I was abused by my first daddy

[Guest Little_Miss]

Despite that I still want a daddy and I want to experience it in a good way like I should have the first time... Anyone else had this happen to them but then gone on to experience it a good way with a safe daddy? Or daddies that have littles that were abused by their first daddies...?

[Leo_Ascendent]

My Little was, and as a result, was slow to open up to me being her Daddy. Understanding is a big part of pushing forward, taking time, being there when needed, listening, and offering a shoulder to cry or lean on are needed. You need someone who is willing to put in the time to help you recover, to build, and to trust again.

 

If someone truly wants you for you, they will put in this effort, it's a shame that it happened, but a silver lining can be that when you find someone who treats you like a Princess, you'll know it's for real, and anot some game for them.

[DeathMetalPrincess]

I was.. My first daddy was really controlling and abusive and manipulative. They constantly made me feel bad and every time I tried to leave, they begged for me to stay, and I did every single time. We fought and argued constantly, and they constantly made me feel like I wasn't good enough for them, but I still wanted to be with them and I wanted to stay. They took advantage of. They took advantage of the fact I was lonely and devoted to them. Really, I was a vulnerable and emotionally/mentally unstable girl. I still am, but my first daddy just took everything so far with me, rarely caring if I was hurt. When they did care, it was just an attempt to further take advantage of me and rope me back into staying in love with them, which I definitely was. If you're going through this, you need to know you're not alone, but you also need to get out of the relationship. People who are controlling and manipulative rarely care for the well-being of their partner. Please know you can always talk to any of us if you need to, and you're not alone. Please stay safe, ok?

[Daddybloo]

my best friend was abused by her two exs mainly because shes always been a little inside and they didnt understand or didny like it now shes in a relationship with her fiancee  and im her make do daddy for all her little things maybe not exactly the same but i believe the effect both good and bad are close enough to count

[Guest]

My first daddy was very much abusive. Would treat me poorly and bully me then used self harm as a way to make me stay.

 

To be fair a few daddies down the road and had someone do something similar.

[Sparklefrosting]

I think it's an easy situation for littles to end up in maybe because of our naive and childish nature we don't pick up on red flags early on? Knowing the red flags of abusive relationships and taking things slow helped me a lot. 

[Simon.dd4lg]

U get abusive and controlling people in all lifestyles, don't give up. If ddlg is right for u I'm sure u will find the right person

[Guest Little_Miss]

I was.. My first daddy was really controlling and abusive and manipulative. They constantly made me feel bad and every time I tried to leave, they begged for me to stay, and I did every single time. We fought and argued constantly, and they constantly made me feel like I wasn't good enough for them, but I still wanted to be with them and I wanted to stay. They took advantage of. They took advantage of the fact I was lonely and devoted to them. Really, I was a vulnerable and emotionally/mentally unstable girl. I still am, but my first daddy just took everything so far with me, rarely caring if I was hurt. When they did care, it was just an attempt to further take advantage of me and rope me back into staying in love with them, which I definitely was. If you're going through this, you need to know you're not alone, but you also need to get out of the relationship. People who are controlling and manipulative rarely care for the well-being of their partner. Please know you can always talk to any of us if you need to, and you're not alone. Please stay safe, ok?

Thank you. It's okay I am out of the relationship and have been for a long time. I just haven't found a daddy since this one and wanted to know if others had experience with this. 

[Guest Little_Miss]

I think it's an easy situation for littles to end up in maybe because of our naive and childish nature we don't pick up on red flags early on? Knowing the red flags of abusive relationships and taking things slow helped me a lot. 

Yeah it was all new to me with this daddy so I had no way of knowing what things were meant to be like. I have learnt a lot since then! Definitely red flags. 

Edited April 24, 2017 by Little_Miss

[Guest Little_Miss]

Thanks everyone