Daddy problems....

[liitlegirl1212]

Hi,

 

Well I don't really know how to talk about this or say it but something happened tonight and it didn't make me feel good.

 

I told Daddy that I was sad and I was scared I might do a bad thing and he said that I always say that I'm going to do something bad or might do something bad, it hurt when he said that because I never tell him that I keep it to myself. I told him one other time this week because I'm going through bad stuff and I tried to be grown up and told myself that I had to tell him when I feel like that so he can help but he said that when I told him...

 

The way I see it he meant that I just tell him that for attention but I tell him because I need his help. In response to what he said I told him how I thought he didn't take it seriously.

 

I think that Daddy is going to leave me soon. I'm too much of a problem and our relationship is complicated, it's my fault that it is complicated too. He said that it was my fault that we have all the problems and fights in the relationship a little over a week ago. That hurt too...

 

We are very long distance and we only talk through texting, I really do try to answer his calls and call him but when he calls my hands shake and I have a panic attack. I send him pictures but I don't like the way I look at all so sometimes I don't send when he asks for them and there's a lot more to the story. It is my fault and I don't know what to do about it I'm trying not to be a problem but I'm just so sad...

Edited April 21, 2017 by liitlegirl1212

[BabySwe]

I'm sorry, but it doesnt sound like it is a good relationship for you to be in it is always wrong of a person to say "it is your fault that we have all the problems". It doesn't sound like he is very understanding. I think you did good telling him how you felt, but maybe he just wasn't able to handle it properly. Not everyone is great at handling hard things, but it is still important and good of you to reach out and try I think that if you feel so bad you might do something very bad, you need to call a helpline or get help in some other way, so you can talk to someone a little bit more understanding I understand that it's hard. We all want our daddies to be perfect, but some things are hard to carry alone, and it does sound like he doesn't make you feel good, and then maybe he isn't right for you  

[Guest]

Well if you are fearing for your own safety and you feel you will "do something bad" it maybe time to reach out for professional help. You can not always lean on those close to you (it sucks and it's sad but it may end too much for them. It's not your fault it's not their fault.) My best advice would be to start seeking professional help. I know it's not easy but it will be for your best interest.

 

If your dealing with depression and fear you should have someone that can help you.

Edited April 21, 2017 by Guest

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

gonna have to second babydoll here.

 

what you're describing sounds like you need professional assistance on dealing

with your issues. and like said above, not everyone is equipped to deal with things

like other people's mental illnesses and that's okay. it takes all types of people to

make up this world. you seem like you're well aware that you have issues that 

need to be addressed and it's clear that it's seeping into your relationship. frequent

fighting can lead to unnecessary stress, depression, anxiety, and can even cause a

couple to split up. i'm not placing blame on anyone, this is just my viewpoint from the

information you gave me.

 

relationships are sometimes hard, factoring in things such as mental health, untreated

or otherwise, can make it even more so. you both need to be considerate of one another,

both with the issues you're dealing with and how he feels when he's dealing with them

and vice versa. being a daddy can be hard work. that being said, it doesn't excuse saying

hurtful things to you but did you tell him that it hurt you? did you tell him how it made you

feel? 

 

another suggestion would be not to assume the meaning behind his words and instead

ask, it's better reassurance than sitting around and feeling bad over something and 

makes things easier on you and your SO. communication is everything, more so when

you're in the type of dynamic you are. 

 

and last, just want to remind people that there are two sides to every single story and 

what we have here is one of two sides.

Edited April 21, 2017 by Candy Minx ♡

[Himedere-Chan]

I had a partner who was possibly depressed and mentioned it to me often, I would be gone for a couple hours and they'd cling to me the moment I get back stating they were lonely or sad without me, it annoyed me, and I hated that it annoyed me, I felt horrible about my thoughts to the point I got stressed and a bit sad myself. Eventually it became too much for me to handle, I wasn't strong enough to help them and I was sorry for it, I'm still sorry to this day. I ended the relationship and they got even more depressed and attached to me, messaging me every day and night. They stopped a year later when I told them it's over again. They're doing fine now from what I've seen, nothing about self harm or anything which made me feel at peace.


As pointless as my story may seem (to me even) I hope it helps.

[Guest daddysbunnygirl]

I won't tell you to seek professional help asap because it sounds like you're already trying to reach out for help and support from those who care about you or are supposed to care about you. that alone is already hard enough. you shouldn't have to keep it to yourself. obviously, if you feel that your mental health is making it hard for you to maintain healthy relationships with your friends and family or others, or that you're a danger to yourself then yes getting the help you need is the best thing to do. 

 

based on what you said, i feel that you're both unhappy in this relationship. it's not healthy to place the blame on the other when the relationship isn't going well, he also doesn't seem very supportive. not ALL daddies 'work so hard' not ALL daddies are good, and he's not doing a very good job at making you feel safe and cared for. instead, he's treating you like a burden he can't deal with. it's not easy to deal with mental illness or to help someone with a mental illness, but someone who truly loved and cared about you would do their best to be there for you.

[liitlegirl1212]

Edited April 22, 2017 by liitlegirl1212

[liitlegirl1212]

Thank you all for your help I really appreciate it ❤️