Living with family?

[morbidbunny]

My biggest problem with being little is that I live with my family. It makes it harder to be little. How do you handle this? Even when you're not living with your family? How do you explain where you are going or what you're doing? Any advice?

[Sparklefrosting]

I've always babysat or had a kid so if people questioned why I had little stuff I just said it was for the kids. People also assume my childish nature is a quirk, they know I'm different but not why. 

I don't think anyone would guess you're a little so if you get caught in the act just act like nothing's wrong. 

[Pekorin]

I'm living with my family too, I guess it does make it difficult for a lot of the gear like pacifiers and diapers, I don't use those so it's easier for me, I guess either hide or stick to a softer practice for now ? I don't think anyone is going to be that surprised if you're colouring ? Maybe get an adult colouring book and then switch to a princess one if that's what you like (judging by your profile picture it does seem like it ^^) many people like cartoons so I think its ok and you can still blame it on nostalgia, then stuffies shouldn't be too difficult either, again maybe if you go gradually they might get used to you behaving more childlish, just don't throw it all suddenly and show them your adult side is still very present ? At least that's what I kinda do and it's working, but I guess it depends on your family so hope that helped a little

[Guest Loki]

I live with my family too. My mum always encouraged us girls to stay "childlike", and I actually struggled with growing up because our mother has mental issues. She would (and still does) gets nasty mean if you do something she deems inappropriate for a "young lady", like say, thinking for your self. :/ but that's a whole other can of worms. For her I ignore her, and the last few years she just ignores me back.

 

My dad is slipping, though. He's the reason I moved back in with my parents, and he's entering "second childhood", so my middleness helps here big time. No one has patience for him. He sometimes needs explaining like a small child, and I have to make sure he is eating right and etc, so it's exhausting, but we mesh well together. He usually wants to watch teen or kid movies/series, and I got my love of art from him, so we do a lot of art stuff.

 

He's usually good, but sometimes he doesn't understand why something is dangerous. I can't regress to my little side because I have to be alert for him.

 

This is also why I'm just looking for friends. All the Daddies I've talked to want me to be available 24/7 and to be clingy, and that's the opposite of what I need and can do right now. My bio-dad comes first.

 

My advice is find someone you can be little with, like a kid. Or just hole up in your room. I know ignoring people doesn't work for all peeps.

Edited May 8, 2017 by Pinkyellowblue

[alotalittle]

Like Pekorin said, you can usually "get away with" doing some little activities when it's things like coloring, cartoons, and even stuffies. So when you are around your family, you should probably stick with those "safe" activities or try to avoid being little around them altogether. If the door to your room has a lock, then you can be your little self as much as you like behind closed doors. However, if you live in a household that doesn't value your privacy, then it might be best to wait until you can get out of your family's house. Unfortunately, when we live with our families (or just other people in general), we have to be respectful of them and their comfort zones even if that means we can't be our "true selves" all the time. 

 

For me personally, there's only one person who knows about my little side and I prefer to keep it that way. My little side is a very private thing for me. When I lived at home, it wasn't too big of a deal because my mom was completely understanding of me having stuffies and she and I often enjoyed doing artsy things together (so coloring was never a big deal). I watched cartoons and other little shows on my laptop in my room. Honestly, I didn't have much other little things in the house, so there was no way I could get "caught" being little. Sometimes being patient is the best thing you can do. 

[Littlebunny1]

I'm in the same boat..i find it easy for me to keep a softer practice until I am on my own again. I love just having my coloring books and blankets..my favorite blankets aren't too childlike so I'm able to keep them out without any questions.