My Daddy Is A Noob :3

[Ariana]

Hi everyone,

 

I've recently introduced my boyfriend to ddlg and of course I want him to be my daddy. The trouble is I can't explain things well; I'm not good with words and it just makes him more confused

 

I'm really happy he's willing to learn and try it for me. I was wondering if other daddies and CG's could share what it's like to have a little, what you do for them etc so he can get a better understanding of what its like to be a daddy.

 

Thanks!

[Guest MeneerM]

Hi BabyAriana,

Can you tell me what the problem is? From my experience it is learning by doing. If you are not good with words try to provoke the desired behavior. You know what you want, so you can ask him in a behavioral way.

If he has any questions or like to talk to a fellow Daddy... I am more than willing to assist.

[Michael]

Every daddy/little relationship is different, so some things I would do with one particular little might not be the exact same as the things I would do with another.

 

But here's some general things, you can cross out any that you aren't into:

• Giving you rules and a bedtime and actually enforcing them with punishments (spankings, etc)
• Help you do some basic tasks to make you feel "little"; so like brushing your hair, help you wash, spoon-feed you
• Be dominant, but in a gentle and guiding sort of way, and check up on you throughout the day
• Watch cartoons together
• Encourages your little side to come out, and engages that part of your personality
• Brings aspects of the DD/lg relationship into the bedroom, so lots of daddy/little related dirty talk ("be a good little girl for daddy? why don't you swallow all of daddy's hot sticky cum?" that type of thing...)
• This depends on the little, but personally, I like to spoil a lot, so things like taking a little out on surprise dates, buying her cute gifts, etc

I think since you probably have an idea in your head about how you want him to be, but you can't put it into words, you should just try to explore as many daddy/little activities as you can and find what makes you both happy. It's important that he actually like it too, you don't ever want him to feel like he's "acting" out a role, he has to enjoy it too.

[Leo_Ascendent]

Like Michael said, it depends on the both of you, what you're both comfortable with, and what you're willing to learn. Do you know YOU well enough? By that, I mean do you know what it is YOU want, as a Little? Your age? Your wants? Likes? Dislikes? Etc?

 

You'll need to be able to communicate with him EXACTLY what it is you desire, or else you're both taking shots in the dark. This is a perfect chance to learn about yourself, as well as each other. Use that chance.

 

Are you a Little? A Middle? Do you wear diapers? Pacis? PJs? What activities do you enjoy? So much to know about yourself, so you can let him know.

[Guest MeneerM]

This weekend:

• I bought her new Hello Kitty PJ's and she just curled up, in new PJ's, with me in bed.
• We made fresh Pizza together and we made necklaces with beads.
• We practiced postures and commands (she is also a kitten) and I locked her for a while in her playpen.
• We went out shopping while she was still in het little dress and pig tails. We were a bit nervous, but it went ok!
• We watched a Tinkerbell-movie and I dressed her in several outfits... That was our weekend together.

[Guest blumonkey]

how is he, naturally?

 

is he dominant, in a caring, unabusive way? 

is he protective, but not overly jealous?

does already feel like your mentor?

does he try to better you?

do you see him as a man of wisdom or is he foolish in his life?

does he act, or react?

 

'willing to learn and try it out"... meh. you can't learn to be dominant, you either are or aren't. Being a dominant (and having wisdom) is core of being a DD.

[Guest MeneerM]

 

'willing to learn and try it out"... meh. you can't learn to be dominant, you either are or aren't. Being a dominant (and having wisdom) is core of being a DD.

 

Dominance is behavior, and behavior doesn't come natural it is learned! 

 

So off course you can learn Daddy skills if you want to! Some are more natural in acquiring the skills needed, others need some more practice. So no worries!

[Guest blumonkey]

being dominant is majorly innate. what is learned is where one falls in the dominance/subordinate hierarchy and how one uses their dominance/submissiveness (behavior). one can learn to mimic dominant behavior (behavior = innate + learned) without being innately dominant, so I guess you have a point.

 

I suppose as long as a daddy is less submissive than his little, may be good enough.

 

I can't fathom being submissive. I could mimic submissive behavior, but inside... it will go against the grain of who I am and would feel fake to me.

 

and yes anyone can learn Daddy skills.

[Guest MeneerM]

I suppose as long as a daddy is less submissive than his little, may be good enough.

I guess you are right here the Dominance is relative to the submissive partner.

 

I can't fathom being submissive. I could mimic submissive behavior, but inside... it will go against the grain of who I am and would feel fake to me.

I sure will to someone with a dominant mindset like we do