Littlest with boyfriends/husbands who aren't their Cg?

[Babygirl10]

Any other littles have a boyfriend or husband who is not their "Daddy" or doesn't want to be.. how do you cope? Or make your relationship work? I have a man who is not my Daddy but we are in a relationship. It gets super hard and I mostly daydream and fantasize about him being my Daddy but he never will.. what can I do?

[Guest Ginger]

Talk to him and then decide if you really need him to be your daddy, if you can handle him not being it or if you need to go your separate ways.

[DollDirector]

The forum can only give general advice,given how little we know so far about your story.

Some people just cannot start a relationship outside of ddlg. it is not your case because you already are in a relationship that is not ddlg,and are attracted to your partner.

Maybe you can suggest to him,trying something new,as a game to play for a limited time,"because you have this fantasy",and see how it goes.

Edited May 1, 2017 by DollDirector

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Everyone's relationship and their dynamic within that is different. As suggested above, we can only give general advice or offer our personal experiences here. So that's what I'm going to do! 

 

I am engaged to a man who is not my Caregiver. We've been together for about 6 years at this point, and we're really, really happy! We just aren't compatible in that department and that's totally and completely okay! However, I'm also polyamorous, so I can have my needs met from another partner if that arises. However, it hasn't inhibited my ability to be small around my fiance. That's just how it works for me, personally. 

 

If this is something that you don't think you can do, you need to talk to your partner more seriously about your needs not being met. As much as it sucks and can hurt, there is no shame in admitting that a relationship just isn't working for the two of you, even if it's for reasons out of your control. You can love someone and not be right for them. It's something I've learned over the years. 

 

Good luck!