Not sure how to tell Daddy

[Guest ZuZu420]

I need help finding a way to express myself in a healthy way to let Daddy know something is kinda bothering me but I'm not sure how to say it so it doesn't just sound like I'm being a brat...I dont wanna say what it is here cuz I dont want tooany of the same answer, plus then Daddy would see this and know before I even get to talk to him..hopefully me asking for help like this won't upset him..I'm just really not sure how to say something without it coming out wrong

[PrincessoftheMoon]

Sometimes writing it can be easier than saying it, if that helps you. Maybe write him a letter.

[OmegaPeckinpah]

I second the idea for a letter. If anything was ever bothering my little, no matter how "bratty" or "annoying" it may seem, I would always want her to talk to me about it. I'm sure your Daddy feels the same way. Maybe you can try telling him in a text?

[Guest QueenJellybean]

I am a huge advocate of a Worry Book, which is essentially writing a letter, but then keeping all those letters in one place and using the same place to continue adding onto whenever you need to talk. It can be a great way to get things out. 

[Guest ZuZu420]

Thank you for the ideas..I think I might look into the worry book idea..and maybe do a positive book too cuz I get off balance mentally if I dont have something to help me see the good things too...not just my worries and insecurities

[alotalittle]

Like the others have said, writing it out can oftentimes be much easier. My partner and I live together, but we usually message each other throughout the day. If something is bothering me or if I want to talk about something serious, I write it out in a message and send it to him. This gives him more time to think about what I've said and he can choose whether he would prefer to message me back or talk about it in person. Not every conversation has to happen face to face and, for us, it's super helpful to have extra time to process what's being said and decide how we would like to respond. 

 

Additionally, phrasing can be very important. When I bring something up that's been bothering me, I do my best to keep the focus on what I'm feeling and why I'm feeling it without placing blame or being accusatory. If possible, I try to list some solutions to the problem as well just as suggestions so my partner doesn't feel like he's responsible for fixing everything. We're a team and we need to fix things as a team. I try to never say things like "You've been doing this and it makes me feel this way" or "Because of you/your actions, I feel this way". Avoiding "you" phrases really helps keep either of us from feeling defensive. 

 

Good luck on your conversation! I hope it all goes well and you both can figure out how to work through whatever's bothering you

[DeathMetalPrincess]

I agree whole-heartedly with the idea of writing to him to explain it all. Writing is a rather effective way to not only communicate, but organize your thoughts. My suggestion is to take all the time you need when writing the letter - or whatever form of expression you feel is best - and when you're ready, present it to him. I'm sure he will understand once it's all laid out in front of him.

[ThePrincessMinMin]

I can relate! Personality wise, I'm very shy (and that's an understatement) but especially when talking to guys. Like others have said however, communication is key in relationship especially in the ddlg dynamic. In harmony with other responses, I'm a firm believer on writing out my feelings as it may be more comfortable to do so. Perhaps after writing, leave it somewhere where he could easily find it or read it so he would be aware of your feelings and probably make it so he can approach you about it so you guys can talk things out. Also in the letter, freely express your feelings, tell him why you feel the way you feel.

[Rantanplan]

Write it up. But address it properly. Eg. use an envelope with 'to Daddy' on it.

I would not read it otherwise. I respect the privacy of others and when it is not obviously addressed to me then I don't read it.

[Daddy's_Babygirl]

I am a huge advocate of a Worry Book, which is essentially writing a letter, but then keeping all those letters in one place and using the same place to continue adding onto whenever you need to talk. It can be a great way to get things out.

Oh my goodness I LOVE this idea! Being a pleaser with anxiety, communication of negatives is a HUGE focus area for me. This is wonderful!