You just met me? Um.. don't say you're "Daddy"

[Guest Cutecumber]

If you just meet me, I am not going to fall head over heels. Who knows if I'm even looking for a relationship right now, right? I am strong and stubborn and violently scared of trusting.

 

STOP MAKING ME UNCOMFORTABLE

[DaddyRaven]

couldn't agree more; I feel the same way when I meet a new Little and she immediately calls me "daddy"; I'm like, "excuse me but when we did define any kind of relationship, let alone a daddy/little relationship?" 

[DaddyRaven]

to me, that kind of talk means the other person knows nothing about what a true dd/lg relationship is about

[Guest Cutecumber]

to me, that kind of talk means the other person knows nothing about what a true dd/lg relationship is about

It really does make me angry. Its almost like a dick pic; unwarranted, unsolicited, unexpected, and unnecessary.

[DaddyRaven]

yea and pretty much makes any further conversation on the subject with that particular person, dead in the water- at least in my opinion.  

[Guest Cutecumber]

And let me rant here; I am a Little but that does NOT mean I am a plaything (at least, not any random guy's plaything, if ya catch my drift) I am still a person that has emotional feelings that make sense and that means that I am still on my guard. So sending a message wherein you call yourself my "Daddy" or call me pet names, is the same thing as sending a weird message to a girl you just met, asking her if she wants you, her "boyfriend" to come over.

 

And therein lies the problem with this community sometimes. Some people do not understand that I am a person, I think. Do I like things that are atypical for a 19 year old? Yes. Do I go into Little space often? Of course. But am I desperate for you just because I may have the mindset of a 6 year old? Heckin. No.

[Guest Cutecumber]

I don't NEED any guy to waltz into my PM and tell me he is my Daddy. It makes me embarrassed, feel devalued, and ultimately misunderstood. Aw, bumpers, now I'm angry.

[DaddyRaven]

couldn't agree more with you; one has to get to know someone first, as a regular person before even diving into the dd/lg aspects let alone automatically assume they're already with you, because you replied to them 

[DaddyRaven]

that'd be like also talking to a girl I meet at a store, for example and saying , "hey I've known u now for a cpl of minutes, want to take your top off for me?" What some don't realize is what you can't do offline is the same online.  Use the same manners (or if you have none, use some ) that you would in the regular world, online as well.  

[Guest Cutecumber]

that'd be like also talking to a girl I meet at a store, for example and saying , "hey I've known u now for a cpl of minutes, want to take your top off for me?" What some don't realize is what you can't do offline is the same online.  Use the same manners (or if you have none, use some ) that you would in the regular world, online as well.

 

Intelligence suits you, good friend.

[DaddyRaven]

common sense is a dying skill; I see it daily on facebook; yet another reason I'm more of a loner than a group person 

[Guest Cutecumber]

I would consider myself a misanthrope.

[DaddyRaven]

I'm very close to that to be honest lol 

[Mr. Grinch]

If you just meet me, I am not going to fall head over heels. Who knows if I'm even looking for a relationship right now, right? I am strong and stubborn and violently scared of trusting.

 

STOP MAKING ME UNCOMFORTABLE

 

Hey i just met you

 

and this is crazy

 

but here's my experience

 

so call me daddy maybe

 

 

 

 

I hear your pain Cutecumber!!

Edited May 3, 2017 by Mikey F'ing Mike

[Guest mlkykit]

I find that when I clearly state in my profile that I don't appreciate random men on the internet calling me pet names or assigning themselves a place in my life, I won't get messages like the ones you're complaining about as often. Of course, there will be some asshats who'll disregard my wishes completely, but at least they aren't as plentiful. Also, being a blunt sassy sassafrass helps as well.

[Guest Prat]

Tell em!

[Little Illy]

My personal "favorite" is when these "Daddies" respond with: 

 

- Well, I thought you are little?

 

I am

 

- Good. I'm a Daddy and if you were a REAL little, you'd be my baby girl, and I your Daddy. 

 

Uhhhh

 

- Aren't you a REAL little??

 

....

