Daddy keeps getting angry at me, am I a bad Little?

[stantvxqakatruekings]

Hi guys, so I only recently started this type of a relationship and I feel really good when things are going fine.

But everyday daddy and me fight.

He asks me things about my past and exes. I had many toxic relationships in the past and they have influenced me and it makes him so angry that I dont wanna do some things because I feel uncomfortable due to toxic relationships I Had.

If I don't obey even once he gets really upset and starts degrading which is sometimes very hurtful because I even have to apologize and kneel even if it was not my fault. Everytime.

I really feel treated in an unfair way but he said our relationship was unfair from the very first beginning. He cares me really well but I can't let daddy see my effort. He gets angry very easily and it hurts so much sometimes that I can't even cry.

I don't know what to do? Am I not good enough to be a little? Am I bad? Or is it him? I cant tell him. Daddy will get extremely angry. I don't want to get punished again. And I also love daddy. How to be a better little?

When I try to explain things he is very persistent and won't forgive me until I do whatever he wants me to do even if I feel really uncomfortable.

Edited April 24, 2017 by stantvxqakatruekings

[hisangel]

IMO, I see him degrading you and blaming you for things he does wrong as abuse. You should not be apologizing for his mistakes. He should not be punishing you for telling him how you feel. And the fact that he is punishing over things you aren't comfortable doing are huge abusive red flags.

[cuppycakes]

This sounds like a very toxic relationship to me. I would leave him. It's not your fault. He should be listening to you and trying to understand and help you cope with abusive exes, not ignoring you and getting angry when he doesn't get his way. I'm also confused as to why he says your relationship is unfair. That's not what relationships are or should be.

If you really don't want to break up with him, you need to have an open conversation with him. If he's not accepting it, then you need to run away because he is using you. Be safe, take care of yourself, and don't let him control you.

 

Edit: I also noticed that he gets "so angry that I dont wanna do some things because I feel uncomfortable due to toxic relationships I Had." and that's just horrible. If these things are sexual, then I would say that he's using you for sex, and is mad that you're not giving him exactly what he wants. Please, if you even have an inkling of thought that he's doing this, get out. You deserve better than this.

Edited April 24, 2017 by cuppycakes

[stantvxqakatruekings]

This sounds like a very toxic relationship to me. I would leave him. It's not your fault. He should be listening to you and trying to understand and help you cope with abusive exes, not ignoring you and getting angry when he doesn't get his way. I'm also confused as to why he says your relationship is unfair. That's not what relationships are or should be.

If you really don't want to break up with him, you need to have an open conversation with him. If he's not accepting it, then you need to run away because he is using you. Be safe, take care of yourself, and don't let him control you.

 

Edit: I also noticed that he gets "so angry that I dont wanna do some things because I feel uncomfortable due to toxic relationships I Had." and that's just horrible. If these things are sexual, then I would say that he's using you for sex, and is mad that you're not giving him exactly what he wants. Please, if you even have an inkling of thought that he's doing this, get out. You deserve better than this.

He does many things for me, I never thought he is using me but he really expects a lot from me.

Whenever I tell my opiniom about something that doesnt go well with his he just says "Shut up bitch, dont tell your opinion if I dont ask u to tell"

I used to find those things sexually attracting but emotionally I can't take it. Thats too much for me because I am a really sensitive person.

I think he gets upset because he wants to be above all and everyone. Even above my religion.

I really don't know what to do. If I raise my voice and say something, I will lose him but I don't wanna lose him. I broke up with my last boyfriend for him.

I am so confused and don't know what to do anymore. I don't wanna keep fighting everyday.

[Leo_Ascendent]

"If I don't obey even once he gets really upset and starts degrading which is sometimes very hurtful"

 

This right here is a red flag. Sorry to say, but he isn't a proper DD. He's a boy on a power trip. A true DD will know how to discipline, WITHOUT resulting to childish name calling, you're the Little, not him.

 

 

"I really feel treated in an unfair way but he said our relationship was unfair from the very first beginning"

 

Again, a Little should never feel this way (minus the whole, Daddy is being a mean doody head kinda thinking that a Little might normally have), if you feel as if you are REALLY being treated like dirt, you don't want to be in that relationship, it'll only get worse if you stay.

Edited April 24, 2017 by Leo_Ascendent

[Princess-P]

This relationship sounds awful. No one should ever treat another person this way.

 

Unfortunately if your unwilling to leave him, even with very obvious abuse, there's nothing you can do. Talking to him makes him worse and keeping your mouth shut does nothing. People like him don't change. This is not a "he's stressed about something" situation. From what you say its very clear that he's abusive.

 

As in many abuse victims you sound blinded by the times he's nice to you. Grasping at straws. You may also have an issue with confidence and insecure in being on your own. This is normal for abuse victims but also doesn't help your current situation.

 

While it sounds harsh the only option is to stand up for your self. Get out before it gets worse. Beyond that, if your unwilling to do so, then dont expect anything to change.

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

If you can't take how he treats you, get out.

Generally never gets better. And guys like him are never 100% bad- as in there're good parts that give you false hope and make you think "oh but he DOES love me because of this small handful of reasons". 

 

A good relationship has a handful of problems, not a handful of good things.

 

Let someone else have the pleasure of trying to turn him into an actual human being.

[cuppycakes]

He does many things for me, I never thought he is using me but he really expects a lot from me.

Whenever I tell my opiniom about something that doesnt go well with his he just says "Shut up bitch, dont tell your opinion if I dont ask u to tell"

I used to find those things sexually attracting but emotionally I can't take it. Thats too much for me because I am a really sensitive person.

I think he gets upset because he wants to be above all and everyone. Even above my religion.

