Friends?

[DeathMetalPrincess]

So, I'm kind of wondering. Can you be friends with your little/caregiver if you two separate? I mean, I still really love my mommy, but she and I have essentially agreed dating isn't the best thing for us right now. I can't say with any certainty we will get back together, but I am growing steadily more comfortable calling her my friend, rather than my caregiver. What do the lot of you think? It is easy or hard to be friends with someone you used to be so close with? I personally find it to be rather difficult, but I'm doing my best to make it work -- just so long as she's happy, because that's what I care about.

[Antoinette]

I personally think that being ''friends'' with somebody you were once intimate with almost never works. There are of course, as with all situations, cases where this doesn't apply but generally I don't think it's a good idea especially if you're still in the grieving process.

But I will say if you feel comfortable calling her your friend and that's absolutely it I don't see what could go wrong.

[sighing]

It's possible if both of you have moved on. But if either of you still have hope that the relationship can be rekindled then it'll probably just lead to more pain.

 

Edited April 24, 2017 by sighing

[Daddybloo]

I don't about after as I'm still friends with a few of my ex gfs but my little is in a relationship with another person and were just friends normally and now we also have this going for us

[Guest Bunnyblossom]

It can 100% work. Just depends on whether you have enough in common outside of your relationship as cg/l ^-^

[Guest Dean]

It can work. But, the key is that you were also friends in the relationship. My best friend is an ex. We were together over four years. We became best friends in the relationship and not because of the relationship. So, when we broke up (it was mutual), we remained best friends. Over a year later, we still talk several times a week. We have both been in relationships since and it wasn't weird at all. But, again, you have to be friends while in the relationship for it to work.

[Guest]

I am friends with several of my ex daddies. But there are also a few that are definitely never going to be friends with me. I think it just depends on (well a lot of things) how you were before and during the relationship, to how you were after.

[Guest]

Oops double posted. Edited April 24, 2017 by Guest

[Leo_Ascendent]

I personally think that being ''friends'' with somebody you were once intimate with almost never works. 

 

I agree with this, but that's just me and my situation. None of my relationships ended on good terms (cheated on, not over ex, and a rebound). So for me, I said screw them, I don't want anything to do with people like that.

[Frog]

I agree with this, but that's just me and my situation. None of my relationships ended on good terms (cheated on, not over ex, and a rebound).

I have similar experiences. My last girlfriend and I were still friends for a long time, but she was probably the only one. It wasn't a horrible breakup, but it wasn't great. We've kind of drifted apart, but I still talk to her mom a lot. The others were very bad, and there's no chance in hell I'm being friends with them. The first girl I had real feelings for, well, we weren't officially a couple.

 

It depends on the person, so you'll have to figure out. Me? Nope.