 

I can't stand that backwards logic. Just because I am white doesn't make me a white supremacist. Just because I am a female doesn't make me a housewife. Just because blah blah blah - same goes with being a little. Ugh. #Rant

[Johnny Hammersticks]

I really feel bad for you girls who have to deal with all this jackassery from 90% of the guys out there. Just because a guy calls himself "a daddy" makes him one, it does not.

 

There really should be some sort of a certification process, testing, a union, an official I.D. card a guy can show, to prove he meets some basic standards. Cos there's way too many guys out there giving the title a bad name.

 

Good luck everyone

[Alextheswitch<3]

I RELATE TO THIS ON A SPIRITUAL LEVEL

[Guest Cutecumber]

I swear even in this forum I get like, 9 guys a day just asking me to be THEIRs and I'm like I am independent and fine right now, and you don't know my name yet sooo thanks but, no thanks.

 

Does anyone really respond in kind to that? Like:

 

Hey! I'm (Insert generic name here) and I'm (age). Talk to Daddy, baby girl!

 

-Yes! Hello, you are my Daddy and I just met you online but you are mine I am yours, lets get married and meet at a McDonalds in Arkasas!

 

Coloring! Stuffies!

 

-YEs! DAddy!!

[Guest Cutecumber]

It. Doesn't. Happen.

[Guest Loki]

I've had both sides, actually. People just decide I'm their little, or just decide I'm their Mommy. It's like, excuse me, are you lost? My profile says clearly I'm looking for friends. Not a Daddy, not a little, and not an owner. And I don't do hookups. :/

 

Respect and intelligence are sexy. Desperate grasping is not.

[Guest Cutecumber]

I've had both sides, actually. People just decide I'm their little, or just decide I'm their Mommy. It's like, excuse me, are you lost? My profile says clearly I'm looking for friends. Not a Daddy, not a little, and not an owner. And I don't do hookups. :/

Respect and intelligence are sexy. Desperate grasping is not.

That last part needs to be a part of the pledge of allegiance

[Guest Cutecumber]

This has a lot of views and replies and I thought, "Great! Maybe that will get those mumble bumbles to fuck off! Victory is mine!"

 

 

But alas, that is not the case, and I am quite sure it will never be the case. I can't win. I can't win because I am not only a young woman, but I am different than most. I am a Little and even without that part of me...what kind of person do you have to be to make an account on a small forum, set up your profile, upload a picture or two, write a blurb about yourself to gain interest, post a few things, send some friend requests....

 

 

ALL TO APPROCH SOMEONE FOR A SEXUAL ENCOUNTER...

 

 

Now, honey, if you are reading this and you are one of the people who:

 

 

A. Proclaim yourself someone's Daddy

 

B. Ask for a "fun time, little girl" before asking for a NAME

 

C. Make people uncomfortable by calling them pet names five minutes in.

 

 

Then I have news for you; I care about you as a human being, but I wish wish wish you could understand.

 

 

Harassment comes in many forms; I have been sexually harassed, and most people (men and women) have as well. We know harassment exists online, but do we address it? Not often.

 

 

I do not like being asked for my name and then asked, "what pet name do you want to be called, baby girl?" As if I wanted it at all.

 

 

I do not like being labeled as an automatic *slut that will immediately wink back and have a "fun time"

 

 

I do not like when people come into my inbox and say they are my Daddy. (And then have the nerve to question my identity when I say no. i.e. "Then you aren't a REAL little.")

 

 

Please STOP. I believe I speak for evvvvverrrryone on the hecking planet when I say I would like to be treated like a human being, not an object when I don't desire it, and not a joke to you. I am not a joke.

 

 

I am a Little who is still a person. I am more than sex and BDSM and DDLG and, and, and, and, AND.

 

 

So, guys, girls, and everyone in between; I care about you because you ARE, but if you are doing these things, rethink; you may make someone go a bit batshit and post a new topic about it.

 

 

XOXO

 

Cutecumber

 

 

*Disclaimer: Ya can be a slut if you want to. It isn't derogatory or ill-mannered, it is just a word. Be a slut, don't be a slut, be YOU

[Guest blumonkey]

1) one word or very brief replies, and not adding to the conversation ... they aren't interested but being polite... leave them alone

2) use first names, and optionally the dom can be called Sir/Ma'am....  until you both know for sure (after 1-2 months)

Edited May 4, 2017 by blumonkey