Husband is not into ddlg.. But i am... A lot

[Beautiful Explosiion]

Hello everyone. I am new to being little. Have been married for quiet a few years without having known about my own kinks until recently. I brought it up to him, in hopes he would learn to be my Daddy/caregiver. He enjoys being called daddy in bed but that is it. He is not interested in the rest of the little aspect.i asked if I could safely arrange to have 1 daddy outside our marriage just to play. He has decided he would rather i don't. So respecting him I am sitting here in cute jammies, diapered with a stuffie. He acts like I haven't done anything different.. No reaction. Does anyone have any tips as to what I can do to show him how much I want this... Is there a special way to convince him it's ok to let me go play? I'm conflicted as I want to respect him.. But I as myself want and need to play.

Tia..

[Daddybloo]

Besides just going about you little business and talking to him about it I don't think there is a special way to show him as I've noticed a bit some people are ok with it, some are not, some involve there partner (ie letting them be daddy or at least both knowing/choosing your daddy) and some keep it a secret from there other half because there afraid of any kind of backlash I can only say keep a strong self guard your little self and speak up, be heard and if he doesn't want it still find it in your heart as to were you go next

[DaddyNewYork]

I suggest you see a couple's therapist. I know that if a girl asked me to play with another man I would be hurt.

 

That question alone would impact how I feel for her.

[Antoinette]

The thing is if he has stated that he's not comfortable with you seeing someone else for that reason I don't think there's any way you can make him be comfortable with it. You can't force somebody to be into the same things as you just like you can't force yourself to suppress your little side. So you're left in quite the predicament.

I don't know as to what extent you guys discussed DD/lg or the dynamic you would like to try but you have to keep in mind that just throwing it all at him would be overwhelming, perhaps talking about it again and asking if there's any small things he'd be willing to try to incorporate, for example brushing your hair is a pretty innocuous thing to do yet it can make you feel so little, perhaps endearments too if you're into being called 'babygirl' 'princess' 'darling' 'angel' ask him if he'd be willing to call you stuff like that. Small changes are more successful when introducing someone to BDSM or DD/lg rather than big changes. 

If all this still fails I would like to add that you can be a little without a caregiver. If this thought it hard for you to imagine then I suggest you try it first - if it's really just not for you then I'd imagine (although this is a tough thing to hear) you have a choice between DD/lg or your marriage - although I hope it doesn't come down to this.

Edited May 6, 2017 by xAntoinette

[Lindy]

I can definitely understand what you are going through. I can't really give you any sort of advice as I am sort of in the same place. But Unless it's mutually agreed upon, going outside the relationship can cause more harm than good. Before I do something, I ask myself how would I feel if it were my hubby. If I knew it was something that I couldn't tolerate, then it's the wrong decision for me.

As others have said, you can't force anyone into being someone they're not.

 

I also know how it feels to have to put a part of who you are away. Hubby calls himself daddy, but that's where it ends. He never was into the whole BDSM, DD/lg thing. I can't force him to do it. We tried several times and it just made things worse. I wish I could give you a few words of wisdom sweetie. I know how difficult it is. I keep my little side "in my head" and when I'm having a tough time of things, Most nights, Mr. Snuggles (my beary best friend), cuddle in bed and watch our shows together. Do what you can reasonably do to keep your little side. If you keep pushing the issue with hubby, it could push him away. Sending lots of hugs to you.

[Sparklefrosting]

Maybe ask if you could have a mommy cg? A different gender might be less threatening. Or if it's just about play time there are plenty of littles you could play with. 

[Nymph]

I agree with sparkle, you must respect his choice but at the same time you need to find options he would be ok with to cover your needs. I am married to my Daddy and he has allowed me to seek companionship (with very clear limitations of what we can and cannot do) until our life becomes a bit more stable and we can be together again... yes we are married and long distance.

 

In the meantime confirm with him if little friends would be ok, he probably won't mind and it will help you some until you guys figure something out that works for both of you.

[Abstraction]

I think diapers is a big first jump. I'd start with an age play sexual fantasy. Just talk to him in a sexy baby voice when you do it. It's not hard to get him to play along if it means sex. Is there's something he likes you don't do often? Make that something you 'crave' in an age play scenario. Read up on classic conditioning.