Identity issues between adult and little

[Pekorin]

Hi everyone ! ^-^

 

Im looking for advice here and wondering about how you all dealed with the issue of identity ?

More precisely :Do you feel like your little and adult side are separate or do you feel like you're only a little and forced to adult or do you feel like you're always both at the same time ?

 

Because for me I think I need to be both at the same time since I've come to this community feeling like I was finding an important part of myself but also feeling like to properly incorporate it I couldnt just have a little space because it feels unnatural to me ? I can't just forget my more mature side when I am little because i am trying to be both, which is why I don't feel like pacifiers are for me but I do enjoy sticker charts, bubble baths,softer food toothpaste and softer everything, and I draw instead of coloring, I don't really age regress ? I do get more into a comfort zone but it can't be too far away from when i behave more mature ?

 

I don't really know what to make of that because now that I found ddlg I know that I couldnt do without this part of me that I found back but I still struggle into know where my boundaries are

[Guest littleloveslars]

I identify as a little but am not into diapers or pacifiers. In one sentence i can talk to daddy about job applications and taxes and in the next sentence i can be cuddling my stuffies and baby talking. I need to have intelligent conversations, and adult interactions, but i also need my little side. Its like being a playful adult sometimes, and other times like being a little kid. Dont try to box yourself in to any definitions. Just be genuinely you.

[Guest mlkykit]

I relate with a lot of what you stated. I don't age regress, use pacifiers, babytalk or even colour. DD/lg is what you make it and you create your own boundaries; there's no set way to be Little or participate in the dynamic. Just be you and do things how you'd prefer.

[Kara]

I have only really embraced my little side recently because for so long I had to be the adult all the time.  I knew my little was there and longed to be free, and would slip out (mostly at the wrong time) but had too many responsibilities and kinda buried her deep inside.  I wasn't until I found my friends here that I was able to be more me.  There is still so much of my little side that is hidden but she is slowly coming to the surface.  I still have so much adult things to deal with, but now I am finding a way to balance both.  Mostly thanks to a very special friend who will never know how much they have helped me.  

 

Long winded I know but my answer is I feel both sides of me are a balance of me.  As far as age regression goes when the little side of me comes to the surface she is more carefree not really regressing like you said to a really small age, but I do like to hear when I am a good girl, and not use to it but do like being spoiled.. but I think that's why I am more of a middle.  I don't know if I am just rambling or if it helps any or anyone and will probably feel like I have shared to much later.

[Pekorin]

Thank you all for your time and advices it's really helpful and reassuring

 

I've always been a soft and sensitive person but that also made very selfless? I always try to hide my emotions and what I want because I want to do my best to help others (whatever insecurities are behind that) I take a lot of pressure upon myself and always adult, I think that it's so anchored in me that I have never been able to get out of this and so never have been able to be in a relationship because I don't know how to be myself, I'm happy to know that there are other littles that don't use pacifiers and all of that gear even though I do like the idea of sippy cups a little, Im still not completely comfortable with using them though, because it's a big change, I also love complex discussion topics like those mentionned before and am not afraid of taking things into my hands often but it is precisely because I always feel it is my role in my other relationships that I need to relax, I wouldnt want anyone to tell me who to vote for when it's election time (And I live in France so it is) I also love talking philosophy or quantum physics, astrophysics, art history etc but I don't think I can be in a vanilla relationship because I want a mentor/daddy (I do struggle with the title even though it appeals to me), to be guided and cared for as well as feel that the person i am with is playing a more superior role, I need to be able to let out my soft side and more creative childlish one too, the dynamic is what I am looking for I just need to explore it by myself and then find someone who is compatible with who I am I guess ^-^

[Guest Panda.Princess]

I completely understand those feelings.  Especially when you're new to finding your little.  I struggle with not flipping back into adulting mode a lot.  I have responsibilities and I never stop thinking.  Fortunately, the right daddy (/mentor, whatever title you choose) will come along and completely erase those worries you have. 

 

Discovering your little is a fun growing process, now that you know she's there.  And there's no right or wrong way to be a little, as long as you're happy with the result.

[Pekorin]

Thank you for answering

I'm going to not think so much and just do what suits me, I hope you manage with your responsibilities on your side