Time to leave?

[cupcakequeen]

I think I've lost myself.

 

Little space has been my release. I introduced my (very recent) ex to this community. I feel so disconnected from everything DD/lg. It's been a week since we broke up.

 

I have also re-sparked an old thing with a guy. He lives over an ocean away. I've tried long distance. It doesn't work for me, but he is the only person who I've felt even remotely close to. He is also three times my age. That relationship is not possible for me. 

 

But this post is really about me leaving the community. 

I don't think I'll find someone here that can be a CG. 

 

I don't know what to do.

Help me?

[Guest]

It's time to heal and think about what you want. Do you want a caregiver? If so this would probably be a good place to hang out. But you need to give yourself time to think and time to heal. You need some self love and reflection. Once you are ready then try for a caregiver

[cuppycakes]

After so recently breaking up with someone, I wouldn't recommend going out and looking for someone new right away. You sound hurt and lost, and that's not a good place to be in. Find time for yourself, love yourself, then work on loving someone else.

 

Not everybody is in this community because they're looking for a CG, either. Just because you don't think you'll find one here doesn't mean you have to leave. If you want to take time away from here, by all means do so, but don't feel like you have to leave and never come back.

[aschmizzy]

Maybe take a week away from the community. You should be healing from the breakup as a grown up person first and then being in little space will come more naturally. Pushing yourself away -or- into ddlg right now will cause more of this frustration. Just understand you need some time to be with your adult self and take that time to process your real emotions, youll be okay.

The second thing would be to focus on friends. Looking for a romantic connection with someone else is not a good idea. It is gonna prolong and possibly entirely prevent the healing process. Friends are amazing and they'll help a lot. If you have none, you can message me or there are tons of apps online to meet friends near you. Or tons of group chats on kik. And once you feel comfortable enough to come back here, little friends are amazing and will help you feel little w/o a CG. 

[Lil' Miss Dolly]

I just personally returned after a few months away due to a break up. Right now you need to take time for yourself and heal. The community and all of us will be here when you come back happy and healthy! Xoxo