My Little Craves Attention From Others - Help

[East Coast Daddy]

Hello

 

I'd like some help or opinions with my little and situation please, I'll take any thoughts.

 

I met a little on another site in a group chat. After a short time she asked if I'd be her daddy, which I obliged and accepted. We have a amazing time in little space we're both very creative, have fun and are in a loving relationship together.

 

We private message for 12+ hours each day, Skype for hours at a time, spoken about meeting up, but she maintains her activities in the group chat. She mostly has fun with the other littles but when new guys come along she isn't clear she has a daddy and they guys often show strong interest in her, I know they private message her, she often shares pictures too.

 

I'm no fool, we've spoken about it on a few occasions, I even incorporated a rule that says she can PM others but the chat must remain clean, I've even punished her for it. Recently new guys have been falling over themselves to get her attention, again we discussed it, she backed off but then accused me of making her boring.

 

Neither of us are poly, but this desire of hers for attention from other guys is driving me crazy, I think in any other situation you'd walk away. The other littles in group don't behave like she does.

 

Am is missing something or have I got myself the cutest little head fu*k in the world.

 

Sorry it's long and rambling, happy to answer any questions.

 

Thanks.

[Guest SilverStar88]

Could it be, that you and your little have different ideas about the relationship you share? Edited May 2, 2017 by SilverStar88

[East Coast Daddy]

Thanks for the reply, we talk open & honestly, our relationship expectations are clear.

[Abstraction]

Maybe she's just horny. Moving your relationship to physical might go a long way.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

While I'm not going to name call here, it is very possible she craves attention from multiple sources. Many, many people are flirts. They mean no harm by it often times, it's just part of their personality. Many times they don't even realize they're doing it. It sounds like you've brought it to your littles attention and she has decided she doesn't want to stop. That's her prerogative.

 

Now the ball is in your court. This is hurting you, clearly. You need to decide if you're willing to put up with it knowing it likely will never change. It doesn't sound like you are. So your next course of action is to lay down a solid line for your little. She needs to be out of little space for this conversation. Simply explain her actions are hurtful and if they continue you will no longer be able to be her Daddy. While yes, you're a caregiver and suppose to be the strong one, you can't overlook self care.

 

I wish you the best of luck.

[Johnny Hammersticks]

I am sad for you because clearly you have given your love to someone who is careless with your heart. Sounds like you are already attached to her but probably the best thing to do is look at the situation with objectivity, be mature, and move on from her.

 

I sincerely hope you find someone who treats you with respect and deserves your affections.

[DaddyNewYork]

While I'm not going to name call here, it is very possible she craves attention from multiple sources. Many, many people are flirts. They mean no harm by it often times, it's just part of their personality. Many times they don't even realize they're doing it. It sounds like you've brought it to your littles attention and she has decided she doesn't want to stop. That's her prerogative.

Now the ball is in your court. This is hurting you, clearly. You need to decide if you're willing to put up with it knowing it likely will never change. It doesn't sound like you are. So your next course of action is to lay down a solid line for your little. She needs to be out of little space for this conversation. Simply explain her actions are hurtful and if they continue you will no longer be able to be her Daddy. While yes, you're a caregiver and suppose to be the strong one, you can't overlook self care.

I wish you the best of luck.

It takes so much time and effort to truly know someone intimately.

 

If a girl or guy flirts while in a committed relationship it shows a blatant disregard for their partner's feelings and their relationship.

 

It isn't simply their personality.

 

That excuse has been used to explain abhorrent behaviors so much. It isn't acceptable.

[jaredstone363]

Hello

 

I'd like some help or opinions with my little and situation please, I'll take any thoughts.

 

I met a little on another site in a group chat. After a short time she asked if I'd be her daddy, which I obliged and accepted. We have a amazing time in little space we're both very creative, have fun and are in a loving relationship together.

 

We private message for 12+ hours each day, Skype for hours at a time, spoken about meeting up, but she maintains her activities in the group chat. She mostly has fun with the other littles but when new guys come along she isn't clear she has a daddy and they guys often show strong interest in her, I know they private message her, she often shares pictures too.

 

I'm no fool, we've spoken about it on a few occasions, I even incorporated a rule that says she can PM others but the chat must remain clean, I've even punished her for it. Recently new guys have been falling over themselves to get her attention, again we discussed it, she backed off but then accused me of making her boring.

 

Neither of us are poly, but this desire of hers for attention from other guys is driving me crazy, I think in any other situation you'd walk away. The other littles in group don't behave like she does.

 

Am is missing something or have I got myself the cutest little head fu*k in the world.

 

Sorry it's long and rambling, happy to answer any questions.

 

Thanks.

 

I think this post says it best, it's good, sound advice. If it was me, I would not be ok with her behavior. It's time to draw the line in the sand. Ask her how she would feel if you were chatting and flirting with other little's.

[Guest HerDaddyDom]

I think this post says it best, it's good, sound advice. If it was me, I would not be ok with her behavior. It's time to draw the line in the sand. Ask her how she would feel if you were chatting and flirting with other little's.

 

I totally agree with this.

 

She gets too personal with other guys, without telling them anything about that she is taken, when they are

showing interest in her. I'd consider that as a way of cheating. Cannot be accepted in one serious relationship, neither by person who cares.

[Guest mlkykit]

I think this post says it best, it's good, sound advice. If it was me, I would not be ok with her behavior. It's time to draw the line in the sand. Ask her how she would feel if you were chatting and flirting with other little's.

 

Best advice. 

 

This is obviously hurting you, it's your decision if you want to sit idle and be hurt for however long you two will be together. There's obviously blatant disrespect and disregard of the relationship and your feelings on her part, is that okay with you? Would it be acceptable for you if a "vanilla" girlfriend behaved this way? 

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

It takes so much time and effort to truly know someone intimately.

 

If a girl or guy flirts while in a committed relationship it shows a blatant disregard for their partner's feelings and their relationship.

 

It isn't simply their personality.

 

That excuse has been used to explain abhorrent behaviors so much. It isn't acceptable.

Yes, knowing someone takes time. And what isn't acceptable to you, may be to another. It isn't acceptable to him, and that's fine. To many, it is.

 

I am not saying it's okay for me, because it isn't. My husband and I are very much monogamous to the point where I choose not to talk privately with other men. He chooses the same for women. All I am saying is while unacceptable to me, that isn't the case for everyone and I think he needs to figure this out with his little.

[East Coast Daddy]

Thanks for all the comments.

You've pretty much mirrored stuff I've been thinking anyway.

Good to have a bit of a self check.