My boyfriend doesn't know I'm a Little..HELP

[Guest Cutecumber]

Hi all! I'm not quite sure how to explain but I'll try!

 

I have a new boyfriend. His name is Tyler and he is very, very sweet and smart and pure. I love his floppy hair and his puns. (He does lots of animal puns to make me smile!)

 

But he is very sheltered. He comes from a upper-middle class family, does not misbehave, and is very solidly perfect.

 

He doesn't know that I'm a Little, and I'm not sure he even knows what that is, to be honest. Tyler is sweet and wants a good relationship with me, but what do I do if he starts to notice odd changes between my big self; a 19 year old student, and my little self; a 7 year old bundle of sassafrass.

 

I don't know what to do! I need advice!

[Daddybloo]

I'd say you could try having an adult chat about it...start with if he knows what littles ect are and go from there take your time and don't over do it....you dont want to melt his mind with all your awesomeness

[MonteCristo]

You don't have to throw him into the lifestyle right away, and it's completely possible he could never get into it. Best method in my opinion is to introduce it to him slowly! Let some of your little slip out and see how he reacts, try and push some of the dynamics of a typical DDLG relationship before you go into the full explanation of what you really want and how you really feel.

In the end, your little self is a part of you, so don't be afraid to open yourself up.

[Guest Cutecumber]

You don't have to throw him into the lifestyle right away, and it's completely possible he could never get into it. Best method in my opinion is to introduce it to him slowly! Let some of your little slip out and see how he reacts, try and push some of the dynamics of a typical DDLG relationship before you go into the full explanation of what you really want and how you really feel.

In the end, your little self is a part of you, so don't be afraid to open yourself up.

I am able to maintain an adult relationship but i already see glimpses of caregiving in Tyler

[Antoinette]

Just talk to him about it. Communication is key in any relationship and if you can make it clear that you're able to communicate about serious things effectively from the get-go it shows maturity and also that you want the relationship to work.

I'd ask him if he's heard of DD/lg, if he's at all into BDSM... Perhaps even ask him to take that BDSM quiz thing? But when it comes down to it subtleties won't really get you anywhere - once a natural conversation about BDSM/DD/lg is introduced I think then you could perhaps state that you're into DD/lg. But hey, do it in whatever way works best for you.

[Guest Princessaj]

Thank you for sharing,

 

I just had a thought...Why not take him on little dates?

 

When you plan to go out and you can suggest an activity, choose to go the park, swing on the swings, slide, go around on the merry go round, make a picnic with little food, bring a stuffie....you don't have to say a thing, just make it a little event.

 

Get him to help you make a pillow and blanket fort with fairy lights and all you can think of, the more you invite him through your actions, you may never have to say a word.

 

I am sure you can think up many things to do over time being little. He will fall in love with your little without even knowing it.

 

Make him the Hero! Ask him to do things to "help" your little= help you. Something is up too high. Can't get the lid off the jar.

can't make you mind up on what to order in a restaurant..have him choose and tell the waitress....The more that call out his "Daddy" the more he will be everything you want. Hugs