and my daddy never stops being daddy fortunately- I would hate that, you can't just "snap out" of being little on command-or at least I can't as it's my natural state :/