Need help/advice/daddy

[Karebear22]

So I am 22 I just discovered about ddlg this week. Everything I have read seems perfect for me and it's like I found a piece of myself that was missing. I'm always coloring in class and I wear my onsies everywhere and I have no shame dragging my studies wherever I go among many other things that fit littles personalities. This world just seems to fit the lifestyle I am already leaning towards. But I am extremely shy, I've tried to make profiles on websites to get more involved in the community but I am so nervous and scared about people judging me and being so public about it. I'm scared because of my shyness I will never be able to find a daddy or someone to care for me. I just need any advice people can give me Edited April 19, 2017 by Karebear22

[Guest]

Well we are all a little shy and unsure of ourselves​ at first when learning about new things. (Which is fine and normal!) Just take things slowly and be yourself. There are all kinds of daddies and caregivers out there, that would love to have a shy little.

 

Just keep an open mind (I am sure you know that already though) and go with the flow. No need to rush, just take things as they come and make yourself comfortable and the right person will come along and see you for the awesome little you are.

 

Don't be afraid to ask for help and don't be afraid to make mistakes. You are still new and learning and only human.

[PrincessoftheMoon]

Hi!~ I'm new here and new to this whole ddlg lifestyle, it's actually my first time joining a community like this and everyone has been very nice to me. It's nice to be able to go to a space and be little with other people who feel the same way I do and I hope to make amazing friendships. So I know you might be nervous but look at you! You came, you posted, you're already doing it so be proud of yourself. And if you need to, one step at a time, you don't have to throw your whole self into something if it makes you uncomfortable. I'm pretty shy and a nervous person myself and what helps me is I don't out right use my real name. It might be silly but for me, it helps to use a nickname first until I'm comfortable and know I am safe with the people around me, so for right now I'm Honey until I'm okay telling people more. Anyway, hi and welcome. I hope you enjoy your time here.

[Daddybloo]

I'm a fairly new daddy and i don't know all that's ment to be but I've been an amazing uncle/godfather (according to what my godkids say) and I find looking after a little just as easy so I wouldn't worry to much..things always take time and i found a little to look after in a close friend you never know where you silly amazing other may come from x

[Princess-P]

My advice is to learn everything you can about yourself. Don't worry about seeking a caregiver at this time. Every single relationship will be different and its important to know what you would like to have included in yours before you get involved with someone who may be looking for something completely different. Know what you have to offer and what you expect in return.

 

Also knowing more about yourself will prepare you for being able to take care of your own little self. Being a self involved little is important. You may not find a caregiver who is right for you for a long time. You may also fall in love with someone who doesn't participate in this dynamic. So being able to be little on your own is very important. It also helps with not being too needy or putting too much pressure on your partner when you find one.

 

Being shy is fine, people can have anxieties about new things. Don't worry about people judging you because when you don't have any type of relationship with someone their opinion of you really doesn't matter. But I would also point out that rubbing your alternative lifestyle/kink in peoples faces is not recommended. If someone didn't consent to being involved in your dynamic don't force them to be by flaunting it in their face. Respect peoples comfort level.

 

Don't compare yourself to other littles. That's a huge thing. There is no typical "little things". Each person is little in their own way. You don't have to like cartoons, stuffies, pacifiers, have rules, talk like a little kid... To each their own. You also don't have to look a certain way. Here you will see a lot of posts about "am I too old/fat/wrong race/whatever" that's just insecurities talking. Everyone one has preferences and that's more than fine. People are entitled to have a type, and not everyone is attracted to the same thing.

 

And lastly try to remember That even though you have found this dynamic it is not your only option for a partner. Many people have CG/l tendencies but have never even heard of this dynamic. They are just out there living their vanilla lives, maybe they are on regular dating sites like POF or whatever, maybe you work or go to school with them. So don't get too caught up looking for a title. Look for a connection when the time is right. and if you meet someone who has no idea what your talking about when you mention CG/l don't be afraid to explain what you want from them.