Curious About Caregiver Cafe & Little Space

[Himedere-Chan]

So I've been wondering for a while if littles could talk on CC and if caregivers could talk on LS, when the said sections have such description as "A space for caregivers to relax, share experience, and make friends with like-minded people." and "A safe space for all littles, middles, and submissives to communicate and interact." with descriptions like these I always felt it was made for them alone, to separate the two parties so people could receive an answer from just caregivers or just littles.

I know people are going to say "Oh of course we can post/reply to both!" I know I can and people do, but I want to know why? It, to me, clearly says "share experience" "like-minded people" which means (to me) that it is for caregivers only. And as for LS it clearly says "a safe space for all littles" key word 'safe' as in away from the opposite or from someone who doesn't have the same interests.


Anywho I want to hear your opinion on the matter, are you curious too? Do you think people should or shouldn't reply to the opposites section? Or any other questions that are on your mind, feel free to speak your mind.

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

i'm 50/50 with this. why? welp.

 

i feel as if there were a caregiver only section that the caregivers on this site might

blossom a little, start speaking up more, not have to worry about being judged and

generally chill and interact with people of their own mindset. ( specially since it

seems like, to me, that the dominants/daddies/mommies of the site are usually

uh.. pretty eggshell-walky with the littles here. they're very vocal and could easily

trash someone and have a group supporting them along the way. littles are very

about supporting each other to the point where it's almost blinding and seeps

into being a little toxic for community and little alike. )

 

but then again people would probably think it'd be unfair to stop littles from using

the caregiver cafe section ( and the other way around ) for whatever reasoning

they may come up with. i wish they were separated. personally, i think it'd be an 

awesome idea. could even maybe look into the idea of rooms in chat instead. it's

very little friendly and accepting here but for caregivers? meh. the half of me that

disagrees at the thought of this idea does so just to avoid the bitching about it. 

[Johnny Hammersticks]

As a guy, I stay out of the little space section, I look at the DDLG and caregivers café, alot. But this forum is kinda little centric, I feel it's a safe place for littles to communicate without being... Preyed on? Plus there's alot to be learned on here, there's something to be gained from others experiences and opinions.

 

But I only read little space threads if it's something interesting pops up on the recent threads thing. Typically I stay out of there.

[Himedere-Chan]

 

i'm 50/50 with this. why? welp.

 

i feel as if there were a caregiver only section that the caregivers on this site might

blossom a little, start speaking up more, not have to worry about being judged and

generally chill and interact with people of their own mindset. ( specially since it

seems like, to me, that the dominants/daddies/mommies of the site are usually

uh.. pretty eggshell-walky with the littles here. they're very vocal and could easily

trash someone and have a group supporting them along the way. littles are very

about supporting each other to the point where it's almost blinding and seeps

into being a little toxic for community and little alike. )

 

but then again people would probably think it'd be unfair to stop littles from using

the caregiver cafe section ( and the other way around ) for whatever reasoning

they may come up with. i wish they were separated. personally, i think it'd be an 

awesome idea. could even maybe look into the idea of rooms in chat instead. it's

very little friendly and accepting here but for caregivers? meh. the half of me that

disagrees at the thought of this idea does so just to avoid the bitching about it. 

 

 

If you think about it, it's like the adults table and kids table, the adults talk about politics and weather at their table and the kids talk about their favorite shows or games, so having a "kids only" or "adults only" spot isn't unheard of. I still wouldn't mind if caregivers and littles to talk to each other on those sections on the forum (but I'd really like it if they didn't) it would be nice though if littles would think before posting a reply on a post like "my little left me" saying something kind and really cute, BUT I think the last thing they want after a break up is to be swarmed by a random little, it might remind them of the little that left, same with caregivers hitting on/comforting recently separated littles, like leave them alone okay fella/lady.

 

The chat for caregivers sounds like a great idea actually, I don't use the chat myself since it's littered with other littles which makes me personally uncomfortable, which is fine that's why I choose not to use it. I feel like caregivers get the short end of the stick with this site and I'd love to see more caregiver friendly content.

[Himedere-Chan]

As a guy, I stay out of the little space section, I look at the DDLG and caregivers café, alot. But this forum is kinda little centric, I feel it's a safe place for littles to communicate without being... Preyed on? Plus there's alot to be learned on here, there's something to be gained from others experiences and opinions.

 

But I only read little space threads if it's something interesting pops up on the recent threads thing. Typically I stay out of there.

 

The forum is safe in the sense that they can be little and act childish without being judged, but that's the point of the site to begin with, however I feel like littles are preyed upon here albeit rare and it would be nice if they had a real safe space, a real little space.

 

I read caregiver cafe often, more so than little space, but I have only commented at least twice in the past. I have made it my personal rule now to stay out of caregiver business unless they post on here, DDlg Discussion, which I've figured is where littles and caregivers alike can talk together. Also that's why I posted my question here, I wanted both sides opinion on the matter.

[Guest bad_apple]

Honestly, when I joined and looked at the forum I thought the caregiver and little areas would be more seperated and was a little surprised to find it was not.

It's not necessarily a bad thing as a discussion and information can always be helpful for both parties but... yeah, sometimes I wish the section would be more seperated.

For some reason it always irked me when CG asked for advice/opinions in the caregiver cafe, especially asking for others CGs and the first responses were from littles.

Same when it's the other way around in the little section.

Not saying those replies are not of value and information but... I think sometimes it's good to just talk between oneselves without having the other party join in.

Then again... hearing the opposite voice on a topic can help viewing an issue from other angles...

 

So yeah, I'm on the fence on this as well.

[Princess-P]

The way I view the little vs caregiver subsections is that the one for littles would be the appropriate place to post about some of the superficial aspects of the dynamic that they enjoy. Things like diapers, pacifiers, stuffies, clothes, whatever. The other, caregivers, would be the same idea. Things more designed for their specific roll.

 

I dont feel like there's anything wrong with either roll posting or replying to any thread. If it interests you then you should feel OK replying and not like you would be ostracized because you "dont belong". The forum feels very all inclusive to me and thats what I enjoy about it.

 

I think that if we were to start putting a stop to caregivers or littles posting in each others sub categories it would make the forum feel very closed. Like you have to walk on eggshells and that opposing views are not welcome. Littles and caregivers have a lot to offer each other. We all have different levels of experience and different lifestyles, sometimes we can offer great insight to the opposite roll.

 

Another issue would be switches. How can we define where they belong? Saying "only littles-or-caregivers can post here" can really make some members of our community feel left out.

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

I read both but very very rarely post in the CG section. I have very little that I can relate to with a CG. Theres  nothing wrong with posting in both - Its personal preference. 

[Harley_Quinn]

I've posted in Caregiver Cafe with a question that daddy would ask me. I also read it to see if maybe theres advice for daddy cause he asks alot of questions. In my personal opinion i kinda dont think it should matter. This whole site is for people of like mindedness and whatnot I feel like as a community if you're looking for advice but need a specific person (I.e a caregiver or little) you should be able to post in either section. But that's just me.