I really don't know what to do. If I raise my voice and say something, I will lose him but I don't wanna lose him. I broke up with my last boyfriend for him.

I am so confused and don't know what to do anymore. I don't wanna keep fighting everyday.

Just because he does things for you doesn't mean he's a good partner. A good relationship has 3 key things: communication, compromise, and commitment. It doesn't sound like yours has any of these. 

 

Do you want to feel like this forever? It doesn't sound appealing to me, and, personally, I'd break up with them now rather than later. It doesn't matter that you left your last boyfriend for him. It's like if I traded a snickers for a piece of caramel, and then found out I didn't like caramel. I don't have to eat the caramel just because I traded it for something else. (weird analogy, but I hope it helps make my point more clear).

 

It's alright that you found his language sexual at first, but now that it's no longer sexy, it has turned abusive. He needs to know this.

 

The ONLY option, other than breaking up, is for you two to work something out, but he needs to know it's as equals. You don't have to raise your voice if you don't want to, but you should say "we need to talk or we need to break up". If he can't/won't listen to you, why would you even want to be with him? Communication is SO extremely important, and if you can't talk to your partner, who can you talk to?

 

Your partner should be your best friend. Trusted, emotionally supportive, loving, willing to listen, etc. Even if they have good points, you need to look at signs of an abusive relationship, and see how well it fits with your own. There are many resources online available for this, but I really encourage you to look at this.

 

http://www.thehotline.org/

 

Please please please look at this. Call a number in the upper right hand corner of the screen, or chat with someone who can help you. I'm not a professional, but you need to speak with one.

[alotalittle]

As usual, cuppycakes is giving you solid advice, but I figured I'd chime in as well.

 

Sweetheart...you are 18 years old and in a horribly abusive relationship from what I just read. I want you to imagine your best friend or your favorite family member being in your position and asking you the same questions that you asked us. What would you say? How would it make you feel to know that your friend/family was going through the same thing you are? I'm guessing that you would feel terrible for them and tell them how they deserve better and that they should get out of that relationship.

 

I know you say you love him and don't want to lose him...but have you thought about why? He actively abuses you emotionally, mentally, and sexually. What's to love about that? I understand being scared to leave him. Scared to move away from the abuse you've become so accustomed to. I really, really understand that. It is SO scary to decide that you are worth more, but YOU ARE WORTH MORE. Nobody deserves to be treated the way you are being treated.

 

However, like princess-p said, you're the only one who can change your situation. It's up to you to figure out that you are a human being worthy of being treated with basic kindness. I hope with all my heart that you figure that out before things get even worse. Hearing stories like yours hurts me down to the bone. I've known so many who've been abused and I've been on the receiving end of abuse as well, and let me tell you, none of us deserve to be abused. Please get out and get help.

[LittleBambina]

Leave. Immediately.

Red flag.

Break up with him. Block him on every social network. If he insists then warn the police.

DO NOT LOOK BACK.

Edited May 12, 2017 by LittleBambina

[Pekorin]

Please just trust everyone here and leave immediately, get you cold heart on and walk away, cut all ties, we want you to be safe. Please keep writing here too so that we know you are ok, we're with you.

[Guest DaddyDom2017]

Hi guys, so I only recently started this type of a relationship and I feel really good when things are going fine.

But everyday daddy and me fight.

He asks me things about my past and exes. I had many toxic relationships in the past and they have influenced me and it makes him so angry that I dont wanna do some things because I feel uncomfortable due to toxic relationships I Had.

If I don't obey even once he gets really upset and starts degrading which is sometimes very hurtful because I even have to apologize and kneel even if it was not my fault. Everytime.

I really feel treated in an unfair way but he said our relationship was unfair from the very first beginning. He cares me really well but I can't let daddy see my effort. He gets angry very easily and it hurts so much sometimes that I can't even cry.

I don't know what to do? Am I not good enough to be a little? Am I bad? Or is it him? I cant tell him. Daddy will get extremely angry. I don't want to get punished again. And I also love daddy. How to be a better little?

When I try to explain things he is very persistent and won't forgive me until I do whatever he wants me to do even if I feel really uncomfortable.

 

As others have said, get out of that relationship, If you live with him, better to move and live in a homeless shelter till you can find someone who cares for you.

 

No one needs to be degraded and mentally abused, he needs help. You are not the problem, he cannot really care for you if he treats you like that

[PINKLILLY]

Leave !!

[SkunkPrincess]

As hard as it is, you should leave him.

[Guest DeciDaddy]

Some people go into a relationship like that as a kink, and that's perfectly fine.

But the very fact that you come on here and ask for help shows that this isn't the way you want your relationship to be. So you might consider leaving, as hard as it is.

But before you do I suggest you talk to him and vent out your feelings. You said you liked the way he acts in a sexual way, so perhaps he's acting the way he does because he knows that and has trouble finding the right spot between abusive and kinky. From an outsider's perspective it looks like clear abuse, but it's likely worth trying to talk about that.

 

It's hard and tough to break up with someone you love, but sometimes it's for the best. Gotta love yourself too you know, you don't deserve that kind of behavior. It'll hurt, but you'll bounce back in time. Promise.
 

[Guest MeneerM]

You have heard a lot of advise over here and I agree with everyone above. The reason you posted is the fact that you have a suspicious feeling that something isn't right here. And we all agree on this. This man is a hurtful mean man trying to bring you down by mentally degrading you. The "shut up bitch" quote is such an painful example of the way he treats you. You deserve better!

Coming from a lot of toxicity in relation I can understand that this decision will be hard. But everyone on here agrees on one thing: you should leave him and block him out of your life!