Why are you little?

[Guest AZDaddydom]

Hello everyone, ok so I hope this does not come across the wrong way to anyone but I want to know why you are little. I'll give you a little of why I'm asking. My wife/princess and I are fairly new to all this and I'm learning how to be the best daddy to her and she is learning more about her little side. This started off as she liked me being more dominant and controlling but after some bdsm we found out we like the softer side of the sub/dom thing. I like the role of a daddy dom and she likes being taken care of. So I did some research about this and found it is up my ally and hers. Now I have always noticed she has some little/bratty tendencies but I didn't realize what they were until I met others on here with the same tendencies, i.e. likes to color, hair brushed, cuddles, pouts, ECT. Now she has never seen it but is starting to now. My question is for more of those that maybe didn't know they were a little at first but over time found it relaxing. I want to know why you are little, other than its just who you are, is there a reason to some of why they love to go there? Is it mostly a stress reliever? For those that were introduced to it or found it later in life was it odd at first using it as a stress relief, doing little things that is? She is the type that tries to do way too much on her own and stresses herself out. She gets some minor anxiety attacks sometimes because she takes on too much. I just want to help her and she likes this little stuff but has not found that switch that takes her from too much to do as an adult to little space. I hope this made sense, I just am trying to find out how I can help her and who else used it for a stress relief at first but now just loves it.thanks

[Ami29]

Awwww..I think that's so sweet doing this for your princess ..

Why am I a little..is not that I use it for release some stress ,on the contrary I got stressed because I tried to suppress it. Just like you guys I thought bdsm was too much,and less caring when in role play.but still eagerness to please is there,submissive personality check so I found ddlg.i just feel free as a little princess more than as an adult..and that reliefs a lot of stress,and I found out that I do act a bit like an a little even at work,so must be a part of personality.

.and since I am new to this too..I find it difficult to go into little space. Just being around toys,cartoons and the switch is on..maybe setting a similar mood for her might help.after awhile she would start distress and let it go..hopefully.that's how it is for me now. I hope it would worked out for you guys ❤

[Guest AZDaddydom]

Thanks, her way of dealing with stress before I think added more stress and fatigue and I feel this has made her more at peace and see the fun side in everythung. Now I know sometimes she wants to be Just an adult and there is a time and place for everyrhing. But I also notice when things start to become too much and she begins to feel very anxious and I'm trying to find those triggers. Right now I'm her biggest trigger which is very ok.

[Pup]

It's so nice to read that you want to help her with this. Sounds really sweet.

 

I don't know how to help, but I can tell why I'm a little. For me, there is no bdsm side to it, because my boyfriend refuses that. But being a little is so nice. It's a stress reliever for me, although I found it hard to make the switch to little.

 

Planning little time helps me to take a step back from the adult life. To calm a little bit, to have a place without worries, without time. To be around myself and be creative.

 

I hope this makes sense and I hope that it is useful for you two. I wish you the best xx

 

xx Icetea

[Guest AZDaddydom]

Thank you, I any really trying not to be pushy, as i just absolutely love her when she is in little space but I also truly believe she has not found her true little side but like I said she needs to find herself in this, I can't force it but just trying guide her that way. I think she had been used to being in charge and taking care of everything she has a hard time finding that switch. As for me I just need to be very accepting of what ever little side she has. I know I'm one that loves the very little side, paci, bottle, outfits, ect. So I just try to be patient and see what she likes.

[littlesuzy]

why i am a little it started when i was a young age was like 12 and my boyfriend was into Daddy kink so i did for him and i found myself in a head space for little's and i love it so im a little of the age of 5 and i do because it makes me happy

 

there is a lot other reason we become little or why we do it

 

im happy you are doing it for your little and i which good luck 

[LilPetPet]

For me it definitely is a stress release/safe place for me. But it goes beyond that, too. I am very young at heart. I still love all my childhood favorites. I didn't magically turn into another person just because I got older. Of course I have grown and changed a bunch, too! But my interests are the same.

But as I grew, I got weighed down with life. I forgot how to have fun. But my Husband showing me my little side made me happy and fun-loving again.

[Guest AZDaddydom]

For me it definitely is a stress release/safe place for me. But it goes beyond that, too. I am very young at heart. I still love all my childhood favorites. I didn't magically turn into another person just because I got older. Of course I have grown and changed a bunch, too! But my interests are the same.

But as I grew, I got weighed down with life. I forgot how to have fun. But my Husband showing me my little side made me happy and fun-loving again.

So your husband saw your little side and helped yoy find it? Is he the one that introduced you to ddlg? My wife is like that too. she loves things from when she was little and gets excited about them still. She is very independent and takes charge when she needs to and on that outside you wouldn't think she has a little side but she does, she only opens it up for me. Does that sound like you?

 

May I add you?

[LilPetPet]

Oh sure! I love to make friends. As far as others not knowing I have a little side...it depends on how well they know me. I like to dress in pastels and wear little girl bracelets, so people can guess. And if the topics come up, most people will know that I like sci-fi and superheros. But many of my friends are Christian and we have talked mostly about life and faith and haven't spent enough time together to talk about other things. Praise God that we talk about the weighty things first! But I think aome of them have different interests than me. Like they'll talk about homeschool (I homeschool) or decorating. So I kinda keep on the downlow. But they have to notice some of my clothing choices. I guess it jsut depends on how observant people are. But my best girl friend and my family totally know I never grew up all the way. And I'm proud of that. People who are "two grown up" are grumpy, to put it nicely.