LDR advice

[Guest LittleKenzie1]

i need advice, there is a daddy i am talking to and he doesnt live near me, i really like him, but do i want it to stay LD? how do i tell? i dont want to rush, but i also dont know what to do!

[Whispering-oak]

hello.

     I would say this: you have to know what you want in this lifestyle. if you don't understand what it is you want/need then having a DD whether he is local or LDR will not make any difference. I say this because LDR relationships take ten times more effort and nurturing on both the DD/lg's parts. sit down and talk to him ... let him know your expectations and what you would need from him to make this work... ask Him what he wants/expects out of the relationship... after it is all said and done before making a decision to accept a DD take time to think hard about what was said and if you feel uncomfortable with it then bow out gracefully and say no thank you ... if comfortable with it the accept and good luck .. be happy .. oh and before I forget.. there is a post about the fake DD's out there i would suggest reading it and adhere to it strictly as it will save you from a lot of heartache and embarrassment.

respectfully

WO aka: John

[Guest QueenJellybean]

Whenever you meet someone online instead of in person, there are risks and other factors to consider. Try to be smart about your choices, and move at a pace that works for both of you. There are lots of wonderful resources here -- both on spotting predators and fake dominants as well as how to survive a long distance relationship -- but the important thing to remember is to make sure you're being safe. Don't agree to meet up with someone you've just met, make sure you get necessary contact information, tell people where you are going, bring a friend, make sure you've seen them on camera before you go, etc. 

 

I suggest checking out our Resource section for more information! Good luck!

[alotalittle]

You say you don't want to rush, so absolutely don't rush. You don't need to have it all figured out right here, right now. LDRs work for some people and don't for others. The biggest thing you'll need to figure out is if you want the relationship to be purely long distance or if you eventually want to be together in person. The good news is that you don't have to figure that out immediately. You both can take as long as you want to decide that as long as you're communicating your wants/needs and making sure that both parties are happy with the way things are.

 

My current relationship started off as long distance. However, we both knew that we didn't want it to stay long distance forever. We visited each other a few times in the first six months for short periods (week or two) and then I went out to visit him for three months over the summer and we decided at the end that we were ready to officially move in together. We've been together for three and a half years now and are engaged. 

 

Take things slowly. Keep talking to this person if you like him and see where things go. You won't know how things are going to turn out until you try.

[Guest LittleKenzie1]

thank You all soo much that helped me c: i really appreciate it!