Asking for pics after 1 minute of talking?

[Pielover]

Just curious about other people's opinions on this , I find when I talk to new people the first or second thing they say is can I see a pic ? I just feel like people well only wanna continue talking if I look a certain way instead of actually getting to know me , sometimes I'll be like sure send a picture and never hear from them again or everything becomes about how "cute" I am does anyone else have this problem ?

[Guest Cutecumber]

yes

[IchigoHime]

That's usually a red flag for me. 

[Jupick]

Just from a daddy perspective - there are a frightening amount of fake accounts on here. I'm not trying to defend it as such but maybe other people like me are getting a bit sceptical? Just looking for proof of existence?

[Guest Daddy'sShyKitten]

It can be a big red flag, but some people just want to know what the person they're talking to looks like. I've asked for pictures before when talking with people, simply because I like to imagine that I'm talking to them face to face.. If that makes sense. 

[Ami29]

I actually don't like that...at least know me then ask to see my face.

Give it at least a day..for fluffy sakes..annnnd I love imagining how a person looks like without seeing their pic..It makes it a lot fun..even if you believe it's a fake account..I might think the same about whoever is asking for my pic..we have to be careful..even if it's just a face,that's my face I would be sending..let me at least know your first name before you start demanding...lol..I got a mile away from. oTT ✌Peace..

[DaddyNewYork]

I think it's acceptable but I understand why it can be offensive.

 

But think about it. If you two were meeting in person he would already know what you look like.

 

Yes looks are important. I can guarantee that if someone looks a certain way you wouldn't date them. There's nothing wrong with that.

 

However when it comes to online dating I find that it is women that can be the pickiest. They get the most messages without having to work and they succumb to the paradox of choice.

 

Bombarded with choices and therefore expectations climb so high even the smallest flaws are disqualified.

 

That being said littles are little more forgiving and much more down to earth than a vanilla girl on match.

 

Just my two cents

[DaddyNewYork]

Let me elaborate. Normal pics are acceptable

[Princess-P]

I think its normal to ask for pictures. Although its easy enough to send a fake pic. As long as its not an obscene photo I dont get why its a big deal.

 

I can understand that some people dont like it and thats fine to. No is a perfectly acceptable answer but asking doesn't hurt.

 

I personally have a hard time making friends or keeping communication going with someone when I have no idea what they look like. It feels too impersonal. I dont really care if the other person is attractive or not since I have no other intentions other than friendships.

 

I can see if your talking to someone with the intention of finding a partner how looks can influence things. However I believe in stating that you dont look attractive to them is far better than a total ghost. Preferences are normal. Not everyone is attracted to the same thing. While personality counts for a lot, physical attraction is needed for many relationships.

[DaddyNewYork]

I think its normal to ask for pictures. Although its easy enough to send a fake pic. As long as its not an obscene photo I dont get why its a big deal.

I can understand that some people dont like it and thats fine to. No is a perfectly acceptable answer but asking doesn't hurt.

I personally have a hard time making friends or keeping communication going with someone when I have no idea what they look like. It feels too impersonal. I dont really care if the other person is attractive or not since I have no other intentions other than friendships.

I can see if your talking to someone with the intention of finding a partner how looks can influence things. However I believe in stating that you dont look attractive to them is far better than a total ghost. Preferences are normal. Not everyone is attracted to the same thing. While personality counts for a lot, physical attraction is needed for many relationships.

Agreed

[Guest blumonkey]

agree with Jupick, because catfish

[Guest Ginger]

Personally if someone immediately asks for a pic, it's a red flag to me as well. I don't mind sending one if we've been talking for a bit but after one or two messages? I'd decline, it makes me uncomfortable.

[jaredstone363]

I think it's a HUGE red flag. I don't see a problem with asking for a pic if you've been talking to someone for a while and even then the pic should be tasteful. I think someone that ask for a pic in the 2nd or 3rd text is creepy. 

[Johnny Hammersticks]

Some people seem to be very forthcoming and not shy at all about sending pics, and others seem to be quite reserved and cautious about sending them, but as a general rule, I feel it's sorta rude to ASK for pics, 'specially right away.

 

Usually if the other person is cool, and you are cool, you can get a feel for if the person you are talking to is genuine quite quickly. And the best way to go about seeing the other person is to send one of yourself first, then maybe casually say "may I see you, please?" Just be polite about it and it's not as.. stalky.

[PastelGreen]

Personally if someone is to ask me send a pic after a minute or two it makes me uncomfortable and make me feel like they are just after the appearance and once they don't like how I look they will leave without anything, so I make me my profile pic so they wont ask after talking for a minute or what. I'm not saying that all is like that because there are people who just want to see and know if you are real.

 

We all have different perspective about this so I guess being polite when asking and clearing things will make things better.

[switchlittleloves]

Just like anything with humans, it's all ideas, man. If a guy asks for a picture too early then yes, there are reasons to lump him in with all the baddies and label him a creeper or a superficial butt. There are reasons for both sides though. We aren't in their head. All we know is how it makes US feel, and we can't be sure what their motivations are until we see a trend in their actions. If they see what you look like and then just leave, yeah they were being a butt. And yes, that's a pretty common thing now. It's just something that I think guys should stop doing because of how easy it is to make someone uncomfortable that way. Sometimes youvve just gotta make an effort not to LOOK a certain way, regardless of if you are that way. Not because it actually is rude, but because of the reasonable reactions to it. If someone did that to me right now I would probably remember the dudes that have sent me unrequested nasty pictures right after an exchange like that. I would project that onto them, and that's a fair thing to do if you've had bad experiences and they start to repepat themselves. BUT IT'S STILL REASONABLE TO WANT TO KNOW WHAT A POTENTIAL FRIEND/PARTNER LOOKS LIKE. Edited May 6, 2017 by switchlittleloves

[Guest PrincessLilith]

i dont mind pics... just umm my red flag is nudes. i am 100% uncomfortable with myself. and no one understands.

[Guest DaddyDom2017]

1st contact, maybe a red flag, maybe not. If the person asking has their pic in profile or sends a pic with that message, mprobably less of a red flag to the recipient.

That being said, if in doubt, better to be safe than sorry.

 

2nd contact, very reasonable to ask for pic.

 

Asking for nude pics would be red flag for a long time... just saying.