Let's Give Newbies a Break :)

[DaddyRaven]

Hi guys and gals,

 

  I was chatting with a new Daddy last night and he's still learning the ropes, so to speak, of being a Daddy and I won't get into particulars because that'd be wrong but it did spark an idea for this topic. 

  Many who are new- whether they're Littles, Daddies, Mommies, what ever the moniker, have a lot of questions and are afraid to ask them because they think they might come off as being silly, just getting into this for the titles or any number of other reasons so they put a lot of pressure on themselves and each other to do things right, right from the start. But the kick of it is, it's not like you can take classes in being a caregiver or a Little; it's trial and error, learning what each other likes, what each other doesn't like, experiencing new things, trying new things to bring new dynamics into the relationship.  All of this is a very daunting task. Add to that daily life, family, friends, work and it can put a lot of pressure on both parties that are honestly unfair.  This is where communication is an absolute MUST. Don't be afraid to sit down with each other, tell each other what you do and don't like, why you might not be as into the dynamic on a particular day or week as you normally would like to be- because of work, stress, family life, whatever the case might be.  Work on finding solutions to those problems. Try not to judge the other person in the relationship and let them express themselves freely and openly and work on getting better.  

 You'l find that this will help you not only as a dd/lg couple but also as a loving partnership and it'll make your lives a great deal better as a whole  

 

I hope this helps some of you. Good day. 

[Mikaitaku]

I am going to assume that said person was being creepy in which case they should be be given a break, a warning from a mod perhaps but not a break. 

[Guest Candy Minx ♡]

I am going to assume that said person was being creepy in which case they should be be given a break, a warning from a mod perhaps but not a break.

 

Shouldn't assume anything as you could easily be wrong. Generally don't see what this has to do with the thread.

 

This place sometimes doesn't feel that easy to get into, despite all the pink and glitter it's still a pretty harsh and quick to judge and assume environment so often, yes, new people need not only a break but some kind of guidance. I wish there was some sort of section dedicated to offering the frequently asked questions so not only does it leave less repeated threads but could give a new person the knowledge and good feeling to join the rest of the site.

Edited April 19, 2017 by Candy Minx ♡

[Guest]

I agree people should totally be more understanding and helpful when someone is new. Sometimes things that are obvious to one person is not going to be obvious to someone else, and people forget that sometimes. I think a lot of the topics new people ask have been discussed a few times and providing them with links to the topic where it's been talked about is helpful as well as giving them your options on the issue at hand. Being a butt to new people definitely won't get anything solved. Edited April 19, 2017 by Guest

[Guest]

Shouldn't assume anything as you could easily be wrong. Generally don't see what this has to do with the thread.

This place sometimes doesn't feel that easy to get into, despite all the pink and glitter it's still a pretty harsh and quick to judge and assume environment so often, yes, new people need not only a break but some kind of guidance. I wish there was some sort of section dedicated to offering the frequently asked questions so not only does it leave less repeated threads but could give a new person the knowledge and good feeling to join the rest of the site.

Well there is the very helpful resource topic area which gives lots of helpful information to new people. There are a number of topics covered there. It could definitely be expanded I am sure.

Maybe something you could bring up in the suggestion and feedback area.

[DaddyRaven]

yea not talking about being creepy in the group; I mean in the person's dd/lg relationship, so that both parties give each other time to learn the dynamics without too much pressure of getting it all right.  Maybe the title confused some? 

[DaddyRaven]

I am going to assume that said person was being creepy in which case they should be be given a break, a warning from a mod perhaps but not a break. 

never assume I was just talking about the person's own relationship situation, nothing to do with the group per se; just to help out those who are new to the dd/lg dynamics to take some of the pressure off themselves. 

[Leo_Ascendent]

Simple lesson, everyone starts out new to everything. You're not born skilled in anything, and reading about something only gets you so far.

[DaddyRaven]

Simple lesson, everyone starts out new to everything. You're not born skilled in anything, and reading about something only gets you so far.

exactly Leo